Foreign guys are cold I almost never seen my dad hold my mom's hands
how do Japanese guys show love yeah that's a hard question
hi everyone Chandler I'm from China hi I'm Miku from Japan
Hi I'm from Madrigeti India. Hi I'm Edgar Allan I'm from
the Philippines hi I'm Joanna I'm from South Korea
I'd say from my generation definitely very traditional in general I'd say China is a
traditional country when it comes to dating in Japan I would say I'm a modern because
many couples even when they're in University student they move in together when they are
dating India is still quite traditional especially non-urban areas especially with the caste system
if you date outside of caste and you are not from a modern family you're getting killed
like honor killing is a thing but in urban areas people are moving in together before
marriage in University however they still hide it from their parents but things are evolving
I would say Philippines is more modern right now me personally I'm more traditional I will
still serenade you if I want to - for the longest time whoa I think in South Korea it's
still pretty traditional in terms of dating there is a really big like party culture in
Korea but I would say in general pretty much any - all the customs all the sort of cultural
things that a lot of people do I would say it's still on the traditional side um
traditional here what's up oh interesting what about the most modern
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what do you guys consider as like traditional or more modern aspects of dating meeting the parents
meeting parents - pleasing the parents. they're saying like in China when you get married or
when you are with somebody you're not with that individual you're with their family as well so
like family definitely gets involved a lot dating is more like an English term right I don't think
it's called dating it's more like a relationship like - yeah yeah it's more committed than
casual dating yeah actually that was like a new thing that I sort of discovered when I came back
to Canada which was the term dating because I would feel like in Korea dating means you're in
a relationship but I feel like in Toronto we're in like North America dating means like let's get
to know each other let's go on a few dates we're not a thing yet until we actually discuss it to be
exclusive so that was something I felt was quite different because I feel like in Korea it's like
if we're dating we're in a relationship and I feel like you get together first and then get to know
each other afterwards that is definitely a thing in India as well there is no dating phase you're
straight up in a relationship like the question is asked would you want to be my girlfriend it's
not like hey do you want to go on a date that's why you guys are most traditional I feel like
when you are still struggling with your life that much you don't really think about oh I'm
gonna test the water I'm gonna see a lot of people many options when I see someone I'm gonna settle
down with this person so that mindset is still more like in a developing country I feel like
that's why like China is like somewhere in the middle when we are in teenager high school we
just bring the boyfriend to a house you introduce mom so they don't really expect us to get married
that's the introducing to parents is nothing much like serious things yeah my parents didn't
know about my high school boyfriend my teachers called hey your daughter is you know misbehaving
by having boyfriends in high school in which of your countries isn't a must to get married
raise your hand you must get married like you must get mad like that's the expectations that
you're gonna get married I think so what is like the gender roles do you think in your countries
giving me go on a date for the first time or even like whenever we go on a date with boyfriends we
as women kind of expect them to pay also they want to pay as well yeah I think in Japan too
definitely in Korea that's like the norm it's like kind of expected like even my brother too
it's just like and I have a lot of friends where I think the guy does pretty much everything like
it's on the first date I would say 90% of the time they pay for everything. Indian men are very
romantic they will do everything so I don't know if it's more expectation or just they do
it because I mean Bollywood man they wear their hearts on their sleeves. I would usually pay and
then we if there's a second third date then we'll probably talk in the middle try to negotiate our
way through Chinese girls they don't expect you to to make everything perfect right because it's
kind of hard to like pick the best restaurant or bring the flowers and those things they're
not really in your face about those things as lo ng as you pay. In Korea age does have a really big factor
in dating and so if I'm dating like an older guy it's like the Oppa that we all hear in the
kdramas I would say it's pretty much guaranteed I would say it's actually different if we're the
same age then there's a more friendly outlook. I do have a question about in India because you
said Indian guys are really romantic yes right that's the first time I heard that like because
what I've heard about Indian guys is they're very persistent they can come off strong and I still
realize that there is a culture where taking no for an answer has been a very culminated into
them so apart from the problematic things aside they are quite romantic in terms of gestures like
they won't shy away from big gestures I don't think Chinese guys would act like that oh they
do not yeah I don't think they I don't think Chinese guys are like that because East Asian
people are shy in general sometimes you will feel or maybe this is not respectful to the girl when
you a little bit like touchy or like when you show your feelings or emotions. I'll run most of
the cooking flowers gifts we don't even celebrate anniversaries anymore we go by month-iversaries the
specific time that you for example if it's January 1st February 1st will be your monster oh we're
gonna celebrate that like it's an anniversary we got a dinner we got a good date we're gonna take
you to theme park I realized a lot here Japanese guys are cold they don't act like romantic they
don't bring the flowers don't say something to compliment the women you look beautiful they
don't really say things they show with action but it's hard to tell for I think for longer
but Japanese people Japanese girl like that but once we know how other guys show their love and
in romantic way we feel like that's we feel more loved for example my parents have been together
for a long time like more than 30 years and they are so good together they go out together on the
weekend as well still I almost never see my dad hold my mom's hands or my dad say something like
good things about my mom we go on a trip a lot of times together but he always walked ahead of us
so my mom is like a little bit behind. Sex before marriage? Yes did you say yes in which countries is
it taboo sex before marriage yes Edgar well then I have a feeling you should move then I do but I
feel like I should say if you've noticed like in kdramas like even a kiss is like really they make
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I would say in the past two or three years there's been more dramas that
show more realistic like kiss scenes or anything more than that but I would say it's still pretty
rare so I think that actually reflects kind of like what the general mentality is this is gonna
probably get me in trouble even but prior to the current ruling government things were a little
bit more open on TV and now things are getting more censored yeah people are just getting more
touchy now because of they want to preserve Indian traditional values it's mostly kissing if you want
to see anything other than that you got to go to the special theater that's still no no that'd be
Premiere older movies that have like intense bed scenes but they're not really sad they're
not really sex scenes it's just that they call them bold like this thing like useful they still
call them "bold" yeah they're still called 'bold' in India as well in Japan we have a TV program 9 p.m
so it's still teenager can watch but they talk about sex they talk about in TV programs so and
also in Japan the kind of industry like something sexual related is pretty big if you want to go
to that kind of place that's so achievable. It's really easy to go I'm not surprised yeah [Music]
How do Japanese guys show love if they don't well express it verbally or through physical gestures?
because you don't physical gesture yeah that's a hard question like I say it's
not easy to see like it's not something that we can see but so how do you feel it?
That's why she had a Korean boyfriend! That's so hard to tell - I don't know - I don't want to date Japanese guys anymore!