By the end of this video,
you're gonna have eight lies that all narcissists tell,
so that you'll be able to spot them,
by the time they are coming flying out of their mouths.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung,
I am an attorney and also a narcissist negotiation expert and
what I do is I help you get out of the drama, trauma and chaos,
so that you can shift that dynamic against them,
flip that dynamic, so you can become powerful against them
when you are negotiating with narcissists.
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So, there are lies that all narcissists tell and
what I want you to be able to do is spot them
right as soon as they're flying out of their mouths and
that way you will be able to know them right away.
What this means is,
that they're lying to you right from the beginning.
Whether it's in a romantic relationship,
a business relationship, or whatever kind of relationship,
they want you to think that they're amazing
or perfect right from the beginning.
I actually was in a business relationship with a narcissist,
so I saw this myself actually and
so they want you to think they're charming and
incredible right from the get-go.
So they'll say things like,
“Oh my God, where have you been all my life?”
“I can't believe how perfect we are for each other and
we were made for each other,
we just align so perfectly in our beliefs”.
So, those are the kinds of things
that they'll tell right from the beginning,
“We're soulmates, we were made for each other”
“We're perfect for each other”.
So that's number one, the love-bomb kind of lie.
The future fake kind of lie is
“It’s never going to happen again”.
This is when they've been caught in a lie,
they want to deflect, they want to project,
they don't want you to be dwelling on their bad behavior,
their past behavior.
So, they want a future fake,
they want you to not look at whatever they've done,
they want you to look to the future.
So, it's kind of a love-bomb,
but you've already been in the relationship,
so they just don't want you to be looking
at whatever it is that they've done.
They just want you to just move on to whatever it is.
They have no intention on keeping their promise at all,
but they just want you to not think about
whatever they've done in the past;
so they will say whatever they need to
to get you to not think about the past.
It's kind of, love bomb 2.0.
All right, the future fake is love bomb 2.0.
So, “It's never going to happen again”,
“You'll never see it again, let's just move on, blah blah”.
They’ll act like they are the most trustworthy people on the planet,
“I'm a Boy Scout”, “I'm a Girl Scout”,
I’ve actually heard those exact words
come out of my former business partners’ mouth,
100% those words.
It’s always someone else's fault.
This is the project and deflect,
they can never take responsibility for any of their own actions.
It's never anyone else's fault somehow.
They seem to think that if they shift the blame,
that people won't see that it's their fault.
I don't know.
“You're too sensitive”, Or “I never said that”,
I definitely saw that in the business relationship I was in,
“We talked about that, don't you remember?”
that sort of thing.
That's the next kind of lie that all narcissists tell us,
the gaslighting lie.
The kind of life that they try to do
to try to isolate you from everyone else,
to make you feel really, really bad.
If you want to know more about this kind of lie,
go check out my video on the narcissists’ favorite catchphrases,
definitely a whole lot more in that particular video and
you'll get to hear more about that sort of thing.
You've heard that one before too, don't fall for it.
Definitely not true, narcissists really can't change,
they don't really have the ability to change.
I mean, some do, it's pretty rare;
so I wouldn't sit around and hold out hope that that can happen,
because it's probably not going to happen.
That's number seven, the big lie, narcissists really can't change.
There's usually some kind of lie around their exes,
I would be really careful when they're saying things about their exes,
either that they were obsessed with them,
or that they're super crazy in some way,
maybe some kind of red flag around that,
maybe they actually were crazy or obsessed with them,
but maybe not, so, I don't know.
I'm wondering what you guys think about this list so far,
if you agree with me,
or if there are any other lies that you guys have seen,
I'm sure there are many more,
but this is how we catch them in these lies, right?
This is how we use this to create leverage by the way.
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I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm so glad that you stopped by.
Remember today is always a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will definitely see you in the next video.