You are going to totally recognize these when I tell you,
How a narcissist texts? What can you do about it?
How can you responde when you get
these crazy texts from these narcissists?
Definitely don't want to miss this,
because this is survival.
You do not wanna miss this,
you do not wanna miss one single second of this video.
So, when I tell you all of this,
you will not be surprised, but you will recognize these.
I'm gonna give you 6 ways in which narcissists text,
then, I'm gonna give you 5 ways to respond to them.
6 ways that they text and then 5 ways to respond.
They blow up your phone,
they do this when they’re love bombing you at the beginning,
or when you try to block them,
or when you try to ghost them,
or when you're trying to put boundaries in place,
or when you're busy, you're at work.
They know for sure you're in a meeting,
they know for sure you're trying to do something,
this is when they try to go insane on you and
bombard you, “I need attention, me”.
This is the one type of text that they do,
just flood you, flood you, flood you with everything,
“I need attention, I need it now”.
“I love you,” “I love you”,
“You’re amazing, you’re the moon to my stars”,
the most incredible person I've ever met, my lost soul mate.
Even if it's a business relationship,
“I can't believe that we hadn't found each other before”,
“This is gonna be the most incredible thing ever”,
absolutely intense, intense, intense,
like you really almost can't even breathe,
because it's just all the time, intense proclamations all the time,
like, it's blowing up your phone with these,
but they're also telling everybody else in the world and
their writing is high constantly and
they do this at the beginning of the relationship,
but also when they're maybe trying to get you back,
or when they are trying to future fake you,
because maybe they did something wrong and
they're trying to get you to see
how amazing the future is gonna be and
get you not to be thinking about
what they might have done in the past.
Let's just think about how amazing the future is gonna be,
they're gonna be the new version of themselves and
everything's gonna be roses, rainbows, unicorns, you will see.
So, that's the second type of text that you might see.
Sometimes you will get sort of as a hoover,
maybe you haven't seen them in a while and
something might pop up in your inbox or texts,
saying “Oh, got the test results from my cancer screening”,
“Oops, was that to you? Sorry, that wasn't meant for you”,
then, of course, you're gonna go,
“What's going on?”
“Oh, nothing, wasn't for you, I'm fine”.
They want you to be like,
“Oh, what's going on?”
So that they can paint themselves sort of as the victim,
“I know you don't care about me” and
sort of like this vague sort of nothing,
because they want you to kind of go running after them,
scampering after them and
maybe go ask their friends what's going on with them,
or their family and create all of that around them.
“Who do you think you are?”
“You’re this, you're that”,
this is the put down kind of texts.
“You are disgusting, you're this, you're that”,
this is the I'm in vicious sort of mode,
the guilt trip, the gross, vile, disgusting,
right to the point, those kinds of texts.
You'll see those kinds of texts,
especially if they're angry, or in rage mode,
if they are in devalue mode,
you guys are in the final phases of the relationship,
that's the next kind of text that you will see.
The no nonsense straight to the point,
you don't have to, like, guess what it is
that's going on with them at that point.
Straight to the point, angry, rage, demanding, controlling,
right to the point, kinds of texts.
They are in crisis, they are in drama,
something's going on with them,
this is not the vague ones of,
“Oh, I got my cancer screening one”,
this is like my life is in crisis, I am in drama,
you must come running, you must come now,
you must pay attention to me, something is going on,
you must drop everything, come pay attention to me,
be part of my crisis right now.
Whatever you've got going on,
is definitely not as important as what I have going on right now.
So, they're all, pay attention to me, me.
Those are the 6 main types of texts
that you will see from a narcissist.
If you guys have seen any other kinds of texts,
let me know, I would love to know what other kinds of texts
you guys have seen from narcissist.
But, what can you do about it? What can you do about it?
This is not okay, here are my limitations and
here's the way that you are allowed to communicate with me.
I always say one form of communication,
I definitely recommend it be some kind of email,
or if you have children, maybe a court approved app,
or something like that,
because you want it to be something,
where there's a time and date stamp, it can't be altered,
because narcissists do that sort of thing, right?
I do have a whole video with tactics
to put a narcissist into place and
I highly recommend you check out that video.
Maybe just pick and choose,
Do I wanna respond to this one?
Do I wanna respond to that one?
Decide, maybe I will respond to this one,
maybe I don't need to respond to that one.
Remember, every text, email, is a potential trial exhibit.
So, do not get into long serious things in text or email,
do not defend yourself, stop defending yourself.
I have a whole video on that, don't defend yourself,
definitely check that out.
The minute you start defending yourself,
you're agreeing that there's an issue.
Instead, stand in your power.
Don't get sucked in to that emotional thing,
don't allow them to trigger you.
Because as soon as you do,
as soon as they suck you into their games,
their gaslighting, that whole thing,
then, they know that they have you, right?
That gives them narcissistic supply,
potentially they use whatever your emotional reaction is against you,
then they have something to potentially use against you and
as long as they're getting narcissistic supply,
they will never ever leave you alone because that's their food,
their lifeblood, their oxygen,
so, just don't get dragged into the mud.
Stay away, Block them.
That's the best way, if you can, alright?
Just don't get into texting with them at all.
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