You guys are young so this is going be an issue for everybody here, who's young.
Why is it an issue?
people say "Kaam (lust) is so hard.
It's so crazy when I'm young.
When at this teenage."
The only reason is crazy right now, it's because you just now found out about it.
You've never experienced this before.
See when we are children growing up,
Kaam is like what's that all about?
Suddenly, you hit teenage-hood, bang! Something new comes inside your body.
All right, what's this stuff?
So it's like a crazy new emotion we have to learn to understand.
Greed we have since we're babies.
Babies are greedy for milk, they want more.
We know about greed.
We learn to control our greed little bit.
We learn to control our attachment little bit these things.
But Kaam just now is new into the body in teenage-hood.
So it's something new to us.
When you get to 30 - 40 that's something that you learnt to live with
because you've lived with it for 25 years.
But at this time you just had like a couple years and to learn to deal with it.
You haven't yet sort of started to bring it into control.
So this time Maharaj says "This is the wrong time to even indulge Kaam"
Because you haven't learnt how to deal with it.
The problem is the world is trying to introduce Kaam to us very young.
Yeah, so this is a big problem for youth.
They think should I indulge this desire with me or not?
What Maharaj is telling us is not outside marriage.
Because in marriage, it has a 'Sanjam'.
It is some kind of like thing to give it a boundary.
Yeah, it's within some kind of 'Rehit'.
Like at this age if we start to go into boyfriend/girlfriend stuff.
Then there's no restriction.
We have real problems.
So Maharaj is telling us that in Sikhi, there is no boyfriend/girlfriend stuff.
I have to make this clear sometimes because maybe they don't know what is the view.
In Sikhi there's no such thing like dating
If somebody is of a suitable age to get married,
to get married, not just to date,
to get married.
Then we might look at partners that are suitable for... Marriage.
Not just to mess about with.
To marry.
So you have 'A' looking to get married and is of the right age to get married
and 'B' is looking to get married and the right age to get married.
Now they have a... What do they have?
Rishta
Not a dating.
Not a dating relationship.
They get a "Rishta", they get engaged.
Now everybody knows these two are gonna get married,
Now they get spend time together, but not break their 'Rehit'.
But opposite is happening nowadays.
'A' is not ready to get married, doesn't want to get married.
'B' is not interested in getting married, is not of the right age to get married
and then they're going out with each other and the parents don't know
and there's no societal... knowledge about it.
That's pure 'Kaljug'.
That's purely outside of Sikhi.
We allowed ourselves to behave in an uncontrolled manner.
The control was always there. We give ourselves excuses,
"I had no control!"
All these people that say "Oh lust!".
You know the 'mundde' at this age.
This is the time when they start looking at the wrong thing on internet.
This is a wrong time.
It's like they say, "I had no control couldn't help".
Of course you have control. It is your hand!
It was your hand going over the mouse. No?
People excused themselves of all this 'Gand' because they say I had no control.
But reality is that we always have control.
Don't say I had no control.
Understand we came under the fire of these things and we let them overpower us.
There is a purpose to 'Kaam' and the purpose is within marriage.
Outside of marriage there is no purpose to it.
It's just a disease then.
Even when you go to doctor to get a cure,
sometimes they give you a disease.
But that used disease is like a weakened form of that disease and it helps you to cope with the big thing.
So everything has a purpose and 'Kaam' is only for marriage.
It is not for outside marriage.
Okay, so and
This is like a fire!
Anybody who's been through 'Kaam' knows it's like a fire and it burns.
And we feel attacked by it.
Maharaj says
At that moment if we take that energy and we take it from that fire,
and bring it into Naam and control it.
Then it gives, the 'Naam' will cool us down like almost they say,
"Have a cold shower".
Have a shower of 'Naam', so it's a cold shower.
Have a shower of 'Naam' at that time.
That will help you to control this
It's not that, you're not meant to have 'Kaam'.
It's meant to be there, but not before marriage.