How to make any man fall in love with you?
Well not sure if you can make a man do anything but I do know that there are five emotions
that a man must feel in order to let down his emotional walls.
And feel vulnerable enough and safe enough to be able to connect with you.
And what it comes down to is you being able to play your cards correctly.
Now when I say cards what I mean is it's an acronym that stands for making a man feel
CHALLENGED, making him feel AWE, RESPECTED, DESIRED, and EMOTIONALLY SAFE.
So we'll start with the first one which is challenged.
How do you make a man feel challenged?
Quite simply how to make a man feel challenged is by staying true to your values, having
something that you stand for in the relationship, knowing who you are, having clear boundaries
around what's important to you, and then being able to express clearly to him if he crosses
those boundaries, and have a conversation about it.
So when you are able to have your own values around maybe it's how he treats you when he's
with his friends, maybe he does something out of ignorance that upsets you, and you
being able to bring that to the table and talk to him about that.
You communicate that you respect yourself, and therefore he has a model to respect you,
and it also asks him to step up and be a more aware, more integrated person if he's going
to be with you which is in itself challenging.
Men want challenge they thrive off the challenge.
I mean look at just how competitive men are in general.
A lot of women may make a mistake of thinking, “Well if I'm going to challenge a man, I’ve
got to be in competition with him.”
But competition is going to produce the opposite result with a man if you're competing with
him.
In fact, it's going to diminish attraction.
It is going to make him throughout more walls and create a bigger gap between the two of
you.
So the next emotion is awe.
They can feel awe.
How do you do that?
Well you do that by being rooted in your family unity and that means being able to bring your
emotions at the table for a man.
Because here's a secret about guys, we are taught at a very young age, most of us, to
disown a very wide spectrum of our emotions because they're either seen as weak inadequate
or unacceptable.
So guys grow up being very one-dimensional typically with what they can experience what
they allow themselves to experience around maybe lust, or rage, or accomplishment, pride,
or things of that nature.
But when you can bring your full emotional palette to the relationship he by-curiously
gets to experience those emotions, he gets to experience himself in those emotions in
a completely different way than maybe he has ever in his entire life.
And in that it brings a sense of awe it brings a sense of beauty.
It's when you're able to do this, what it does is it's he starts to talk to his friends
he says, “God there’s just something about her I'm not sure what it is.”
And it's that he's seen himself within you and within the relationship from a completely
different vantage point.
So the next one is respect.
How do you make a man feel respected?
Well, look for the areas in which he is really trying hard to be something and give him acknowledgement
for it.
Give him encouragement to be a man that that he wants to be but maybe doesn't believe that
he can be.
Tell him that you’re proud of him.
Tell him that you believe in him.
Tell him that he makes you feel safe.
These are all things that make a man feel really respected by you.
Telling a man you love him is important absolutely but men are thirsting for respect that's why
men are competing with guys all the time as they grow up.
As we want respect so deeply that when a woman can give us the respect that we are asking
for it has a very soothing calming effect on our neurology.
The next one is desire.
You've got to make him feel desire.
You’ve got to make them feel desired by you and you got to make him feel that he is
desiring you.
And a lot of women they sometimes, they miss this one up and they mess it up.
And how they do that is when a man pulls away, which inevitably happens in all relationships,
the guy will pull away and he'll collect himself and find who he is again and come back into
the relationship, the woman panics and worries about him pulling away.
And she doesn't give him the space to feel like he's missing her or for him to build
up that desire and then come back into the relationship.
So when you are able to give him the space to miss you, and you're able to stay confident
that he's going to come back when he pulls away when maybe you have an early intimate
connection until he takes a couple of steps back.
And you're able to be calm and allow him to do that, you allow that desire to build with
him and hit within him, he gets to see you more clear that your confident woman that
you respect him and he'll want you even more.
Also send him sexy text during the day.
Let him know how attractive you are to him.
Let him know that he touches you in ways that no other man has in the past and that sex
with him is the best ever.
And be real about it, if it's not work on that.
It's completely possible.
Lastly he needs to feel safe.
And a lot of what we talked about in the first four will help him feel safe.
And when I say safe I mean emotionally safe, not necessarily physically safe but emotionally
safe, because when you can make a man feel emotionally safe he begins to let down his
guard.
And he feels more comfortable talking to you about his emotions, he feels more comfortable
being himself around you, he feels more relaxed in the relationship with you becomes this
fountain of youth for him rather than something that seems like a chore or an obligation.
So how you make him feel emotionally safe is by dropping any bitterness and resentment
that you're holding against him.
And more importantly that you really trust him and that you allow yourself to be vulnerable
in his presence and you trust that even if he breaks your heart it's strong enough…
excuse me it's important and it's a worthy thing to have your heart broken over is you
being vulnerable, and that by protecting yourself, by holding back, by not being fully in the
relationship because you're worried that he's gonna break your heart, you're actually setting
up a dynamic where he's not going to be vulnerable with you.
Because the two of you are playing this game of protection.
So in the world of emotions, it's your job as the woman to go first.
You know, you don't have to but I’m requesting that you do because you're more comfortable
with emotions than man is.
And the more comfortable you can be being vulnerable and open and also truthful with
him too, right?
So when he crosses boundaries, you talk to him about that.
He knows where he stands with you.
He knows that you're comfortable with emotions and therefore he feels like he knows who he
is in a relationship.
He knows where your boundaries are and he feel safe enough to continue to open and be
emotional with you.
So in summary: make him feel challenged, make him feel awe, make him feel respected, they
can feel desire and they can feel emotionally safe.
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