it always amazes me and saddens me too
that so many people i see put so much
effort
into trying to make someone love them by
trying to change when if they put half
that effort into loving themselves
they would attract so much love you see
when you're trying to change yourself
that means you must be criticizing
yourself i'm going to punish my body so
it looks better i'm going to put myself
down in the hope that i will get better
i'm going to look at all my flaws and
try to get rid of them
don't be your own worst critic
be your own best friend what would you
say to a best friend darling you're
amazing who cares if you've got a bit of
cellulite that has nothing to do with
how lovable you are you're a great guy
you're interesting and funny and any
girl would be lucky to have you you know
what you would say to your best friend
say that to yourself do not get sucked
into
being a critic you know so often i work
on the radio maybe i work with a big
group and i always want to give my group
a take or i want to give the audience
something some little thing they can do
straight away that i know will change
their life and i always say to them do
not let in
destructive criticism don't beat
yourself up don't feel bad about
yourself instead of criticizing yourself
praise yourself i know for a fact there
is nothing
that can build you up the way
self-praise does self-praise
boosts
your self-esteem and criticism withers
it and diminishes it
and good people praise and people who
feel bad about themselves criticize
because critics
always
have the most criticism reserved for
themselves
don't criticize yourself praise yourself
don't put all your effort into making
someone else fall in love with you
you need to put your effort into you
falling in love with you and then the
world will change
so dramatically and it's actually not
hard
to fall in love with yourself i know
it's a throwaway word fall in love with
yourself love yourself more how do you
do that it's actually very simple
first of all you start by praising
yourself on a regular basis you don't
wake up go ugh look at the state of me
i've gained weight or my hair's a mess
or i didn't do the project i should have
done i'm an idiot you don't do that
you look in the mirror and you say nice
things to yourself just the way you'd
say to your best friend or your kid and
we all know how to do that and then you
start to change your password so they
say like you're lovable you're amazing
i'm great i'm wonderful i'm lovable and
i know it sounds pollyanna i know it
sounds cheesy i know it sounds cringy
you know what else i know
it
absolutely works
write phrases to yourself on your mirror
leave little notes to yourself make sure
you're saying it thinking and repeating
on a regular basis i am lovable i am
lovable what's wrong with telling
yourself you're lovable because you know
what
if you don't believe it
how can you expect anyone else to
believe it and when you do believe it
other people believe it too and even if
you say go this is all crazy and it
doesn't work it makes no difference when
you say
i'm lovable every day i'm lovable
i'm worthy of love i'm deserving of love
your mind goes oh
there's that phrase you say every day it
must be true and then it sinks in
so say it every day because you have a
choice we all have a choice here's your
choice i could say every day i'm an
idiot
i'm overweight i don't have anything
going i'm not good enough the kind of
people i like don't like me that's
choice one here's choice two i'm lovable
i have something to offer i'm worth it i
matter i'm a great person
and you can choose whichever one you
want but you know what you can't choose
what happens to your health when you
diminish yourself and criticize yourself
on a regular basis
your immune system gets weak you get all
kinds of issues and illnesses you invite
depression and anxiety you have a choice
make the right choice
big up yourself
praise yourself fall in love with who
you are
just because you're you after all what
is your great person go i love you
because you're you
i just love you because you're you we
all want to hear that
say it to yourself and you know what the
quicker you can say and believe it the
quicker someone else is going to say it
to you and believe it too so start today
fall in love with yourself is the
beginning
of a lifelong romance and guess what it
never disappoints you
never bores you and it never goes away
if you'd like to learn more
sign up for my free masterclass with
mindvalley where you are going to learn
how to make your mind your best friend
your most supportive ally and you'll be
surprised at how easy it is and how
effective it is
i really look forward to seeing you
there
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