- Hey, what's up,
It's me, Jessica Jay.
And I was just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself
"Uhhhh, what words attract all women?"
Well I'm so glad you asked,
because as today's video may have implied,
I'm going to tell you what two words
take all women by the heartstrings,
and into your,
wherever you want her really
and you want her in bed,
you want her in the palm of your hand,
you want her in your passenger seat,
then that's where you're going to get her.
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Okay, so first let's dissect a few things.
When I talk about attracting women,
what exactly is attraction?
To me attraction via,
I mean I would say the opposite sex,
but let's just say romantic attraction
in and of itself is something that doesn't cross
or come across your regular relationships,
such as your friendships,
your family relationship
your working relationships.
And desire is the one thing
in romantic relationships that you can't get
in those other levels of your life.
So in terms of attracting women,
women at our core are,
we desire a man who will
be able to take care of us,
us when we're pregnant,
and us after we have that kid,
because that is what desire leads to,
and is meant to induce from a biological standpoint.
Again, our bodies don't know that we're not
in caveman days anymore.
They have no idea that,
you know, we are in the age of air fryers
and air pods.
Our bodies just know that like
Okay sexy time means procreation time.
So we women at our core are still intrinsically looking
for certain qualities when it comes to our romantic partner.
So let's cut to the motherfucking chase.
Two words that we women
all turn our attention to,
and therefore chase after in a man
are the words "I want."
So now let's dissect this statement,
these two simple words, really quick.
So in the realm of couples therapy, even family therapy,
the staple of communication is using "I" statements.
So for instance, you can say something like,
"you're a big bitch and every time you do this
you look really ugly."
Or you can say,
"I was really hurt by the fact that
you called me a stupid fucking idiot,
and it made me not want to
put my peen in your vageen anymore."
Do you see the difference?
We immediately trust and become interested
in people that seem similar to us,
and the fastest way to make yourself
seem similar to a woman at the very least,
it's you show your human qualities.
Like I always say what's the number one thing
we all have in common?
I have in common with you,
you have in common with my mom,
my mom has in common with your mom,
it's the fact
that we all got here the same way,
and we're all leaving the same way.
It's our human experiences.
So when you use an "I" statement,
you're immediately humanizing yourself
in the perspective of whoever's listening to you.
So that's step number one,
and the two words "I want."
So by first, putting yourself
in a position to be connected to
with saying "I want,"
we women are automatically like
"oh my God, he's like me,
oh my God I'm immediately interested in him
because my number one interest is myself
and he's like myself
so I am interested in him
cause he said 'I.'"
I know it's really fucking simple,
but that's the name of the game.
Now, moving forward,
the words "I want" put you in a position
of authority and assertion.
Two things that we women look for
when it comes to discerning who should be in our vaginas.
It is at our core something we all absolutely need,
because when we let you into our vaginas,
what our bodies think is,
"okay, go time,
we're going to have a baby,
and that's going to take nine months,
so we're going to need someone to protect us
from the t-rex during those nine months.
And we need someone who can stick
around and find us resources and shit for me
and this baby."
So assertion and authority,
two things that,
do you know the leadership in a man,
and make us think
that "that's that guy,
that's my guy that's going to take on the T-Rex
after we pound pound it in pound town."
I'll give you an example of,
You know I have a client that I was talking to yesterday,
Bless his heart,
I told him I was going to use him as an example.
So as the example, he's talking to this girl right now,
and he says to this girl,
they've been, they've been talking
for quite some time now via text exchange over Instagram.
And he says to her, eventually,
this is him shooting his shot.
"So what do you think about video chatting sometime?"
Her response,
"Um, I'm not opposed to it,
but like, I'm just like really busy,
I only got a really busy schedule and such."
Now he and all his friends, his guy friends, were like
"yeah bro, you did it,
yeah bro I did it I shot my shot"
(whoop)
However,
why is that a bad...
I hate saying the words good or bad,
Why is that an unsavory statement
to put forth to the woman you want?
I'll tell you why,
because what you're doing is
you're giving up your authority,
you're giving up your leadership,
you're giving up your driver's seat and saying like,
"Hey, I don't know how you feel
so why don't you get in the driver's seat,
and it'll be up to you if we go anywhere."
"How do you feel about XYZ"
is the same thing about saying like
"would you want to go out sometime?
What do you think about getting a drink sometime?
I guess it maybe you're interested,
we could hang out."
What you're doing is you're putting the ball in her court,
and we don't want the balls in our court,
we don't know what to do with the balls in our court.
We know what to do with them in our mouths and face,
but that's about it.
We don't know how to do much else with them.
So, we're very much toss that ball on out of there,
and find another guy who knows what to do with that ball.
(tongue clicks)
And if you know that you have problems
with little phrases like this,
your words mean everything
especially nowadays in this post pandemic,
not barely post pandemic world,
where people are wearing masks,
people are doing zoom dates,
your word is everything.
So if you know you struggle with being that assertive guy,
being the leader who doesn't come off as a jerk.
I know y'all don't want to be assholes out there,
so if you know you still need to be that guy
without being the one who's a fucking jerk,
don't forget to check out how to do so
in my Speak to Spark Arousal program,
which will show you key distinctions and differences,
such as "how do you feel about video chatting" versus
"listen chick I think you're fucking great,
and I'd love to video chat sometime this week,
what does your week look like?"
So those are the two words that will instinctively
attract absolutely any woman you come across.
And then from there, it's up to you
what woman you do want to take along
in your passenger seat.
So make sure you "I want, I want, I want" from here on out.
Thanks for watching as always,
and I'll see you guys next time.