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basis went out on a date the other night
and this was a first day when she showed
up about 20 minutes into our
conversation she mentioned that she had
seen some of my videos here on this
YouTube channel and she had no idea what
NLP was and watched a few of the videos
and she thought it was interesting and
she showed us some of her friends and
these friends of hers had heard of
entropy and they heard of the bad things
about a healthy its reputation for being
manipulative so they warned her about me
they said watch out for this guy he
might try to manipulate you might try to
take advantage of you and this was about
not very long and hard conversation so I
had found myself having to give an
explanation of what her friends were
warning her about and the truth is that
NLP has a well-deserved reputation for
manipulation and it serves as a very
good warning to people who get into NLP
with ill intent and thinking that
they're going to manipulate
the people because you will learn
something really fast and that is karma
is a bitch and if when you use something
as powerful as NLP and you're using
it for ill intent you basically
accelerate your progress and that will
accelerate some pretty bad things
happening to you i'll discuss that a
little bit more later
it's good to learn NLP to protect
yourself from people who will manipulate
you are trying to take advantage of your
vulnerabilities and it's not that
everybody uses NLP does that it
people can be manipulative without using
an NLP and knowing NLP will help you help
protect you against those people as well
first of all we're always manipulating
other people and this isn't necessarily
a bad thing we've been doing it since we
were kids we depend on people
therefore we need to persuade and
influence people to get what we want and
as long as we're not doing it in a way
that hurts people
it's really not a bad thing and this
technically is manipulation difference
between people who are very persuasive
and influential vs people who are not is
the person who is very persuasive is
constantly upgrading and updating their
strategies to be persuasive to be
manipulative to get what they want
whereas the people who are not very good
at this are basically haven't upgraded
haven't updated their strategies for
persuasion probably since they were kids
and so what happens is they ended up
pounding and sulking thinking that
that's still going to get them what they
wanted some of the world is going to
recognize that they're pounding oh I'm
sorry
here you go here's a pic here you can
have what you want that happens when we
were kids but as we get older and we
start taking responsibility for
ourselves we have to find these
strategies and it's not just when we get
older it's not like you stop there if
you take take someone who's very
persuasive
they are constantly learning how to can
packed with people and get what they
want from others at the same time giving
back that that thing that we call
reciprocity NLP is a lot like a chess
game a game of chess
you're constantly strategizing you're
constantly thinking 10 steps ahead
trying to get your opponent to step into
your trap so that you can win and you
can play a game of chess without
bringing any harm to your opponent
there's sort of this unconscious
agreement that you and your opponent are
going to sit down and play this game and
it's going to be for fun
somebody's going to lose somebody is
going to win but the main that's not the
whole point of the whole point is that
you both have an enjoyable experience
and this is manipulation as best this is
persuasion and influence at its best
with a salesperson sell something to a
client the client didn't lose in the
salesperson one this was an even
exchange will hopefully an even exchange
this was an exchange of service or
product for money that innocence is a
manipulation that it takes persuasion
and influence to do that and as long as
the salespersons not lying to the client
there's nothing wrong with that we do
this every single day in NLP we teach
something called ecology or rather we
take the concept of an ecosystem
archaeology and apply that to
interactions with others whether that's
a sails interaction negotiation or even
coaching or therapy thinking in terms of
systems like I'm a system the person who
I'm persuading is also a system and the
interaction were in together is also a
system that becomes the ecosystem and
thinking in terms of ecology it gets me
out of my own immediate needs my
immediate desires and what I want and
gets me thinking and more holistic way
what is best for the system so say I go
out with a person on a date and I
realize that yes this person i might
find her try
but we have different needs and we have
different wants so i'm going to say
maybe it's just best that we were just
friends like it's not it's not really
going to work I could push i can
probably persuade like it probably you
know get something out of this that it's
not going to be the best for both of us
a long-term ecology is basically the
understanding that whatever introduced
into this system in this case an
interaction with someone else is going
to affect the entire system so is this
what's best for the system is this
what's best for both of us not just me
and not just the other person but it's
going to benefit the system as a whole
when you start thinking in terms of the
ecology rather than morals and ethics
and nothing wrong with morals and ethics
but morals and ethics are kind of static
and people run into situations that are
new situations they haven't been before
and so then their morals and ethics get
kinda shaky like what I do here but when
you think in terms of ecology it becomes
different it becomes alive you're
recognizing the situation that you're in
that you're in a system like a living
breathing system that is constantly
growing and changing and moving and now
you get an opportunity to really think
in a big picture of what is good for the
system not just remain not just for the
other person for example say only use
car salesperson and I'm lying to my
clients i'm selling shitty cars and
they're way overpriced
maybe i will get ahead short term but in
the long term
I can operate a business like that the
business will fall apart and that is a
ecology that is the system not being
balanced when you have a good balance
system that grows that is a sustainable
system and so that is basically
connecting with a client being honest
with a client not trying to screw the
client
this creates something that can thrive
and
it can grow and this is ecology taking
into mind what is going to be best for
the system as a whole so when across the
ecology when you introduce something new
into the system and it throws off the
system you might get a short-term gain
but long-term you're basically killing
the system very much like the
environment oil and gas and carbon
emissions in the short term it's making
people very profitable in the long term
and bigger picture it's killing the
planet so the prophets and people
getting rich off of the stuff it's not
going to matter after a while because
there won't be a planet left to enjoy
and to be profitable in this is to be