Hey guys, if you've ever dated a narcissist
then you will probably recognize
some of these desperate tricks
women use to manipulate men.
But what happens if you're dating someone
or even married to them
or wanting to get to know someone
that is actually really sweet and kind
and fun to be with.
What if she like cooks you a great meal
or does so regularly
or gives you lots of compliments
or often makes first moves
then what?
You can't imagine not being with her,
but you know you're getting played somehow.
Sometimes she does or says things that
on the surface don't seem that bad,
but you kind of have this feeling
that doesn't quite feel right
but you can't quite figure out why.
So, you keep quiet just to keep the peace
and then after a while
she kind of becomes a little bit less sweet
and a little less intimately available.
But you remember the girl you first met
and how amazing she was
and you were like I know there's potential there
because I saw it before what happened?
And should you let her get away with
these manipulation tactics?
If they don't really affect you in a major way.
Let's explore the desperate tricks
women use to manipulate men
and why letting her get away with it
is the worst thing you can do.
If you're new to my channel
my name is Anna Jorgensen
welcome to just the tip.
First of all, why do women manipulate men?
Short answer is because they can get away with it
the slightly longer answer
is because you're not going to like this,
women actually don't want
to get away with manipulating you.
It's often a form of a test
even if it's unconscious
sometimes it's not a test
sometimes she's just manipulating you
to get what she wants.
Now, if she's not a narcissist
then it's about nipping
this bad behavior in the bud.
Now, you might be thinking
well, if they don't want to get away with it
but they're doing it.
Why are they doing it?
Well, because they don't even know
that they don't want to get away with it
let me explain.
So, on the surface
if a woman can manipulate you
to get what she wants
then it seems like she's won.
However, it comes at a high price
and that price is her respect for you
or towards you.
She loses respect for you
if you let her get away with manipulation tactics
and if you all men let women
get away with these manipulation tactics.
Then she’ll continue to push the envelope
and it'll get more progressive
in how she manipulates,
which means there's going to be
a spiral into total disrespect
and you're also not going to respect yourself.
Now, unless she's a narcissist
or super emotionally damaged
she's probably not even aware
that she's using these manipulation tactics.
If she is aware that
she's using manipulation tactics
she is not an emotionally healthy person
and you need to question why you're there.
Let's go through some of these desperate tricks
that women use to manipulate men
and yes, ladies for those of you who are watching
men can be manipulators too.
So, if you're a guy watching
make sure you're not doing any of these things.
If you're a woman watching
make sure you're not doing any of these things.
One, sneaky guilt trips for example,
you say you want to take her out for a nice dinner
and she agrees you take her out for a nice dinner
and then either later in the meal
or after the meal.
She says well, it wasn't where I really wanted to go,
but if it makes you happy I’m happy.
So, this is a sneaky guilt trip
because she's trying to pretend like
if you're happy she's happy
but she's just giving you a piece of information
that's going to make you not happy.
The fact that she didn’t enjoy it as much
as if she had gone
to where she really wanted to go,
but here's the kicker
she didn't even tell you where she wanted to go.
She agreed to where you wanted to go
without saying she preferred to go somewhere else,
she didn't even give you the chance.
She was ungrateful
and made you feel guilty because of it.
And then you end feeling guilty
like you owe her something.
Now, stick with me because
I’m going to give you the strategies
for these manipulation tactics.
First, let's get into number two,
insulting or mean spirited sarcasm
the rule of thumb about sarcasm
is to never say anything in jest
that you actually truly do mean,
because then that's just mean.
For example, let's say
you're starting to lose your hair
and you're a little self-conscious about it
and you express this vulnerability to your girl.
And she says well, you've never been Brad Pitt
but you do have a head made for hats.
So, depending on how she says this
and how she really feels,
key point how she really
feels about your hair loss.
If she... It doesn't bother her at all
this might not be a bad thing
if you're both really cool about it.
But if she knows that you're insecure about it
and or it also bothers her
then she's giving you a dig
a mean-spirited sarcasm dig or even worse
let's say this topic comes up
when you're in mixed company.
Whether it’s friends or co-workers or wherever
and she says this in front of other people
as a joke.
Not a joke that's a manipulation tactic
to make you feel bad about yourself.
It might be so that
she can feel better about herself
or to prevent you from
feeling too good about yourself
so that you might leave her, nasty.
I know it’s nasty don't do this stuff you guys,
don't do this to each other.
All right, number three the silent treatment
hey, the silent treatment.
So, you said or done something wrong
whether you know what it is
or you don't know what it is
and she's decided that
she needs a little bit of time to herself.
She doesn't express this
she just doesn't reply to text
doesn't answer promptly.
If you're living together
she spends more time in other rooms
she brushes it off
when you say are you avoiding me
she just says oh, I just need to read.
I’m just really busy
or maybe she doesn't even reply
maybe she just continues to ignore you.
This is a passive aggressive manipulation tactic
a real world example of this might be
if you suddenly have to work
extra hours on a project
because the due date got bumped up
and you have to postpone plans with her.
So, she says okay and no big deal
but then she doesn't reply,
she doesn't you know get back to you very quickly,
she leaves her messages on red
and just you know, she's M.I.A.
Or again, if you're living with her
she's avoiding you
and not saying anything
in other words she's punishing you
because she didn't get what she wanted,
which was whatever the plans were,
she's selfish.
Now, the silent treatment
very closely resembles the next one,
which is number four
the I have a headache tactic or the no... Tactic.
So, she withholds intimate,
affection and attention,
and it might not just be straight S-E-X
it might be that she doesn't want to cuddle
or she's you know,
feeling suffocated or what have you.
But basically she's withholding intimacy
and love and physical connection
because something didn't go her way
so she's punishing you
and withholding love in all its forms.
It may come along with things like
she's too tired, she has a headache,
she's busy with the kids,
she's got a lot of projects going on,
she's just not in the mood.
But really before the thing happened
that led her to believe
she didn't get what she wanted
she was all up for it.
So, it's not like it wasn't there
and then it wasn't there it was there
and now she's punishing you.
Now, if she actually gives you a great big smooch
and says I really need to get this stuff done,
but I so want you
and I’m going to be there for you really soon
and gives you a big wet kiss.
Then you know, maybe it is
that she's really busy right now
or having a hot flash
or you know, moody or whatever it is
and it's going to come around.
But you can tell the difference
you trust your gut you'll know the difference
between whether or not it is a manipulation tactic
or it's legit.
Hey by the way, have you ever experienced
the silent treatment
or the withholding of sexual favors treatment?
If you have, write a comment
you're not alone you'll see.
And the number five,
desperate trick women use to manipulate men
is the it's your fault tactic.
So, basically
she puts you in charge of her emotions
but primarily the negative emotions.
If she's sad it's your fault,
if she's mad it's your fault,
if it's got nothing to do with you
it's still your fault
because you didn't do the thing right
that would have helped her get out of that mood.
No, one,
you're all responsible for your own moods
anyone watching this
is responsible for their own mood.
Yes, we can be influenced by the reactions
and actions of others
but ultimately we're responsible
for our own feelings.
But when she puts it on you
that makes you responsible for her feelings
that's a manipulation tactic.
Now, here's where it can get tricky
because she might also...
If she is sweet and fun and sexy
and whatever else drew her to you initially
if she does also give you credit
for making her feel good
whether it's happy or joyful or appreciated.
Then this is where you’re going to get confused
and think okay wait a minute
am I crazy to be so harsh on her
when she's blaming me for the bad stuff?
No, you're not crazy
because... Just because good behavior is there
doesn't mean bad behavior should be accepted.
I’m going to repeat that again,
just because good behavior is there
doesn't mean bad behavior should be accepted.
Here's the second part of that key point
rewarding bad behavior gets you more of it
wow, just like children.
Rewarding bad behavior gets you more of it
rewarding good behavior gets you more of that.
So, yes, you do want to call her out
on bad behavior on manipulative tactics
you want to make sure you nip those in the bud
because she's not going to respect you otherwise
and it's going to continue or get worse
if you don't address it.
Now, there's a right way and a wrong way
to call her out on manipulative behavior.
And you definitely don't want to use
any of the trigger phrases
that cause a woman to escalate
if she is angry
and has gone over the deep end on a topic.
So, you want to watch my video on
the five phrases to never say to an angry woman
and the one phrase that you absolutely
should say to an angry woman.
Now, this is assuming that
she's not completely raging
or you feel your safety is at risk.
If your safety is ever at risk
or she's completely out of her skull, not so.
Even if you're not physically at risk,
but maybe she's throwing things or screaming
some of you have experienced this,
if that's the case you just got to leave.
You've got to leave the scene
and deal with it later
because nothing you do will work at that moment.
But if she's just angry even if she's emotional,
which is going to be pretty typical
then you definitely want to watch the video on
the five phrases you shouldn't say
and the one phrase you definitely want to say
if it hasn't escalated too far.
So, I'll link that at the end.
Now, since you stuck with me all this way,
I’m going to give you a bonus tip
the number six desperate trick
women use to manipulate men
is they are never wrong.
Now, none of us like being wrong,
but if she's never wrong, if she never admits
that she's made an error or even apologize
then that's going to put your relationship
into a very unhealthy balance.
Let's say you disagree
on a particular political topic
or a specific political position
or she thinks your friend Steve is a player
or you don't stack the dish washer properly.
So, it doesn't matter what the issue is
you're always wrong
and she's always right according to her.
If she's never wrong
there could be two things at play here.
One is she's deeply insecure
and any admission of wrong on her part
will make her feel devalued in your eyes
and you may not want her
that's just one scenario.
But that's one example of
how her being super insecure
might play out in her subconscious
in other words she doesn't feel safe being wrong
and it may have nothing to do with you.
It may be baggage from her childhood
or a previous relationship
where she was punished for being wrong.
Or if it is about you
then you may react
to her admission of wrong doing
or she may think you're going to react
to her admission of wrong doing or wrong being
or wrong thinking or wrong whatever in a way
that doesn't make her feel safe.
Now, this may have happened
because as you're probably aware
none of us are really great
with conflict management
you know, we haven't been taught
so we don't fight right.
I'll do a video on that
I mean if you want a video on that write that down.
But if it's not about her feeling safe
then it's a manipulation tactic
to get you to agree with her
so she can get what she wants
even if it's just her ego being stroked.
We all like to be stroked in the ego.
Now, the second thing that could be happening
is that your and her values, beliefs, goals
are not in alignment
and you're not a good match together.
It may be in her mind that she is right
and it may be in your mind that you are right
and maybe that's true for both of you
and you're just not a right fit, possible.
If your lady has expressed
any of these desperate tricks
that women use to manipulate men
you need to do something about it.
If you don't you will continue to feel confused
and emotionally abused.
Your self-esteem will slide
and you'll start to doubt other areas of your life
and the nasty side effect is that
she will continue to lose respect for you.
So, it'll become a nasty spiral
to the point where she may one day leave you.
So, it’s not worth your while
to not deal with these desperate tricks
women use to manipulate men.
You need to deal with it,
you need to nip it in the bud.
If she's a keeper, you will be able to discuss
these things with her in a way that is mature
and healthy and helps you become closer.
So, if they are tests
there's different forms of tests
and there's different ways to handle them.
So, if you want to know more about
how to handle her tests whether those tests
are conscious or subconscious.
Then you definitely want to check out my video on
how to handle her tests.
Have you ever felt manipulated in a relationship?
If you have, share your story in the comments.
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