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So, you want to make a good first impression, huh?
Perhaps you're looking for a seductive and cool approach,
or maybe you just want your crush to like you.
Well, first impressions can make a difference.
According to a study published in the
journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science,
first impressions from a photograph of someone
can influence another's judgment of them
even after they've met.
So, how can you make your first impression
leave a lasting mark?
Nothing to fear.
In no time, you'll learn the psychological tricks
and seductive traits that will make your first impression
not only a good one, but a great one.
One.
Emotional responsiveness.
As shown by research, one of the most alluring traits
to bring out during a first impression
is that of emotional responsiveness.
It's how you respond to the negative emotions
that can set you apart from others.
Many partners want to see that you show concern
for their welfare.
Do you react well in emotionally distressing times?
If you make great eye contact, give good advice,
and comfort your partner for the benefit of their wellbeing,
they may just find that trait alone extremely attractive.
In a 2012 study conducted by researchers
Burnbaum and Reis,
subjects discussed a negative experience
with an unfamiliar participant of the opposite sex.
They then rated the partner's responsiveness
and their sexual desire for them.
Researchers found that responsive partners
were seen as more sexually desirable.
This was especially true for subjects
who were described as more comfortable with sexual intimacy.
Two.
Become more novel and mysterious.
Are you mysterious?
Many individuals love to explore
and be entertained by mystery.
Why do you think we're so addicted to mystery dramas
and seek out exciting new entertainment on the internet?
We're always looking for the next best thing
to draw our attention.
When someone possesses a trait of novelty,
many can be drawn to them.
How are you interesting and new?
Spice up your life with new destinations, hobbies,
and experiences,
then show your partner the many sides of you,
while also leaving the hint of mystery.
What could be next?
Three.
Wear red.
If you want to appear seductive and make a good impression,
wear red.
In an experiment conducted by researchers
Daniela Niesta Kayser, Andrew J. Elliott,
and Roger Feltman,
published in the European Journal of Social Psychology,
researchers found that men are more likely
to be attracted to the color red on women.
In the experiment,
men were tasked with asking women questions.
Some women were clothed in read, while others in green.
The men chose to ask the women in red
more amorous questions.
And in a second experiment,
men chose to sit closer to women in red
versus women in blue.
As the research paper states,
research shows for the first time
that color influences men's behavior toward women
in the romantic realm.
Color, specifically red,
appears to serve as a basic non-lexical prime
that can influence important reproduction-relevant behavior
in similar fashion across species.
Four.
Imagine them already liking you.
We tend to imagine the worst-case scenario
when meeting someone new and exciting.
Instead, flip it around.
If you imagine your date already liking you, you'll relax,
gain confidence, and reflect positive vibes.
You should give out good energy.
So if you're already anxious and worried,
ruminating about what could go wrong,
then that has a chance to give off negative energy.
Instead, treat them as a familiar person who likes you,
as long as you still keep it respectable.
Five.
Actively listen and make good eye contact.
One of the most important qualities in a partner,
someone who can actively listen.
This can be a very alluring trait.
Harvard researchers discovered
that taking the time to talk about yourself
can have many rewards.
In one of the five studies, subjects sat in an fMRI machine
and responded to questions
about either their own opinions on a subject or another's.
Regions of the brain associated with reward and motivation
were most active
while talking about their own thoughts on a subject,
as opposed to others.
This need to talk about ourselves is so strong
that in another study conducted by Harvard researchers,
some subjects even declined money
to talk about themselves more.
Six.
Use a floral fragrance.
One of the most important parts of a first impression,
scent.
So, if you smell like a greasy pillowcase,
odds are you won't get that second date.
It's best to look your best and look sharp.
And when choosing a scent,
research has found floral odors promote social interaction
and the behavior to approach someone socially.
Research from Rutgers University found that subjects use
three times as many happiness-related words
to write on life events when a floral scent was in the air,
in contrast to when there was no fragrance present.
Seven.
Use their name often.
People love the sound of their own names
and they may not realize it.
We speak out someone's name to gain their attention.
You can do this mid-conversation as well
to bring their gaze back to you.
We can even pinpoint our name spoken out of a crowded room.
This form of selective attention
is related to the cocktail party effect.
At a party, for example,
we can hone in on a specific conversation of our choosing.
More importantly, if our name is spoken nearby,
even when we are focused on another conversation,
we immediately perk up and recognize
that someone is talking about us.
So slide in their name during a first impression,
that is, if you know it.
Eight.
Listen and repeat their phrases.
People like people like them.
Jeez, that's a bit of a tongue twister.
Science suggests your odds of someone liking you
will increase if you use the same words they use,
and if you catch onto their unique phrases,
throw them in again at the end of your conversation
or next meeting.
It hints you are actively listening
and care to learn about them.
Nine.
Start with a confident presence and good posture.
Confidence is key,
and we can all work towards raising our confidence
through positive thoughts and self-love.
It's important to respect, value, and care for yourself
in order to increase your confidence.
Once you do, you need to show it.
Practice maintaining good posture and a confident presence.
Maintaining good eye contact has been known to help
in first impressions.
Think about why you desire someone.
Maybe you know nothing about them,
but they simply give off an attractive vibe,
because, looks aside, an attractive presence is everything.
Reflect on how you present yourself,
your behavior, your posture,
and determine if it reflects who you are.
If it does, stay true to you
and the person of your dreams will like you for who you are,
good posture or not.
10, focus on a common passion.
It's your first meeting, your mind is blank,
you can't think of anything to talk about.
When in doubt,
discover what it is you're both passionate about in life.
This will drive the conversation forward in a natural way.
We can't help but light up with a big smile
when we talk about our passions.
So, if the conversation seems to be dwindling too soon,
ask them what they enjoy,
discover their passions and discuss it, fast.
It may just leave a lasting impression,
and if you implement all these tips,
it may just be a seductive impression at that.
So, which traits or tips will you use first?
And if so, who and when will you use them next?
Share with us in the comments down below.
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