how to get what you want using
neuro-linguistic programming
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this video actually has two parts to it
the first part will be about how to
learn NLP rapidly and the second part
will be how to use NLP to get what you
want how to actually apply it the main
way that you're going to get good at
anything is through practice NLP is no
exception however I see a lot of people
trying to just go to a training and
think that they know NLP and and that's
it they don't have to practice it
doesn't work that way NLP is a skill set
they're sure there is knowledge that you
want to learn conceptual knowledge but
it's more experiential so you definitely
need to practice it the same thing is
playing the piano you're not going to
get good at it unless you practice I get
this question all the time
how do I practice NLP how do I learn NLP
because most the time people do a
training and they're done with the
training and they're not sure what
exactly they learned and what exactly
that they practice what I also see
people doing is a few things they
practice a technique or they do a
process with the practice partner and it
doesn't work so they have usually one of
three responses they will just kind of
pretend that it worked and then move on
to the next process or technique and
they won't come back to it and work on
it some more another thing that I see is
people getting very frustrated that it
didn't work and what ends up happening
is they put a lot of energy into being
frustrated instead of putting energy
into repeating it and seeing what went
wrong and doing it until it does work
worst case scenario people just quit
altogether and then they go around
saying you know if he doesn't work with
the same analogy of playing piano what
if you took one lesson and you sat down
the piano and you really couldn't play
would you say piano lessons don't work
that'd be silly you have to
they practice so how are you practicing
and what are you doing when you're
practicing and especially what are you
doing when it doesn't work here's how to
deal with that first thing I would do is
I would have a journal and in that
journal I set out the intention for the
day what do you want to practice this
can be the hour that you set aside just
for straight practice either practice
practicing on yourself or practicing
with a practice partner if you can take
out an hour a day that is awesome that
that is a good amount of practice per
day the incremental practice of doing an
hour a day will over time be exponential
the other thing that you can do is you
can set in an intention of things that
you want to do during the day every time
you encounter someone this might be
watching their breathing listening for
their breathing listening for sensory
predicates noticing their skin tone and
and if it changes and when it changes
why is it changing what's corresponding
with it so you can set these little
intentions for every time you encounter
someone you're gonna look for these
things and then later when you get more
advanced you can start implementing
language patterns and just say okay I'm
gonna find every chance that I can to
implement this particular language
pattern so you're just chunking it down
you're you're setting the intention
during the day and you go through your
day using it and then also taking that
hour out of practice time at the end of
all that you want to journal about it's
okay
this is what I did and here were my
findings a lot of times people will come
back to me and say I didn't get anything
I didn't find anything and what I always
tell them is it's more important
especially in the beginning it's more
important that you're looking for this
you're looking for the results and
you're receptive to the new information
to the results whatever it is that
you're looking for later you'll want to
start getting a little more specific
about what results you want but in the
beginning you just want to be looking
for it opening your senses to receiving
it now like I said a lot of people quit
at this point a lot of people get really
frustrated at this point or a lot of
people just pretend like oh yeah I got
the result and then they move on so what
you want to do instead of getting
frustrated instead of quitting instead
of pretending allow there to be
a void allow there to be a void of you
didn't get the result you're not filling
that void with emotional noise you're
not feeling the void with frustration
that's normally what we want to do
there's a void and so that void wants to
be filled think about those awkward
pauses that you sometimes have with
someone where nobody's saying anything
but both of you feel like you have to
say something that that's one of those
voids it's like a void has a vacuum it
has a suction it's trying to pull
something in to fill it up so when we're
when something's not working when we're
learning something and it's not working
or we're not learning or we're not
getting the result that we want it
creates a void and that void is tempting
for you to get frustrated and fill that
void with frustration or is tempting to
just shut the void down and walk away
that would be quitting and it's also
tempting to just pretend like the voids
not there and that you did get what you
wanted so what would it be like to just
sit in that void you put the effort out
there you waited you didn't get the
result but you allow that void to be
there this is when you start to
cultivate that patience that is so
necessary for this practice if you're
able to sit in that void and you are
able to it's more it's more a matter of
wanting to recognizing what's happening
in wanting to when you sit in that void
and you keep putting the effort out you
keep looking you keep opening your
senses and being receptive to a result
into new information that void will
create a vacuum and it will come I can't
tell you exactly how it will come that's
kind of the personal journey in NLP it
will show up so believe me if you allow
it if you open yourself to it and you're
able to just hold that space it will
come when it comes to really applying
NLP and making NLP work whether that's
you influencing other people or that's
creating the life that you desire
implementing NLP awareness and skills
and interventions to get you from where
you are
now to where you want to be the most
important thing that you can use NLP to
do is to start recognizing patterns
patterns and your behavior patterns and
other people's behavior patterns and
cycles and what appears to you to be
your reality one of the things that n
OPM enables you to do is to start
recognizing patterns encoding these
patterns there are sub modalities
there's language patterns
there's meta programs these are all
patterns of behavior and language when
you start to recognize these in yourself
and others now you have the opportunity
to intervene now you have the
opportunity to change them because
really what we are is patterns if you
are able to strip out all of your
patterns like get to the core of who you
are by taking away all those patterns
you're pretty much left with nothing but
potential that's all that's left because
since you were born you've been creating
one pattern after another an example of
a pattern is a belief a belief is a
pattern of your thinking when you think
about everything that you do physically
throughout a day if you were to map all
your physical stuff that you do every
day from getting out of bed to sitting
on a desk to sitting in a car while
you're driving that is a physical
pattern and when you start exercising
especially when you start doing yoga or
something that has a pattern to it what
you're doing is you're interrupting your
old patterns and you're creating new
patterns and so those would be examples
like tai chi yoga these are physical
patterns but you also have language
patterns you also have thinking patterns
you also have strategies how you go
about doing the things that you want or
getting the outcomes that you want these
are all based in patterns so the more
you start to understand these patterns
or start to bring these patterns into
your awareness because they're mostly
unconscious now you're tapping into the
stuff that is what you're made of
because like I said if you strip down
all of these patterns you really have
nothing you have nothing but potential
and then out of that potential you start
to build pattern
there's nothing wrong with the patterns
that's basically who you are
so patterns are not the problem you're
not trying to get rid of them what you
do want to do though is you want to
become aware of them so that you can
change them so if your life is not all
that you want it to be know that that's
only because the patterns that are
holding it in place and that is the
patterns of your thinking that is the
patterns of your beliefs or your beliefs
are the patterns that hold that in place
and there's also the physical patterns
so use NLP to start becoming aware of
that coding it and then there are many
NLP processes to identify those patterns
and to change those patterns a good
example is the swish pattern I did a
video on the switch pattern I'll link it
into this video the swish pattern is you
have a compulsion for something so I see
candy and I can't help but I have to go
and eat the candy or it could be
anything to be smoking I see a cigarette
or I think of a cigarette and I have to
have the cigarette so what if the swish
pattern does is it identifies what is
happening when you feel that compulsion
what is the moment that you feel the
compulsion it's usually something visual
it seems like very associated like first
person and you see something you could
hear something and feel something but
it's usually see and then that triggers
the compulsion it's like you're off and
you can't stop with the switch pattern
does and that's the pattern by the way
with a swish pattern does is it
identifies that pattern and then
intervenes by swishing and a new pattern
of your ideal self who has overcome this
problem so you identify the pattern the
compulsive behavior and then you
interrupt the pattern by programming in
a new pattern that every time you come
to that point of being in the state of
compulsion to do whatever it is you
don't want to do it automatically that
ideal you pops up intervening with that
pattern and thus creating a new pattern
and then you want to move toward that
ideal you because that's what you want
to become and you're motivated to do
that so you identify a pattern break the
pattern put a new pattern in play
that's what NOP is based on if you
understand that as you practice if you
hold that concept that I just explained
while you practice an LP you will master
it's super fast you will master it much
faster than the average person remember
practice practice every day practice
with people when you can like a practice
partner practice on yourself set an
intention to practice with everyone you
encounter just pick one thing keep it
simple
don't overwhelm yourself and when you
get to the end of you day and you go to
write in your journal the results
whatever your findings are and what you
found was nothing you didn't see
anything you didn't hear anything no new
information allow that void to exist and
allow that void to suck in to pull in
the new information it will come I
assure you the other thing is to make
sure that when you pry your practicing
NLP you're coming from a place of
identifying patterns and when you're
identifying patterns then understanding
how you can change them and NLP is full
of processes and techniques and tools to
change those patterns understand this
and you will supercharge your NLP
practice and you will get to where you
want to be the life you want the person
you want to become so much faster than
if you don't use these concepts just
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