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to try and do a hundred free coaching calls before the new year and one of the
most common situations I was asked about by you guys was something along the
lines of this you already have an idea of what you need to be doing in order to
move forward with your life but you can't seem to take action mainly because
of fear fear of failing fear of getting rejected fear of looking like a fool so
instead of taking action you end up spending the majority of your time
quote-unquote getting ready watching more videos reading more books and
waiting for the stars to align months and maybe even years go by and nothing
happens no progress is ever made if this is something you can relate to listen
carefully fear is actually an extremely good thing see what you have to
understand is that whenever you feel fear whenever you are scared of
something you're actually being presented with an amazing opportunity to
collect what I like to call a heroic moment what is a heroic moment well our
identity how we view ourselves whether or not we like who we are all depends on
the stories that we tell ourselves sort of like how a director stitches together
the moments also known as the scenes of a movie to make you feel a certain way
about the main character now depending on the moments you decide to incorporate
into your own movie the way you view yourself can change drastically your
levels of confidence whether or not you love yourself and your self esteem are
all directly related to the defining moments that you unconsciously include
in your movie the problem is most of us don't have enough amazing outstanding
heroic moments that cause us to like the main character we don't have enough
reasons to love ourselves so it's your job to collect as many of these moments
as possible to improve the way you see yourself
whenever you feel fear you are actually being presented with an opportunity to
collect one of the most powerful scenes for your movie a heroic moment a moment
where the main characters faced with fear where he's shaking from head to toe
where his mind and body are trying their best to get him to run but where he
manages to act anyways in spite of all this fear a good example of this occurs
early on in one my favorite anime series of all time
boku no hero the main character deku who was born with no special abilities in a
world where almost everyone has some sort of superpower jumps into the fray
to challenge a villain who has kidnapped his classmate a powerless weak boy
trembling with fear who manages to take action in an attempt to save another
life this is a heroic moment a moment where the odds are stacked against our
soon-to-be hero a moment where they are scared a moment where they are likely to
fail but where they still make the decision to stand up and act anyways and
it's moments like these that are designed to create strong feelings
inside the audience I'll be honest with you the first time I saw this scene it
made my eyes water I couldn't help but feel extremely moved by deque whose
actions and this is something that is shared amongst most of us humans we all
look up to and respect the ones that can move forward in the face of fear that's
why young kids like superhero movie so much because even from a very young age
we look up to those that can overcome their instinct to cower and run we all
secretly deep down inside want to be a hero unfortunately most of us give up
that dream as we grow older but the thing is anyone can be a hero and you
don't need to jump in front of a moving truck to save some kid's life or run
into a burning house and save the dog on the second floor there are many many
ways for you to collect heroic moments in your own life without risking too
much and the only thing you have to do is to take action instead of running
away the next time you're faced with fear because what one does in the face
of fear is what really separates one from being a hero or from being just
another average Joe Schmo when you find yourself debating whether or not to go
to that social event on your own in that new city you just move to because you're
scared of looking awkward that's an opportunity for you to collect a heroic
a moment when you're about to take the leap and start a new business that
you've always wanted to start the business that you've dreamt about
starting for who knows how long but you're scared of failing and looking
like a fool in front of your friends and family that's another opportunity to
collect a heroic moment when you see that cute guy or girl on the bus and you
know deep down inside that you want to talk to them but you're scared of being
rejected scared of someone saying no to you that's an opportunity for you to be
a hero and being a hero is not about whether or not you are able to succeed
all that matters is that you were able to look fear in its eyes and act anyways
now it's important to keep two things in mind I'm not telling you to mindlessly
jump into things absolutely unprepared there should always be some form of
preparation beforehand but chances are if you're watching this video you've
prepared enough you've watched enough videos and read enough books to have an
idea of what to do now it's time for you to do to face the fear instead of
running away the second thing you have to keep in mind is that you're not
collecting heroic moments to show off to other people you need to be collecting
these moments for yourself because you're the one that watches your own
movie over and over again the more heroic moments that you have in the
movie you play to yourself the more respect you will have for yourself as a
person the more you will love who you are and what you stand for the stronger
of a person you will become mentally and this in turn will actually cause others
to respect and like you more because again deep down inside we all look up to
heroes so the next time you are presented with fear stopping you from
taking a certain action that you've been putting off for who knows how long
remember that you're actually being given a powerful opportunity its life
giving you a choice you can choose to be a hero right now you can choose to take
action and collect a heroic moment to add to your movie you can choose to do
something that will cause you to gain more respect and love for yourself and
remember it doesn't matter what the result is it doesn't matter that deku
wasn't able to save his friend on his own it doesn't matter if you look off
word at that party or got rejected by that girl what matters is that you took
action in the face of fear that's what makes a hero a hero
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