Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we will learn about ten signs of a fake alpha male.
Now, let’s begin What qualities define a real alpha male?
Is it their physical size or financial resources? Is it pride, aggression, or sky-high self-esteem?
These qualities are commonly associated with alpha male stereotypes, but they’re not actually traits
of today’s successful and attractive alpha males. Twenty or thirty years ago, an alpha male was more
aggressive, egotistical, and proud. We looked up to men who picked fights and put others down. We
admired the loudest voices and the biggest egos, but in recent years the ideal qualities of an
alpha male have shifted. As a result, people have lost respect for aggressive, overconfident men.
In the workplace, for example, more male leaders are shifting away from traditional power
hierarchies and finding better ways to lead and inspire. What many people don’t understand is that
the qualities of an alpha male aren’t concrete or timeless. Being an alpha male isn’t a personality
type, like an introvert or an extrovert. It’s something you become by exhibiting respectable
social and psychological traits. In other words, the word alpha corresponds to socially successful
individuals, but social success doesn’t look the same in every context or time period.
Today’s alpha males are successful amongst their peers and embody qualities that we as
a society like and respect. No longer are they bold, brash, and reckless individuals
who disregard the needs of others. This may have worked in the past, but today’s alpha
male has a different set of priorities, like ambition, humility, and emotional intelligence.
Even though alpha personalities have changed, there are still many men clinging to the old
ways and misunderstanding what it means to be socially successful. These fake alpha males
are known for puffing out their chests, raising their voices, and bullying others to prove their
masculinity, status, or strength. They may call themselves alpha males, but they don’t think,
feel, or behave like people we respect. Luckily, it’s easy to tell the difference
between these two types of men. So, don’t be fooled. If you want to separate the real
alphas from the look-alikes and imposters, pay attention to these 10 signs that you’re dealing
with a fake alpha male. 1. False Advertising
Every fake alpha male has something to prove. They want the world to validate them as strong alpha
personalities, so they make a habit of advertising what they believe to be their best qualities.
For example, you might hear a fake alpha male giving themselves a long list of
compliments. They tell their friends and partners how charming, intelligent,
and handsome they are. They compare themselves to celebrities or famous people throughout
history. You may even catch them saying something like, “You’re lucky to have a friend like me.”
A true alpha male doesn’t need to advertise their best qualities, because everyone knows
how charming and intelligent they are. They become confident, dominant personalities,
not because they advertise their strengths, but because their behavior speaks for itself.
2. The Illusion of Superiority A fake alpha male walks around
with his head high and his ego inflated. He pursues the most beautiful women,
goes after the most exclusive jobs, and demands other people’s respect because he believes
that he deserves more than anyone else. This illusion of superiority separates
real alpha males from insecure imposters. Real alphas do not see themselves as better
than or superior to anyone. They don’t belittle other men, talk down to women,
or expect special treatment in the workplace. On the other hand, fake alpha males get angry
at anyone who doesn’t give them the special treatment they think they deserve. For example,
he may lash out at a beautiful woman who rejects his advances. A fake alpha male
thinks of himself as a perfect specimen, and he becomes aggressive toward anyone who disagrees.
3. A Fear of Unmasking Underneath a fake alpha male's tough,
arrogant exterior is a deep fear that other people will discover how insecure and shallow he really
is. In psychology, we sometimes call this a fear of unmasking. A fake alpha male is fragile and
vulnerable on the inside, so they exaggerate their external qualities to protect their emotions.
For example, many fake alpha males equate dominance and respect to financial luxury.
They spend astonishing amounts of money on brand-name clothes, luxury sports cars, and
other materials that communicate wealth and power. But underneath their shiny, overpriced facade is
a vulnerable and often immature person who is afraid of showing a deeper side of themselves.
4. Toxic Humility Fake alphas constantly draw attention to
themselves. They want to be looked at, talked about, and admired. They want other people to
give them compliments and boost their egos. So, they use a variety of manipulative social tricks
to steal the spotlight as often as possible. Perhaps the most frustrating of these tricks
is called humblebragging. On the surface, a humblebrag seems like a humble or self-deprecating
statement. In reality, it’s just another way to brag about your strengths and achievements.
Humblebragging can be even more irritating than outright boasting,
and it screams to the people around you that you need attention and validation. If you know
someone who pretends to be humble but is really a braggart, this person is likely a fake alpha male.
5. Abuse of Power Real and fake alpha
personalities act differently in positions of power. Genuine alpha males are natural leaders
who use kindness and encouragement to support their employees and cultivate mutual success.
Alpha males work hard to motivate and inspire others by activating their strengths and setting
a good example. When someone fails or makes a mistake, alpha leaders don’t
criticize or punish them. Instead, they encourage their followers or employees
to persevere because alpha males genuinely want the people in their life to succeed.
Fake alpha males often do the opposite. They abuse their power and look down on anyone of a
lower rank. Fake alphas find ways to expand the power gap between them and their subordinates.
They flaunt their titles, withhold encouragement, and sometimes bully the people underneath them.
Unlike natural alphas, who want to succeed as a team, fake alphas only care about themselves.
6. Relationship Hopping If someone is a fake alpha male, they may use
their relationship status as a social tool or a bragging right. They are always in a relationship
or searching for the next one because they may feel insecure about being single or alone.
Solitude seems like a sign of weakness for a fake alpha male, but alpha males know there’s
nothing wrong with being alone. Fake alphas might find more success in their relationships if they
spend a little time getting to know themselves. Being alone allows you to figure out what you
want for yourself and your relationship. As you come to understand your needs, you can
make changes and grow as an individual instead of rushing into another ill-fated relationship.
7. Emotional Emasculation Fake alpha males characterize emotions
as weaknesses, and they regularly criticize men who are sensitive and emotionally available.
They embrace the harmful stereotype that a man should always be stoic, rugged, and dominant.
But natural alphas know that true strength means accepting and embracing your vulnerabilities.
A confident and secure man expresses his feelings clearly and spends time reflecting on what those
feelings mean. He isn’t afraid to be emotional because he knows that expressing emotions is
healthy and empowering. Someone who suppresses may call themselves an alpha male, but the truth is
that they are struggling with deeper insecurities. 8. Reflections of Your Character
Do you know someone who refuses to take responsibility for their
mistakes? Fake alpha males are relentlessly stubborn. When they do something wrong,
they hardly ever accept responsibility for their failures. And they never apologize to
the people they’ve wronged. In most cases, a fake alpha male knows when he made a mistake,
but instead of apologizing, he passes the blame, acts like a victim, and protects his fragile ego.
Some insecure men go to great lengths to spin stories and conflicts in their favor.
They ignore facts, twist peoples’ words, and carelessly omit essential details,
so long as they can avoid responsibility for their failures. A real alpha male owns his mistakes
and sincerely apologizes for his failures because Making a mistake does not reflect your character.
On the other hand, avoiding responsibility shows precisely what kind of person you are.
9. The Source of Aggression In moments of conflict,
genuine alpha males maintain control of their emotions and calmly diffuse heated arguments.
He knows that no one is constructive when their emotions have taken hold, so he gives himself
and other people a chance to think clearly before progressing the situation further.
Fake alpha males are more emotional and impulsive. They view every conflict as a
challenge to their authority or social status. Instead of diffusing or neutralizing conflict,
fake alpha males let their emotions get the best of them. They pick fights with others and
demonstrate aggressive behavior, which they think proves their masculinity. But anger and aggression
are rarely ever the answer. 10. Stereotypical Titles
The most obvious sign that someone is not an alpha male… is their overuse of the term “alpha.” Fake
alphas habitually call themselves alpha males because they want other people to recognize their
dominance and leadership. They rely on titles and stereotypes to define their personalities because
they’re deeply insecure about who they are. If someone is an alpha male, they don’t
need to announce it to the world. A real alpha doesn’t use titles and stereotypes
because they carry any value. These men are comfortable and confident in themselves,
and that’s what makes them true alpha males. Thank you for watching TopThink and be
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