movie studios spend crazy amounts of
money to make you feel good and when it
doesn't work
you usually have no reaction but every
now and then you get the opposite of
what's intended people getting angry or
even depressed by what they see how does
that happen well here's one reason the
first clue to it for me was from Charlie
Kaufman I have this adverse reaction to
Hollywood romances
they've been very damaging to me growing
up I feel and that I had these
expectations yes in the world of what my
life was going to be like what do you
mean there well let's watch this movie
scene real quick and talk about it after
is it Stanford how do you go to a party
you're Ritter but you prefer Amy you're
from a rende that's my major majors
French yes I don't go to school you're
kidding
I'm an entrepreneur you're unemployed
well I found it an Internet company that
left folks download and share music for
free
kind of like Napster exactly I found it
Napster Sean Parker founded Napster nice
to meet you okay snappy well-written and
shot right let's take a different look
how's the weather there actually perfect
is it Stanford what time is it literally
the perfect moment of morning where the
sunlight streaks to the window what are
these people doing they just finished an
awesome night of partying and anonymous
sex
are they the girl is multilingual young
pretty and slim the guy is funny has a
brilliant memory looks like Justin
Timberlake oh and did you notice that
he's famous and a billionaire too
exactly I found it Napster and we judge
ourselves by what we see around us so
who actually would watch that and
measure up to what they saw not even
Bill Gates he's rich and smart but far
less socially adept the
world's sexiest man couldn't either he's
not a billionaire or a tech genius and
in his world sometimes it even rains the
fact is reality doesn't produce this
have a look here's the real Sean Parker
does he look like Justin Timberlake to
you in reality there are trade-offs to
our positive traits time spent studying
or programming takes away from your
social skills perfecting your appearance
will stop you from creating a perfect
business and so on so situations like
this are inherently untrue and
incompatible with your self-esteem so
the question is then how do you react to
this big man in a suit of armor take
that off what are you genius billionaire
playboy philanthropist well there's only
three options accept it which will cause
you to have unrealistic standards and
even risk depression reject it which
causes the backlash we see towards some
movies or disconnection lack these
things off not accept the reality which
causes you to watch with half a heart
missing the enjoyment of buying into it
each of these happens and they're all
negative results now you might be
thinking some of my favorite movies
exist in fantasy worlds and I'm fine yes
exactly
there are movies that don't fall victim
to Kaufman's folly
so what's making the difference well I
looked close and the key to that is that
they balance by skill luck or imitation
a fancy world with a plain hero or vice
versa pretty much always look spider-man
fancy New York plane the Galactic Empire
fancy Luke Skywalker plane Superman
fancy metropolis plane street-racing
fancy Brian Earl spilner plane
organized-crime fancy Michael Corleone
plane
I wanted a Samus gangster no vampires
and werewolves fancy Bella Swan plain
now someone might say even if the city's
normal worlds like spider-man's are
still better because guys like
spider-man can exist
yeah but so can the Green Goblin and
guys like him these worlds are different
but not necessarily better
they give us wonder but also protect our
happiness our confidence in ourself of
course there are movies that violate
this today that grossed a lot of money
but the ones that get this right at
their best gross even more and beyond
that
stay with us for decades so when you buy
a ticket make sure you're in good hands
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