When Life Changes. Life begins not when you’re born,
but when you make your first decision.. until then, you’re not living, you’re just alive.
We are the sum of all decisions we have made in
our lives based on the environment and the resources we have at our disposal.
But your life has changed a lot and will continue to do so.
By the end of this video, not only you’ll have an inventory of the biggest changes you’ve
encountered so far, and start thinking about the changes coming up ahead. Let’s do this!
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Remember when you were little?
Remember how the world looked and felt?
Life was on autopilot. You went to school, you listened to your parents, you played with the kids
who lived around you and time was slow to pass. One day it was the last you were all together
playing outside your house and y’all didn’t know it was the last day.
Then life changed… but it changed by design.. By choice.
The first big change in someone’s life happens:
When you move out..
When you’re no longer tied to your birthplace. You got off the train running on autopilot.
Now it’s you against the world. It’s awesome and hard at the same time,
but your mind changes, your personality changes to better adapt to this new reality.
Moving out requires you to cut dependencies and figure out how to fend for yourself.
It’s the true test of independence and a measure of strength. Doing ok on your own
is definitely more impressive than doing well while still living with your parents.
With the way property prices and living costs are rising,
the trend is precisely backwards. Covid didn’t help either.
This Pew Research Center graph shows us that 52%
of young adults are living with their parents and that number is only going up.
This is the Highest Number Of American Young Adults Live With Their Parents
Since The Great Depression.
This trend would be a positive one, if parental relationships weren’t so biased. Basically,
parents don’t usually make for good room-mates,
because you’re still feeding off the umbilical cord.
This leads to a general lack of personal development which
later on ends up affecting your future relationships.
So move out and survive on your own!
The second time your life change is when: When you figure out who you are..
(or at least who you’re working towards becoming)
Finding your identity is by far the biggest changing point in one’s life.
Because everything you do from that point forward is the result of figuring out:
what the hell do you want from life?
A smart person proceeds to do just that.
This is one of our all time favorite quotes by Confucius:
They say every man has two lives and that the
second one begins when he realizes he has only one!
This cuts deep, especially if you’re feeling like you're wasting your life away.
Try, experiment, figure out who you are, what you like, and what do you find purpose in, then
do it with all your heart and you will find happiness and fulfillment.
To support the previous point, you can never find out who you are
if other people are the ones choosing the identity for you!
So choose it for yourself, for you only get one shot at this, might as well be your freaking self!
It is only after you find yourself that you
are able to evolve onto the next big change in your life, that of:
Finding your person..
People don’t devote enough time to picking their partners.
Statistically, this is the person that will have the biggest
long term impact out of every other human out there.
Romance is actually the single biggest life-regret among individuals.
Neal Roese, a Kellogg professor of marketing, finds that romance is the most
common source of regret among Americans. Other common sources of regret include
family interactions, education, career, finances and parenting.
The discrepancy is huge between men and women:
About 44 percent of women reported romance regrets versus 19 percent of men.
Women also had more family regrets than men.
About 34 percent of men reported having work-oriented regrets
versus 27 percent of women reporting similar regrets.
This is why divorce rates are so high.
People are rushing into things that are not a good fit long term.
This try-adjust-remove-find-anew works when it comes to a career, hobbies or even
friends - but when you try to use it on a romantic partner, all you're doing is burning up fast.
You don’t have many “true loves” in your life… so use your opportunities wisely!
Because in the spur of the moment, your life might change:
When your child is born
There’s an unreal feeling when you find out you’re going to be a parent. It’s like
the sudden waking up from a dream: your eyes finally open up.
It’s almost primal. Your lizard brain had been
programmed for this moment millennia ago and you’re abiding by said code,
the same code that brought you into existence. It’s nature getting its own way.
The meaning of life is to create life!
Making the decision to have a child is momentous.
It is to decide forever to have your heart, your genes and a good portion of your soul, roam around
outside your body. For the first time in your existence, your existence is no longer about you.
Take a moment to deeply think about it:
you are in charge of installing the software for this new being.
You teach them values, how to navigate the world, how to overcome fears and then you
send them out into the world hoping they’ll be able to find who they’re meant to be.
The role of the parent is to be a reflection of the world for the child!
That way you teach them how to thrive and find happiness in being alive.
For years you get to polish their core value systems until they are ready to form their own.
They are not you, you are just responsible to equip
them with the best tools you can - all while being terrified that you have no idea what you’re doing.
But there’s a moment in everyone’s life when they
realize they are now the captain of the ship. That’s: When your father dies..
Freud said that no man is truly a man until his father dies.
For.. what is a father? If not the answer to the
unknowns of life. Someone who’s been into the unknown and can help you navigate it;
someone you can run to when you need help; someone to protect you.
A father stands between you and the danger that lies in the darkness ahead.
Carl Jung took it one step further when he concluded that this doesn’t have to
be a literal death, but can happen metaphorically.
There comes a moment in one’s journey where they realize
their parents can no longer help them - not because they don’t have the desire,
but because they don’t know anything more than you do, so you are your own parent now.
It’s weird when you experience it. It’s the first time you see your parents as
people and not these identities you have built up in your head.
They don’t know any better. Their shine can no longer light the road ahead for you.
This usually happens around the time you have a
family of your own and you are ready to move into the role of the father yourself.
For some people, it might happen sooner - and these people are warriors.
They face the world earlier than they should, but it calluses the skin.
You don’t mess around with those who had to survive on their own early.
If you’re one of the luckier ones where life unfolds steadily,
you should see your child experience life for themselves, and you’ll be a part of it.
You are playing the role of the father now, and it changes you in the process.
And then the world changes again:
When your child moves out..
Think about who you are and what you’ve been through to get to this point.
You’ve had the identity of the child.
Then you were the explorer of the world finding yourself and your place in it.
You found someone who you can face the darkness with
and then you took on the identity of the parent.
For roughly 20 years all you’ve done is to make sure that your child is
equipped to become an explorer in their own right.
20 years is a long time to do anything, because it gets ingrained in you.
So what happens when your child leaves the home? What happens to your identity of a parent?
It doesn’t go away… it never will for as long as your child is alive, you will remain their parent,
but the parental identity no longer serves you or them, so you are forced to change again.
To find yourself once more. To find your place in a world that changed
so much - while you were changing diapers, bandaids, bike chains, spare tires and more.
Outside of your partner, there’s no one left depending on you. So who are you?
Where do you draw your purpose from?
That’s for you to find. If you’re in your 20s or early 30s,
this is what’s happening with your parents. They’ve been parents for
so long that they forgot how to be people. Be kind and tolerant of them.
Ideally, this search gets you to your final big stop in your journey,
a moment that changes your reality once more. It’s
When you find peace..
This is not about death, but about life.
Peace is the square root of happiness!
It’s when your world is in equilibrium.
You’ve been running for decades. You’ve been running for so long that you forgot
what you were running from or if it’s even chasing you anymore.
But everyone who runs, runs with a purpose, that of not having to run away.
At this stage in your life there’s nothing to run from. Everything good about life is already here.
This last change doesn’t have to happen when your kid goes away or you become a
grandparent - although that’s generally when most people can afford the luxury of introspection.
Your entire life is designed so that you procreate and find peace. A life well lived achieves both.
We like that word: PROCREATE, because it attaches an improvement to the creation part.
A better you, for a better world. PRO - CREATE.
Everything else in life are just sub-chapters of everything we mentioned earlier.
Whatever you’re going through right now, whatever problem you might be facing, take a moment
to zoom out and see in which stage of your life you are and it will reveal what you’re missing.
We talk a lot about money, wealth and how to build it, grow it, thrive in an ever-changing world,
but understand that it’s not only the world that’s changing.. You are as well.
So in a moment of complete honesty, we wanna find out: What stage of change are you right now?
Let us know in the comments!
As for those of you who always watch these videos until the very end, of course, there’s a bonus:
Change is accelerating!
You’re experiencing it right now.
Change is social, technological and correlated to our experiences.
There’s something we call the GOLDEN TOP of your life,
something like a Goldilocks period in your existence where your ability to understand
what’s happening, your ability to perform in the market and your mental acuity are at their peak.
Some of you are in the Golden top years of your life right now. You’ve been climbing the
mountain and now you see what’s above the clouds. This is when you need to cash in.
These are the years that will make all the difference in your life.
For nobody stays up here for long,
eventually you’ll have to come back down and others will take your spot.
We want you to really think about this Golden Top where your ability
perfectly fits into the market and make sure you don’t waste it.
If that’s you, we want you to put some fuel on that fire,
because you’re unlikely to ever be this smart, this healthy, this young,
this connection and see clearly what you need to do to get everything you want out of life.
Do it… do it now, before your world changes!
If this is the kind of advice that resonates with you, write the word: GOLDEN in the comments.
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