Hey there, this is Clay with www.relationshipinnergame.com and today we are going to, this is a special
message out there for those of you who, are going through a breakup who are trying to
make things right between you and your ex.
Maybe you can get back together with your ex.
Okay?
And this is about sending your ex a dead bird in the mail.
Okay?
That might sound a little bit weird and maybe some of you out there who don't want to get
back together with your ex, might actually send your extra dead bird in the mail.
But if you do remember it was your own choice.
Not Mine, not my fault, don't sue me.
Okay. but anyway, sending your ex a dead pet in the mail.
So what's this all about? so, when I was growing up as a kid, we had three cats in our household.
Right?
And you know, if you've ever grown up with kids or anything or with cats a or anything
like that, you know that cats can do some strange things, some of which include bringing
little treasures home for you, right?
Including dead birds, dead mice and stuff like that.
And I remember there was this one time that our cat brought home this bird, it was heavily
injured.
It was right there on the, you know, doormat.
And we opened the door to let the cat in.
The cat comes in with the bird, drops it on the floor and a bird's not quite dead.
So the birds like, fluttering around the house, like my mom is freaking out the birds, like,
flopping around in the corner or something.
We had to get rid of the bird and like get it out the door.
It was a dramatic night to say the least, nice interruption from Algebra homework.
But yeah, that, that's essentially what I did.
And here's the thing though, even though that was horrifying for us, terrifying for us.
I'm disgusting for us to, for the cat.
It was an act of love, right?
The, the cat, you know, she brought home the dead bird, not quite dead bird.
And it was, it was like an act of love.
It's like, Hey, you know, I like you guys.
I went out hunting, I found this, you know, nice juicy bird and wanting to bring it home
so he could, you know, I'll partake in this wonderful feast.
That was a nice sentiment.
I appreciate the intention behind it, but it was not received on the same level, let's
just put it that way. and the same thing can happen when people are trying to get through
to their ex, when they're trying to connect with their extra or basically, you know, reach
out and restore that emotional bond between them and their exes is that they may take
these actions that to them are very well intentioned, very, you know, loving and thoughtful, like,
you know, look at getting the dead bird right, but for their ex, it's not going to come across
as that, like really loving thing to do that really a thing that's going to say like, Hey,
this is wonderful.
Let's get back together.
Let's start talking again.
Let's, let's bond and connect and all of that wonderful stuff, right? and you know, this
could take any number of forms, you know, like writing your ex a love song or something
like that.
If you're a bit of a musician or a heartfelt poem or, or apologizing a thousand times or,
or swearing up and down that you'll change for good or whatever it might be.
you know, you're, you, you might do these things that to you are a genuine act of love,
something of genuine care and compassion and all of that stuff.
But to your ex it's not going to come across that way.
just due to the emotional state that they are in a, you know, kind of where they're
at.
We've talked about an emotional reactions before in several videos previously.
So I'm not going to like, go over that too much here.
But, but, you know, your ex is in this reactance state and things like, you know, the love
song, the romantic poem, the gifts, the flowers, the chocolates, the romantic getaways, the
even, you know, some people even will fly across the country and surprise there exes
with a you know, unexpected, you know, marriage proposal or something like that.
And those usually don't end very well.
but you know, that's kind of like bringing your ex a dead bird or sending your ex a dead
bird in the mail, right? that, that's not exactly going to have the desired outcome,
the desired effect, because you have to really understand what your ex is at emotionally
and be able to respond and meet your ex where they are at emotionally.
So that's one of the reasons why what we teach so much through a, what we do with our email
newsletter over our www.relationshipinnergame.com or are a course for people who want to get
back together with their ex or even with these videos is we try to teach you how to see things
from your ex's point of view so that you can kind of know your ex is at and meet them there
so that there's not like this weird disconnect.
And your ex is basically like, why are you bringing me those dead bird, right?
Because that's not fun. and, you know, just spending all this time planning, plotting
and planning, these, these romantic gestures and stuff like that just to have them backfire,
fall flat or just give you the exact polar opposite result that you are hoping for.
It's not fun.
And, you know, I've heard lots of stories that people have shared so I know from experience
and also from firsthand experience to a, from things like when I was trying to get back
together with my ex, you know, way back when, that things like that don't work and you really
need to be able to meet your ex where they are at emotionally and be able to respond
from that place if you are to rebuild that connection, restore that emotional bond, and
eventually even get to the place where you can have that conversation about getting back
together.
So if you would like to learn more about how you can, really understand where your ex's
is emotionally and get through to them and connect them and bond with them and even,
you know, get back together with them.
Here's what you do next.
First of all, there's lots of videos on this youtube channel.
You can go ahead and check those out.
Those have helped lots of people, but if you want to get a little bit more help, what I'd
suggest that you do is that you go to www.relationshipinnergame.com and you sign up for our email newsletter.
They are so that we can start sending your advice and tips and strategies to help you
connect with and bond with and get through to your ex so that you can get back together
with them.
Okay, so please go ahead and check out www.relationshipinnergame.com.
This has been Clay and I will talk to you again in the next video.
Oh, and also please don't send your ex dead birds.
Okay.