15 Top Signs Your Best Friend Is Jealous of You
15.
They try to outshine you- Jealous people never want others in the spotlight and feel that
their existence is heard when they talk down to you or try to outdo you.
If you find your bestie is attempting to overshadow you, don’t try to compete with them or let
them break your good spirits.
This is exactly what they want and this will only excite them further because it fuels
their fire and would only give them more reason to steal your thunder.
Real friends appreciate each other’s charisma and intelligence, and they wouldn’t attempt
to conceal your light in the dark just because of their own place in the shade.
14.
They criticize you- If your best friend suddenly starts to nitpick and judge you, then your
BFF might be envious of you.
Hypercritical people aren’t happy or satisfied with their lives or with themselves, so they
will vomit all their jealousy and hate onto other people.
Critical judgemental people are out to hurt others because of their own insecurities or
failures.
We're supposed to be able to tell our best friends anything without the fear of being
hurt or judged right?
However, if their words sound harsh or insincere or question you choices to a point where you
may feel emotionally unsafe around them, then heed this warning!
Often, the best solution is to stay away from people like these even if they're your best
friend.
Because in the long run, it’s only going to bring other challenges and your mental
health or well-being could be at stake.
13.
They copy you- Imitation is the highest form of flattery right?
Well, not always.
Remember when you bought a new red car only to find out that she bought a replica?
Or when you announced that you were in a new relationship only to learn that jumped into
a relationship with the next guy that she met?
Do you find yourself being very cautious about letting her know your next move because you
know that she’ll do everything the same way and do it before you do?
There’s a difference in having similar interests and tastes.
However, if you find that your best friend starts to dress, talk, walk like you and is
basically copying your every single move, then this could be a problem.
When someone is jealous of you, they’ll try and copy you instead of paving their own
way to reach success.
Besides friends should compliment each other and not be carbon copies of the other.
12.
Insincere compliments- Keep a look out for insincere compliments as this can be a red
flag!
Despite your effort, it seems like your best always finds the smallest thing to belittle
your achievements.
For example, if you have just landed the job of your dreams, they might say something like
“Is it because you know this person?”
Or if other people compliment you, they might feel envious of your accomplishments and will
coerce other people into thinking that there must be an undisclosed reason for your success
instead of your hard work or talent.
If you notice that they have an unpleasant or uncomfortable reaction accompanied by little
generic compliments, then this could imply their true feelings for you.
Most people will say a compliment is a compliment!
But when the praises don’t feel genuine, then maybe the friendship isn’t either.
11.
They bring out the worst in you- At the beginning of your friendship, it might be full of laughter
and fun filled activities like shopping or even getting your nails done.
In the early stages, you guys couldn’t bear to stay away from each other for more than
a few days.
But as time goes on, jealousy starts to set in, and you find it hard to even be around
your BFF for more than a few hours.
Not only is their attitude becoming draining, but you find yourselves having petty fights
and holding grudges against each other.
If you suddenly start to hate being around your best friend because of their negativity,
then it’s pretty evident that you might need to distance yourself from them before
it gets to the point that their jealousy will kill your friendship.
10.
Hates you for no reason- In an unexpected turn of events, you find that your best friend
suddenly hates for no particular reason.
You haven’t said or done anything to hurt or spite them, so why would they hate you
out of the blue?
Well maybe because you have something that they don’t or they desire your accomplishments
and don’t know how to reach them, and when they don’t know they become angry and jealous.
Sometimes, people help themselves cope with their frustration by taking it out of other
people.
This could be their way of handling subordinate feelings and inadequacy by comparing themselves
with other people and by placing the blame on you!
9.
Remind you of your past failures- Whenever you have good or exciting news and you share
it with your bestie, they immediately try to shut you down or minimize it by focusing
on the negative what if options.
For example, you express how happy you are in your new relationship only for them to
compare it to your last breakup or you tell them of a promotion at work, only for them
to question you about it in a negative way.
If they do this, then chances are they are envious of you and secretly hope you fail.
They might not think you are worthy of that success because they can’t reach that level
where you are or are jealous of your hard work.
A true friend will appropriately celebrate with you and encourage you, not put you down.
8.
They embarrass you- If your BFF has ever publicly humiliated you in a crowd or in front of your
other friends or family, then this isn’t a coincidence.
Especially if they have done it to you multiple times and claim they were just joking around,
despite knowing that they hurt your feelings.
This is a big sign to avoid them.
Not only are they jealous of you, but if they feel the need to put others down to feel good
about themselves, then they will always try to embarrass you any chance they can get.
Embarrassing you is their way of taking the attention off of your goals and achievements.
Instead of being sincerely happy for you, they’ll use this tactic to show off your
flaws instead.
7.
Insincere happiness- If your bestie is jealous of you, then they will try to be overly happy
for you when you bring good news, but this is just a facade.
It’ll be obvious to spot their phony act because they’ll respond more enthusiastically
than needed.
Simply put, this implies that they are trying to cover up their real feelings.
A real friend would display honest emotions of happiness and delight.
Their fake cover up not only shows jealously, but it indicates that they are afraid and
anxious individuals who probably need to take a step back and evaluate the happiness in
their lives or else they will always come off as a fake friend.
6.
They talk behind your back- One of the worst feelings in the world is discovering that
your best friend is talking about you behind your back.
Whether she’s spewing out your deepest darkest secret or conjuring up false rumors or simply
complaining about you, it hurts to hear that someone you trust and care about is being
nasty to you when you thought everything was going okay.
The truth is, most of the time when a person resorts to this type of behavior, it’s because
they’re totally jealous of you.
And they want everyone else to hate you or be against you in an attempt to break you
down.
5.
They emotionally exhaust you- Have you ever found yourself in a slump or feeling irritated
in your best friend’s presence?
It might come sudden or gradual, but when your best friend starts to be emotionally
draining, it’s best to keep away in order not to get burned by them.
If you’re used to start your day with positivity and an upbeat attitude only to feel miserable
and tired after you hang out or talk with your best friend, then take this as a big
red flag!
Your best friend will continue to suck the life out of your with constant problems and
turmoil because they are jealous and don’t want you to be happy.
You know what they say, misery needs company and they will drag you down as far as they
can, if you let them.
Your best bet is to avoid being around the nature of your BFF for awhile before it’s
too late.
4.
They are insecure- Behind every jealous person is an insecure person.
Being friends with an insecure individual can be very challenging because insecurity
is known for ruining relationships.
Instead of focusing on trying to make themselves better people, their jealousy creeps in and
they curse and wish for your downfall.
They think, perhaps if you lose a couple of friends along the way, fail at your project
or don’t reach your goal, they could gain something out of it themselves.
And if they can’t attain what you have in life then you can’t have it either!
But these internal issues and change come from within, so in the meantime, you should
avoid your bestie like the plague until their jealousy subsides or until they learn how
to correct themselves.
3.
They compete with you- Whether you make the soccer team or paint a beautiful portrait,
you notice that your friend tries to do the same thing but ten times better.
When it comes to other mutual friends, at work or school, your bestie will do whatever
it takes to try and upstage you.
Not only is it frustrating, but it’s annoying too, and that’s exactly how they want you
to feel.
Instead of congratulating you for your success and prosperity, they make everything a competition
because they don’t want you to feel happy for reaching your goal.
2.
They avoid you- Someone who is envious will slowly start to talk to you less and less
until they are suddenly nowhere to be found.
This change can happen in an instant!
If they go from always being free to suddenly busy then this is a big sign!
When you ask to catch up for coffee or lunch, they might also come up with several excuses
to avoid you.
When someone is jealous of you, they hate being in your company because being around
your presence will make them feel even worse about their life.
1.
They don’t support you- When it comes to expressing your thoughts, moves, dreams and
ideas, you find that your best friend is alway putting you down and rejecting whatever it
is you’re trying to do.
Your best shot is to cut ties loose with them as soon as you know they don’t have your
best interests at heart.
It becomes demanding to keep your bestie around if they aren’t supportive of your decisions
because they will always object to you!
If you can’t be your true self without continually being downplayed, then they are not your real
friend.
Plus it can get tiring to keep a person around who is always going to shoot you down.
Yes, jealousy is toxic, but it can have some long term effects on you if you don’t get
out now.