By the end of this video, I'm going to tell you the
10 things a narcissist cannot do.
Okay, So there are 10 things that a narcissist just simply cannot do.
I know you think they are all powerful.
All-knowing and All-Seeing.
They want you to think that they want
you to think that they are like the Great and Powerful Oz
like in The Wizard of Oz.
I often say that narcissists are like The Wizard of Oz.
They are like, seriously, they layer it all on
like the powerful Wizard of Oz.
You're going to Oz
and you think they're so powerful
and so knowing and so you've got to go there
but they're really like the man behind the curtain like so feeble
and like not much going on and you are actually the way more powerful one.
You actually are. That actually is the truth.
They are actually way more afraid of you than you are of them
and there really are a lot of things that they can't do.
There really are a lot of things
and especially when you are negotiating with them.
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All right. So guess what?
I'm going to give you 10 tips.
The best one is at the end.
So you're going to want to make sure you stay till the end.
The best one is at the end. All right.
Ready?
They cannot take it.
Their fragile little egos cannot take it.
You know that's true.
They’re so easily slighted and sometimes, like, you're not even criticizing them.
You just like, even look the wrong way, right?
and there's like, slighted,
I always say they hear tones in your voice like dogs hear whistles.
Like even if there's no tone, they heard tone.
They cannot take criticism.
All right, so that's number one.
It cannot handle you ghosting them.
They cannot handle you like dishing out some of your own medicine to them.
Like if you start to go them a little bit,
like you don't text them back right away and just like they do to you.
You know, a little dish of their own medicine.
They cannot handle that just like what they've done to you.
They cannot handle a little dose of their own medicine back to them, right?
They go absolutely insane.
If you do that and you know that's true,
they'll show up at your house or office.
They start flooding you.
They can't take that.
They try to but they really can't
and that's really, really sad, you know.
You know that they're lying all the time.
They lie even when they don't need to.
That's the thing that I think is really very puzzling.
Sometimes like they lie even when they don't have to.
Even about things that are easily verifiable
and even when it's to their own detriment a lot of times.
They're just incapable of it because they're just not healthy people.
Unfortunately, you know, they have no sense of self.
As much as they try,
they can't be any normal healthy relationship
because they can't be in a normal healthy relationship.
You know, something happened to them
when they were younger or when something,
you know, when they were in those formative years
that made them think that the world was a very scary place
and so they're constantly in a state of survival.
You know, it's almost like they do show that vulnerability
that they feel like they'll be eaten in a way.
You know, it's like for them to survive.
They have to be in this fight or flight mode at all times.
It's very sad.
They don't have that ability to have any feeling of care
or empathy for other people because it's almost like for them to eat,
nobody else can eat
and so they're like vultures sort of picking the carcass of other like,
is there food still left in this carcass.
I always liken it to like,
you know, if I'm starving, I can't think about it
whether or not somebody else needs food
right now because I'm so starving all the time
and so that's what's really going on
and that's why they can't really show
genuine emotion about anybody else
and that's why they really can't allow
themselves to have that genuine emotion
and allow themselves to be vulnerable and allow themselves
to have that normal healthy relationship.
That's what's really going on. It's just this underlying thing
and so when you're going to negotiate with them,
it's even worse because, you know,
you've become public enemy number one
and when you're dealing with them in a negotiation setting,
you know, it's you are now for them
or against them and when you're against them,
you're public enemy numbe r one and you have to remember
that when you're dealing with them in a negotiation setting
and that's where I come in and help you
understand that when you're dealing with them
in a conversational situation.
When you're trying to have those hard conversations
when you're trying to have those conversations in a toxic situation.
You definitely want to check out my video on the
12 things that narcissist don't do.
That goes hand in hand with this video as well.
It really is very sad. It's very sad.
and if you agree with me, just put very sad in the comments
because it's too bad for them that they can't feel that.
But by the way, you can't fix that.
So don't think that you can. Don't think that you can fix that.
because they can't have that normal healthy relationship.
So they can't show that genuine emotion, so they can't be authentic as well.
Don't think that you're going to be able to fix them.
Don't think that you're going to be able to have them show that genuine emotion
and don't think that you're going to be able to have them admit their vulnerabilities
or things like that.
They cannot acknowledge others for things that they've done.
They cannot give credit to others because
it just it gives away from that sense of self
which they don't have.
When they don't have any sense of self,
they cannot give credit to others.
That's why they do the withhold.
They cannot give anything. It's almost like when you're starving,
you cannot give away anything and believe me,
I know when I was dealing with this
when in a business situation.
I mean even if you give give give give give like no matter how much you give,
they cannot give any credit for no matter what it is that you've done.
They will not acknowledge you for that.
No matter what.
They will never admit that they were wrong.
They were never apologize.
I mean it unless they have to
for strategic reasons or something like that.
But they will never actually apologized and actually mean it.
I mean they just they cannot bring themselves.
They're so jealous.
Again it goes back to that very very fragile sense of self.
When you don't have that inner sense of value.
You just, you can't be happy for others.
It's so sad, but it's just so true.
I mean when you feel good about yourself,
you can feel good about other people,
but if you don't feel good inside,
you don't feel good about other people.
Unfortunately.
and number 10.
I told you I was going to save the best for last.
This is like the Paradox.
This is the irony of narcissist.
This is the one I find so mind-blowing about them
They’re so horrible to you
and yet, they don't want you to leave.
They cannot handle you leaving them.
They don't want to be alone
but yet they were so awful to you.
Yep. So true.
It cannot handle being alone
but yet they’re so terrible to you
but you can't be responsible for them.
You can't fix it. You can't save it.
The three C's.
You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it.
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Today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I'm Rebecca Zung.
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