This video is about "How to Never Become a Narcissist!" I will give you real and practical ways
so you can never end up becoming a narcissist... it's the last thing you want to do
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It's not exactly clear how someone becomes a narcissist... some might say it comes from
their upbringing being spoilt rotten and told the sun shines out of their backside
will do the trick. Narcissism can also be a coping mechanism for like insecurity rather than having
radical self-acceptance and being humble and modest. Instead they put on a false persona
that of an egomaniac or perhaps it's a classic case of monkey see monkey do...Maybe they've had
a really narcissistic parent or guardian or mentor and they've just followed what they've
done. Here's a real world example = a woman was once in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic man
who eventually left her for another woman. Heartbroken from years of neglect and abuse she
attracted narcissistic female friends who told her to change her life approach. They filled her head
with nonsense in her vulnerable state she absorbed it and accepted it like a sponge. A few years
later though she had become a raging narcissist herself... she was very very rude, extremely selfish
entitled, toxic and had become a complete drama queen. Her friends and family who really knew who
she was had no idea how this sweet innocent woman who was very healthy had changed. She had adopted
the persona of a toxic person, perhaps to cope with her pain and convince herself it was the only
way to survive and get results in life. How sad is that? But also very common. I'm 35 as i record this
however in my mid-20s i adopted some very toxic narcissistic traits myself which I am
not proud to admit but thankfully I grew out of and it was actually dating a narcissist
that really opened my eyes. Here is how you can hopefully never become a narcissist in your life...
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Narcissists are completely self-absorbed, they're only concerned about themselves and what
everything has to do with them. Self-awareness is the kryptonite to narcissistic tendencies
Self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions thoughts and
emotions do or don't align with your internal standards and how it affects others as well
Now you might say "well that sounds really self-involved" yes it does but not in a toxic way
Narcissists are fully immersed in their own BS that they cause and destruction
and suffering to everyone around them. Whereas a self-aware person can try and recognize triggers
and their emotions and actions and how it may impact their life and other people and
of course whether it's the right thing morally to do. I'll give you two contrasting examples
there's a man who's married and a narcissist his name's Roger, he's approached by an attractive
woman at a bar... he's alone on a business trip as he drinks his beer and she flirts with him
and informs him she's in town for one night and looking for some fun. Roger thinks "this is naughty
but she's hot, I could do with the fun, my wife will never know!" so he agrees to a night of passion and
commits adultery. Roger then returns home to his wife and acts like nothing has happened
and he's happy to have gotten away with it as he internally plots his next cheating affair
Another man who is not married and not a narcissist let's call him Peter
is approached by an attractive woman at a bar he too is alone on a business trip. As he drinks his
beer she flirts with him and says "i'm in town for one night and looking for some fun" Peter thinks
"This is really wrong...I'm married, I have a family. I love my family it's very tempting of course
but wrong...." "No thank you" Peter says and declines her offer as she moves on to find someone else
See the difference? Notice the difference there? Be more of a Peter than a Roger!
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emotionally spiritually damaged people. They have no real concept to love or self-acceptance, they
never ever have a healthy relationship with anyone or a healthy bond in general. They are and can be
surprisingly the most insecure and self-hating individuals you'll ever meet in your life
On the surface they may look attractive and come across really super confident
Internally they're saying "i'm so ugly... i'm so fat... i'm just a big piece of crap..." They may be very
assertive about themselves in their jobs careers line of work their business, internally they're
saying "i'm such a loser... i'm gonna screw this up... i'm gonna fail... i just know it..." They seem sure of
themselves in relationships and dating, internally they're saying again "i'm so unattractive
that person's way too good for me..." They may be overall a very arrogant and well put together
person who's got it all, internally they're saying "i'm worthless... i'm a loser... i hate myself..."
So what can you do to prevent yourself slipping into the frame of mind of a narcissistic person?
Take good care of yourself! Practice self-love by doing so and not being so harsh critical
and negative internally. You're actually going to heal your wounded inner child
something narcissists will probably never do... There's other ways you can do this as well
you can get therapy from BetterHelp, you can associate with good genuine healthy people
you can avoid toxic habits and vices and traits, avoid toxic people who rub off on
you, you can learn about self-improvement, you can become healthier overall, maybe dieting and
so on and so forth, you can practice gratitude, you can help others in need and actually give
of yourself... Start to love yourself now before it's too late and then if you don't
the hate will creep in, and the hate will lead to anger, and the anger will lead to narcissism....
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Narcissists can come in all shapes and sizes and age groups... I know people double my age (I'm 35) who
are nothing but adult spoilt babies, who flail their arms around and throw tantrums for not getting
their way... not to mention they're also massive drama queens causing nothing but problems for
everyone. In my late twenties, I remember I was showing some very narcissistic traits, i'm embarrassed and
ashamed with the way i acted, i assumed arrogance was the key. I thought being cocky was a good thing
I assumed showing off made me a better man. I remember speaking to a dear friend of mine
and he heard me ramble on about nonsense, he sat there quietly as I harped on about myself and
views on certain things, people society etc. "Are you done?" he asked. I wasn't. I started showing off
about my recent successes, a few women i was seeing etc... he sat there for a good 45 minutes listening
to me talk waffle on. "Now are you done?" he asked. "Yeah I guess so, why what's your problem?!" I asked
He took a deep breath in and he let out an almighty sigh, this person is very successful
in his field, he's had a loving relationship for years and has always had a very sensible life
"You need to grow up" he said. He got up shook my hand "give me a call when you grow up..." That
statement hit me like a ton of bricks...I was imitating and pretending to be someone I wasn't
Deep down i'm not a show-off, deep down I'm not arrogant or cocky... deep down i'm not
that self-involved or that selfish and entitled. I knew and thought deep down I was actually a good
genuine person and I had my mind and behavior warped and convinced to be selfish, entitled
and really toxic. I never want to go back to those behaviors again and I changed. I find narcissism
very immature so to prevent it maybe try and do what I did... maybe try and grow up... A few years back
I had the displeasure of dating a narcissist in a committed romantic relationship for several years
Such exposure to such a person rocked me to my core. I'd never seen such toxic behavior
such consistent drama, such immaturity... I'd never been so miserable and unhappy in my life
it acted as a wake-up call and the moment I walked away for good, I made a vow to never date
a narcissist ever again. On top of that I even told myself "I don't ever want to be a narcissist either"
I liken my experience to a young kid going into prison to talk to prison inmates who want to
scare them straight, as in never commit crimes or you're going to end up where I am in prison!
So celebrate being a better person! I'm not telling you to get blind drunk or host a party
but celebrate the fact that you're wishing to get better... wishing to be a healthier person and
leave a more positive impact on this earth rather than the opposite, which only causes pain suffering
misery and negativity. Not many people want to get better and good or want to make a difference
By not want to being a narcissist and taking the time out of your life to learn how not to as well
is a huge step in the right direction. Pat yourself on the back for making that choice
and of course for watching this video!