sometimes I watch young guys or young girls the way they dress the kind of
attention that they seek and you know it's not because they want to it's
because they're hurting and next thing that happens is the kind of guys they
get that kind of things they get eventually they're like man I always get
heartbroken I always hard I always get you know
these people who leave me wounded I said well you know if you stop putting out
the bait you will stop attracting those things but the reason why we put out
that bait is because we are hurting it's not because we want to act this way
it's because we grew up without a father or maybe we've been abused before or
maybe we feel that I'm insecure and so I want to tell you something that God
first wants us to find wholeness in him if you are taking notes write this
down a relationship with God will make you whole all relationships will reveal
your holes every relationship in your life will actually expose the holes that
you got only one relationship will make you whole if I hear another young person
says he makes me whole to me it's a first sign they're broken if she makes
you whole that means you messed up you got a walk-in already I am whole he
God makes me whole and the other person walks in and guess what happens when you
hole you don't have to settle for anything or anybody who has a lust
problem who has control problem with manipulating problem you don't have to
send your nudes you don't have to sex you don't have to give yourself away too
cheaply what because you know that you don't need them to be you you are you by
yourself you found yourself in God I know it's sexy I know it's romantic I
know it sounds cute and Instagram he makes me whole he completes me all of
that stuff is junk it is simple it means you infatuated you're drunk with
infatuation and the same God who makes you whole then begins to stock all of
your friends and send all kinds of bad stuff about you and destroy your
reputation why because if you give somebody a power to make you whole
they'll break you down I walk into a relationship knowing one thing there's
only one person in this world who has no relationship to make me whole and to
break me to pieces and that person is one who died on the cross for me and so
when I come into marriage when I come into dating I don't come to get hole I
come to be blessed I come to bless I come to love I come to bless why they
don't have the power to heal me and they don't have the power to hurt me why
because I am whole by God comon somebody but you must understand no matter how
whole you get every person in this room has gotten some holes the holes are the
things your attitude when you're one of your siblings is getting ready the holes
is is when somebody cuts you off maybe you're driving the holes maybe when the
manager you know pulls you on that shift on the 4th of July and ask you to work
and you have a barbecue to go to that's a hole for some of you the hole is is
maybe the fact that you know you're addicted to something that's that's a
hole and a lot of times when you get into a relationship you recognize you're
perfect but then they begin to reveal your holes and so many people of course
they're like oh my God I made a wrong decision no you didn't make a wrong
decision you've had these holes all of your life your mama told you you had
these holes your brother told you you had these holes your pastor told you you
got these holes your youth group leader told you you got these holes but you
always said it's not your fault and now you got somebody in your nose saying you
know what you got to deal with that or we're gonna have problems and God is like finally
I got to him marriage is not meant to make you happy
it's first meant to make you holy