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this is your turn the time where you
take risk you take chances push
everything aside this telling you know
you have the possibility to shape your
identity to construct and build your
life into the power you can achieve
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nothing here is stopping your progress
except yourself you're the only thing
that's holding you back if you want to
become successful in life I'm the one
you got to change your mindset he said
you don't get in life what you want you
to get in like what you are develop your
communication skills because once you
open your mouth you tell the world who
you are I believe that all of us are
born unique but most of us die copies
you've got to find out what is it that
turns you on what resonates with you one
of the things that I realized and what
allowed me to become successful as a
speaker of the speaking industry it's
been hijacked by people who speak to
sell and this it's okay to do that and
make money I speak to change lives
because somebody spoke and change my
life so this is my passion this is my
tribe this is something that I feel in
my heart and and so the key to that
Humber Driven Life is a hard centered
life I didn't do what I'm doing for
years because of my programming because
of the culture in which I was raised in
I would see other people with with
degrees and PhDs and and MBAs and
credentials I don't have and I convinced
myself I couldn't do it
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but mr. Washington on that day we became
friends and and he taught me not only
someone's opinion of you this does not
have to determine your reality he said
that you have to work on yourself you
have to have an unstoppable attitude and
no excuse is acceptable and you've got
to do make it a priority are
non-negotiable in your life a hole of a
constant vision of what it is you want
to achieve see it accomplished and go
all out fine a way to win in spite of
the setbacks in spite of the
disappointments in spite of your
failures I tell people when I'm giving
presentations you will fail your way to
success I have a saying is life knocks
you down try and land on your back
because of you can look up you can get
up never let a situation or circumstance
define your life no matter what it may
be and understanding that you got
something inside of you that's greater
in that situation and a circumstance but
you have to constantly believe and not
only believe it you have to make
decisions and choices every single day
it puts you a step forward toward what
you believe your destiny is and life
it's a lot of moments and that's a lot
of people that change and impact your
life right like I don't believe it's
just one moment you say this one moment
just changed my life even though that
moment may have but it's going to be
another moment it's going to shape and
change your life as well
either somebody is in the midst of
adversity or just came out of adversity
or won't be long before they head into
adversity so you need to be prepared
either way and so we all go through
adversity opposition I think that's the
thing that that makes us all in common
as people right no matter if you're from
London Atlanta Florida California New
York like we're all going to go through
something at some point or phase in our
life right and as cliche as it sounds
when a quote says it's never about what
happens to us about how you respond to
it
that's very true right but in the same
sense I think what's most important is
when we go through something what's the
perspective that we have of it right
because for most people when you go
through something the person's natural
perspective is okay what did I lose
right what happened to me like I took a
loss right people never look at it and
say okay man tell me what did you gain
right even though I know it hurt you
didn't want to go through it but look at
it in a way to where you can say what's
the lesson in this right what would you
say life is trying to teach you from
dealing with this and so when I went
through it my perspective was okay what
can I extract from it to apply to other
areas and aspects of my life that I feel
can help other people
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and I firmly believe the quicker you can
shift your perspective from yourself to
others when you're in the midst of
adversity the quicker you'll get through
right Martin Luther King has a quote
that says life's most persistent and
urgent question is what are you doing to
help other people now I'm not telling
you to not acknowledge your pain I'm not
saying I'm not telling you not to say
man I'm going through this in his heart
I'm not saying that I'm saying when you
go through it look at it step back from
the picture and say okay I'm dealing
with this 9 out of 10 times there's
somebody else that's neither dealt with
it are they gonna deal with something
similar to this and if I deal with it in
the right way I can use it to add value
to lives of other people when you live a
hard centered life deciding that you're
gonna live a life that will outlive you
you're gonna live a life that counts a
life that will build a legacy and change
the planet you know Hardman said we
should be ashamed to die until we've
made some major contribution to
humankind
get to know yourself that I believe that
we're taught be not conformed to this
world be transformed by the renewing of
your mind don't live the life that has
been given you but when you go for a
walk with someone something happens
without being spoken he's that either
you adjust to their pace or they adjust
to your pace whose pace have you
adjusted to and so the things that we
pick up and we think that there are
choices with the
the choices that we've been programmed
by life to do when we leave our homes in
the morning we're bombarded with over
6000 advertising hits through Facebook
through Twitter through Instagram
through television through our phones
and through our communities and through
the computers and so all of these things
are impacting us every day so if you
don't have a program for your mind then
your mind is going to be programming
you'll find yourself doing things that
you did not know and and that they
affected you that they through marketing
techniques and strategies that they will
create a thirst within you you've got to
have someone that can see something in
you that you can't see that that that
can take you to a place within yourself
that you can't go by yourself stop
overthinking everything so much realize
that while you are trying to do a lot of
things in your life at once and you are
trying to be better than you were
yesterday also realize you don't have to
try to do anything you just have to do
and you just have to be you have to
understand the concept of you're not
actually really doing anything you're
being done each and every day is an
opportunity to get something from the
day rather than just going through the
day but there are a lot of things that
we can't always control we can't always
control the temperature outside we can't
always control what the birds are doing
or what the fish are doing or what the
animals are doing but we can control
what we're doing we can control who
we're hanging out with so in a sense we
can get some control over the anxiety
that we have and the way that we're
going to gain control over those things
is think about some of the hurdles that
we may have some of the things that are
blocking us from making quick quick
action
the reason that out I think belief is
important is because like when you're
young or when you do something in your
novice right and you start out doing it
and you might think you can do something
with it or you might not you might do it
in this being driven by your passion and
then somebody comes along that's a
little bit older or even more
experienced and they can see it in a way
that you can't see it right and so I
think is important with belief because
if a person believes in you in a way
that you don't believe in yourself you
can rent that person's belief until you
get strong enough to possess your own
right and you use that person's belief
to fuel you every single day right
because you can have a level of belief
with what you're doing but you can go
back to a certain set of circumstances
that tell you now it's not gonna happen
and so you read that person's belief
until you get strong enough to possess
your own life is an adventure and it's
gonna be a challenge and get ready
because you're gonna fail your way to
success you will get slapped around by
life and don't spend time complaining
about it and telling everybody 80
percent don't care and 20 percent glad
is you
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