HOW TO IMPRESS A GIRL Matt: Hey guys I'm in havana cuba today wearing my havana hat and i'm wondering..
have you ever liked a girl and wondered how can you make her like you back or what can you say to get her so
hooked on you if yes then listen to what i'm about to tell you especially the
last point because i'm going to help you get her so
impressed with you that next time you'll be looking for a video called how to
make her stop being so clingy my name is matt artisan from the attractive man and
this is five ways to impress a girl
so we're waiting for our tour guide to go to another city
near havana to check out some caves and some cool stuff
yesterday they were 25 minutes early today so far they're an hour late so
we've been told a few times that nothing in cuba
is normal everything's like a little crazy
for example we don't have any water left and i asked the guy at the hotel if we
can get some more water he said well the stores might not have any water
this is something they deal with on a daily basis just normal things like
water are sometimes hard to find here so basically to summarize communism
sucks but anyways let's start with number five which
might sound a little controversial number five is don't
try to impress her so you watch a video because you want to
impress a woman but that's your biggest mistake right there
because having the mindset that you need to impress her
and win her over it creates the dynamic that she is above you and that you're so
far beneath her so you need to do all these things to impress her so that
she'll notice you and that mindset is not impressive women
will rarely date down because they want a man
who is equal or even preferably higher status than themselves
and i made an entire video of how to be a high status man that
women will love and i'll put a link to that down in the
description definitely watch it but when you have the mindset that you need to
try to impress her or win her over you're presupposing that you're just not
good enough just the way you are and that you need
to do what you think she wants you to do and say what you think she wants you to
say essentially you're trying to mold
yourself into what you think she wants you to be
thus you are being fake it's like putting on a mask and pretending
in order to get a reaction from her and this never impresses a woman and they
can smell this type of fake charade from a mile away instead of trying to
impress her i want you to ask yourself how would i
act around her if i was my most authentic self
and also how would you act if you didn't need to try to impress her
and she already liked you all right we're ready for our tour
how's it going
we're finally on our way to vinales cuba which apparently
is one of the most beautiful cities in the world for some horseback riding
and going into some caves pretty excited and i have a feeling you're watching
this video because you want some easy line or routine to impress women but
here's the deal that doesn't work really well trust me i've tried it
and you might get some short term results or reactions
but what it really comes down to is turning yourself into the kind of man
who is impressive that you're impressed by yourself
and of course in return women will also be impressed by you
so number four is courage because women find courageous men
very attractive that's why they're often impressed by a man in police
firemen or military uniform because they represent
courage but the good news is you don't have to be a cop
or risk your life or slay a dragon or anything like that for her
you can show courage just by having the balls to talk to her
in a confident way like we show you on this channel
so make sure to subscribe to this channel but just
walk up to her look her in her eyes and hold that eye contact while you
smile and extend your hand and introduce yourself in a confident
way that shows courage and shows that you are not
afraid of her because if you are afraid of her that's really unattractive
but then you can step into that tension because of course
going up to any stranger especially a beautiful woman in that type of
situation there's gonna be some tension but while
you can be grounded calm in that tension that's gonna make
her very attracted to you and you might not always feel like doing
it you might feel scared out of your mind that it will go
horribly wrong but taking action overcomes fear
if you can't get yourself to take action then this is the question you should ask
yourself what's the worst thing that can happen
i'll tell you what you'll walk away from her either with a
phone number maybe even an instant date or at a minimum you'll
learn something you'll have a learning experience
and you'll feel pride because at least you did it
it's a win-win no matter what because those worst case scenarios
where you're mortified and every everyone around you is laughing at you
are almost non-existent in fact after approaching
somewhere between 5 000 and 10 000 women in the past 10 years
it's only happened one time where in japan i approached a beautiful woman
i gave the compliment and right after her husband walked up with the baby in
the stroller and i walked away i said something like
oh your wife is very beautiful have an awesome day as i walked away i
could hear people laughing like the vendors
and maybe the couple were chuckling about it
and it was no big deal to me i was laughing too i thought it was
funny as well as one of my mentors would say you're
gonna have a great interaction or a funny story
so all the supermarkets are owned by the government pretty much everything is
owned by the government and there's just like rows of
random food like a whole row of condensed milk
and a whole row of jello so there's very little variety
our driver just gave us these little tiny
i guess this is it's candy baby spoon
now i'm full
we're at a rome honey and coffee factory in vanillas
cuba and i'll show you around in just a second
but number three is stand up for yourself because a lot of men cannot
earn or keep the respect of the woman that
they're attracted to or that they're going out with because
they do not stand out for themselves they let their boundaries be pushed or
walked over under the guise of keeping the peace
with the girl for example she might be looking at her
phone all the time when you're talking to her and she's not
paying attention to what you're saying on maybe the first or second date and if
you're okay with that then fine don't call her out on it but if
you're getting aggravated or frustrated when she
does it and you just decide to keep the peace then she will sense it and she
will lose respect for you and she'll probably test
your boundaries even more because she wants to see that
you're a strong man who won't let people walk
all over what he values and it's not even really her
fault you just didn't set the boundaries of what is permissible with you
and if nobody else ever told her not to do that bad behavior which
most likely is the case then she won't know that it's not okay
this is a great opportunity for you to show her how to respect you and what is
okay and what's not okay around you but the more you passively allow bad
behavior the more she's going to push your boundaries because she's not
feeling safe around you and it's just a call for help from her it's like her
saying i need to see that you are a strong man
who won't let me or anybody else for that matter
walk all over him and if you can't even stand them to her
how can you stand up to someone bigger and tougher
in order to keep her safe so if a girl is pushing your boundaries and you avoid
confrontation by being silent and non-confrontational
you lose respect and she will walk all over you every single time
until she just loses interest and attraction
and leaves you so tell her calmly but firmly
that this is not okay behavior the first time that she does it
it's about being honest while applying empathy
and staying grounded and calm at the same time being able to walk away
willing to walk away at any time and that will have her melting for you
and respecting you a lot more and it'll make her feel like
a woman and it'll show her that you are a strong
confident man
we're at a tobacco field here in banalas where they make cuban cigars amanda
rener here is going to show us how to roll
a real cuban cigar
you can see the tobacco leaves behind me that are drying there
and here's the deal man a woman is impressed by a guy who has
other things going on in his life other than her
when you have a purpose other than your woman or women in general
it shows her that you're not you know 100 obsessed
with her and that you don't get your value from her
which is impressive because a lot of guys are really needy
which turns women off more than anything else
and it can show her that you have high potential for success
and finally when you have a direction for your life and you're doing what you
love or you're on a path to doing it you will have a positive
energy you'll be speaking with enthusiasm and passion in your voice
because you're excited about life and you just can't
wait to wake up every single morning and get to work and
be on purpose and work towards your goals and that kind of energy is
absolutely contagious and people especially women will want to
be around you because they want to feel that energy and excitement
for example when i used to play in a rock band we did not make
a lot of money i'll be honest with you but a lot
i was able to attract a lot of women because they'd see me on stage
not only does that look cool in high status high value
but it also showed that i have direction i have drive i have enthusiasm
i'm working for something and i have potential for success
in spanish
finally one of my favorites to get a woman to be impressed by
you ironically is get her to impress you think about the law of scarcity
we value what is scarce what is hard to find such as
diamonds gold precious metals and we don't value what is common or easy to
acquire such as water even though we will die if we
don't drink it after what three hours three days i
believe it is so if you can be the kind of man that is
rare the kind of man that embodies all the
attractive qualities that we teach you on this channel
as well as be a challenge show her that you have other options that you're
willing to walk away if she doesn't have the values
that you share or she doesn't you know she
crosses your boundaries too many times even though it's counterintuitive that
will actually impress her when you're a challenge
when she sees that you have other options when you have standards for the
people in your life and the women that you date
she will see that you know so many women must be attracted to you
and she'll want you even more and of course it becomes a self-fulfilling
prophecy as you keep learning the things that we teach you in our boot
camps or on this channel you get more and more dating options
which makes you no longer needy and she can
just feel that you're the type of guy that
can that has options she can sense it women are
so intuitive women are so intuitive they can
sense whether you're a guy who has no options
and you're desperate or you're the type of guy who
you know whether you date a lot of women or you just have a lot of options
she can tell if you're truly an attractive man or not
and if you want to know exactly what to say to show her that you're a challenge
while also embodying the type of mindset that it takes to actually be a challenge
because it's not about just saying one line and she's like oh this guy's a
challenge it's about actually being a challenge to
your core that you know that you are an awesome guy you're a
high status guy you're confident you have all these good
qualities about yourself and you know that you can date attract a
high quality high caliber woman but at the same time i'll show you some
things that you can say to help you embody those things and next
time you see a beautiful woman get her to start chasing you
download the free conversation cheat sheet i'll put a link
on the right of the screen at the end of this video so make sure to download it
man because it really will help you not only know what to say
in certain situations but also show her that you're a challenge and get her to
start chasing you also make sure to check out
our boot camp schedule because we're all over the world
not only cuba but i've been to 79 countries now
and i've taught boot camps in over 40 of them
so chances are we're coming to a city or a country
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the attractive man with the beautiful jen mijatas coming at
you from cuba and we'll see on the next video