It's undeniable the fascination that most people have with true
crime documentaries and TV shows, especially women.
And there is a good reason for that that you're about to find out.
Plus, I'm going to give you the one thing that everybody misses in this documentary
so you can reduce the odds of being the next victim.
Let's get down to it. Welcome back. My body language buddies.
My name is Jesús Enrique Rosas, I'm the Body Language Guy,
And I was asking myself this question the other day when I found out that Dahmer
is Netflix ninth most watched English language series of all time,
the documentary about Jeffrey Dahmer, the serial killer.
That, Wolf, you know, is one of the most famous serial killers of all time.
And this is a topic that has proven to be very profitable
for the streaming services like Tiger King Unsolved Mysteries.
Jeffrey Epstein, of course, crime scene, the vanishing of the Cecil Hotel,
Night Stalker, American murder all have been a number one in a ranking.
And this rate is now the question is, why are we so fascinated by them?
And especially why are women so attracted to these kind of shows?
That's why I made this question on my Twitter account, and that is,
why do you think women love to watch
true crime documentaries, even when the majority of the victims
portrayed are women?
And I got the most varied answer that you can imagine.
So we can learn who to watch out for.
My husband says it's because I have a bitter and twisted heart and it to take.
Nobody has already stolen my idea.
Good point to prepare for the one thing we can be for.
Good question. I fall asleep to True Crime podcast.
I always wonder if that made me a psychopath.
And this one training this how to recognize when to run.
And I said, All right, that is pretty much the same reason men
watch and a but no they are some stories behind this.
A paper published in the social psychological
and Personality Science Journal found that women enjoyed consuming
true crime content far more than men, despite the latter.
Generally, like in violent media, more than the fairer sex.
Researchers asked nearly 14,000 participants to choose between two true
crime books, one of which had information about how to escape
from an assailant and another that didn't have that information.
And overwhelming majority of female participants chose the book
that promised to teach them how to evade a killer, as opposed to male
participants who were more evenly split between the two books.
So at first sight, it looks like, yes, women like to watch these kind of shows
because they want to be prepared or learn something about this kind of behavior.
And not only watching because when it comes to podcasts,
Brandwatch reacted, published some very insightful numbers,
and you have the female followers of True Crime podcasts
a lot more than male followers.
There are even YouTubers like Bailey Syrian who has become famous
by combining makeup tutorials with true crime.
I mean, that is an amazing display of coordination.
I don't know how she does that.
I should I mean, maybe play the cello
and do body language analysis.
Now look at the left side of his face.
But jokes aside, we watch this shows because we want to learn
some kind of behavior patterns of these people
so we can be better prepared in those moments.
That is, regardless if we are men or women.
But and and that is also one of the reasons why books
like Manhunter inside the FBI Elite
Serial Crime Unit have become so popular and popular.
Also asked Netflix serious and I have a huge problem with this
trying to identify behavioral patterns in toxic very toxic personalities.
And it's that you might think, yeah,
you will be able to tell who is a psychopath and who's not.
And that is something that I've said about body language to it.
You can't just say, Hey,
he made this gesture of this movement with his hand or his foot or something,
and that means that he's lying or he's a psychopath or he's a serial killer.
That doesn't work like this.
Body language needs a lot of observation, a lot of listening.
How to ask questions.
You have seen my videos.
Maybe you have seen some of my videos.
You already know that it is a complicated process.
I try to streamline it as much as I can so that you can absorb these details.
But I've never implied that you could catch a psychopath
just by looking at them.
And there is something else that has to be said about these cases.
Women are especially wary of psychological beating.
What is psychological beating in most of this cases,
it's not like the overcoming, the overpowering of the victim
by brute force, by physicality is more psychological.
Beating could be the case of a man like Ted Bundy
with his charisma could lure women into here.
So. Well, you know what he did.
And yes, that might be one of the reasons why women watch more true crime
documentaries than mixed martial arts, because they think they could overcome
those psychological beating coups.
At the same time, something that we can't deny is that some of us feel a bit
better that we were not the victims of this people,
but we actually want to make sure that this doesn't happen to us.
And I mentioned that psychological beating because it's not only male
serial killers or male psychopaths or male murderers,
because it's also women that do this kind of things.
And of course, they couldn't overpower a man with physical force.
They had to use their psychology.
So the real question is, what is the one thing that everybody
misses from this shows and can help you to identify those moments
that well can lead you to trouble with very toxic personalities.
And that is moments of vulnerability.
We talk about moments of vulnerability because it doesn't matter
if you're a man or a woman, this kind of people will try to attack you
or approach you in your most vulnerable moments.
So it will in common sense to at any point be prepared.
Right.
But does it mean that you have to be paranoid at all times and
you have to be looking over your shoulder no matter what?
No, that is not a good way to live.
That is not something that I advise.
And that is something that can take a hit to your mental health.
A much better approach is to think in terms of situational awareness.
To think about what is going around you.
And you might say,
Well, I'm always aware of what is going on around me
when I'm walking, when I'm driving,
when I'm interacting with people I know what is going around me.
And most of the time it is not because we are so used
to the familiarity of our surroundings or the street that we leave,
the grocery shop, that we visit, the library in school,
we become familiar to those places and at some point
we become unaware of what is going around us because we are so used to
that happening every day that we just relax and just leave our guard down.
Now, how can we be aware of our situation without being paranoid
is just to be observant of what happens around us.
Is that simple?
We tend to take for granted what is going on around us.
It happens all the time because our brain is going to take the shortcut.
It's going to take shortcuts to, well, less processing
power to anything that's going on within us and outside us.
But we need to have that awareness.
We need to be mindful of the things the people, what they say
with, how do they look, their body language, everything that is
that is not something to protect us from serial killers, because it's really
a remote possibility, a remote possibility to be a victim of them.
But it's something that can help us a lot in our lives,
especially to well, to interact
and to identify the intentions of others.
It is peace a lot.
It is very helpful in terms of body language, but a way to be able
to be on the lookout of those tiny clues at all moments.
Now, we also have to take into account our biases.
And I want to mention the TV show Dexter, for that matter,
if you haven't seen Dexter is a psychopath, a murderer die.
Well, he helps law enforcement to catch criminals and in some cases
will dispose of them himself.
The monetary incentive for producing true
crime content also opens up a new can of worms.
Is our consumption of true crime
incentivizing companies to make hyper sensationalized content
where the facts of the case take the backseat
to dramatic speculation simply because it's more entertaining.
On that note is the fame we're given serial killers spawning copycats?
That's a very interesting topic, a very thought provoking subject,
because most of these characters, whether if they are from real life
or our fiction, are always portrayed in this way that they are
hyper intelligent, hyper charismatic, that they know whatever they are doing.
They're like a joker to Batman.
So it will be totally normal that at some point,
if you binge watch this shows,
you will be asking the question, is every charismatic man dangerous?
And it's a silly question to ask because we know that is that is not true.
But that's why I told you that is so hard to predict.
This patterns of behavior.
And that's why that is not the right approach.
I'm going to guess this pattern of of behavior.
No, I don't think that's a good idea.
A much better approach is to act in a way that prevents those events
from happening, and it helps a lot to be mindful of your surroundings.
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