hey guys welcome back thanks for tuning in this week I just want to again say
thank you to everyone that is starting to subscribe to the channel everyone
that is on Facebook that's commenting and liking and sharing I just I I love
that you guys are loving this stuff and I'm getting so much feedback and it's
the best feeling in the world when you know something that you're putting out
there people are really jiving with and they love it and you know I've had
someone even message me this week to say these videos are great and like right at
the point of me going through something I feel like each week you're saying
something that's like really hitting home for me and that's like the best
feeling so I just wanted to say thank you for everyone that's subscribing and
watching so this is a really quick video and I just wanted to make it because I
just actually got my hair done and yes I'm wearing a hat because it's raining
in Boston and it's gross out but I just got my hair done and the hairdresser
that was doing it was telling me about a friend that she had that it never likes
to be single and this girl is constantly in awful relationships abusive
relationships and she was you know telling her just she was telling me
about this woman and this kind of coincides with actually the video that I
made last week and so I just wanted to make this quick video because I wanted
to drive something home and really hopefully it hits a core and some people
out there is that when we want something right we all want to be happy we all
want healthy relationships we all want you know this great partner and etc etc
we all want this goal we all want this job we all want this family like
whatever it is that you're looking to achieve in your life in what happens
when we're not seeing it so what happens when we're going out on dates and we say
okay I know my standards and I have them and I'm trying to be self loving and I'm
really working on myself and I'm putting myself out there and it's not happening
I'm not meaning anyone or you know I'm working so hard at this job and like I'm
not advancing like or you know I'm studying so hard for this degree and I'm
just you know it's coming easier to other people you know this is this video
is really just about self-motivating and keeping at it
right and something that I thought was so important is as she was telling me
the story about this woman who you know doesn't like to be single I just sat
there and I thought you know when you there's two things that can happen in
life when you say you want something you can either do what it takes to get there
or you can just settle and you can let fear take over that's really the only
two options that you have and it's not easy there are gonna be days where fear
takes over right you're gonna have a day where you look alright
you know or you're gonna have a person that you probably let into your life
that shouldn't have been there for a little while but all of those you know
experiences are just there to keep pushing you to keep teaching you so you
can keep growing and learning about yourself to keep going forward with what
is what it is that you want so one of the things that I'm so passionate about
and it's something that I just really wanted to really again drive home in
this video is don't settle don't settle for anything know what you want work
hard towards it and keep pushing yourself until you get there and they're
gonna be days where you wake up and you're like I I want to give up like I
don't I don't think this is gonna happen for me like I don't believe anymore like
my feet I'm starting to lose faith in the process and I'm trying so hard and
it's not working you know I'm trying to lose weight and I'm going to the gym all
the time and the weights not coming off like these are the points where you're
being tested so when you're single and you're sick of being single you have two
choices you can either go out there and meet any old person and settle for
whatever comes your way or you can sit home on a Tuesday and learn how to love
yourself take care of yourself and tell yourself the stuff that you need to hear
to keep yourself moving forward which is yes I would like a partner yes I would
like to be in a relationship and yes I want to get married and have kids and
whatever it is that you want um but I know that I need to be okay by myself
first and it's a challenge they're gonna have those lonely nights right and but
those are the nights when you're lonely what are you telling yourself are you
telling yourself yeah you're never gonna meet anyone this is the way it's gonna
be for the rest of your life or you know if you're studying for that exam for
college and you're but he's you know he's done studying and
he'll probably get an A and you're struggling at 3 a.m. and you're still
going and it's like okay this is my journey and I have to study harder but I
know that when I get an A I'm gonna value that a and I'm gonna be so pumped
and proud of myself and I'm gonna have proven to myself that I can actually do
this that's the stuff and when you're alone on Tuesday and you know you have
no plans and no one's around and you just have to figure it out that's when
you get up and you go do something or you say you know what yeah you're alone
on Tuesday but that's okay that doesn't mean that for the rest of your life
you're gonna be alone on a Tuesday just enjoy this moment and be self loving you
know it's all about taking care of yourself and it's all about learning how
to do the things and say the things yourself that you need to be saying to
keep pushing yourself forward because again there's only two options you can
be connected to yourself your true self which is love and support yourself or
you could be connected to your ego and just let that fear take over and keep
you stuck for the rest of your life stuck in awful relationships abusive
relationships people that leave you and cheat on you and have affairs behind
your back like you know or you can be self loving and know what you really
want and know what's out there of course it's out there and just be patient in
the process and believe me when I tell you patience has been something that
I've had to learn over the years but it is what it is and the more we just keep
working on ourselves and keep pushing forward the more you will get to that
goal it's just inevitable you just will so I hope this helps anyone out there
going through a lot of different things I think this could help anyone on but I
hope you guys like this video I will see you next week don't forget to hit
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