So, throughout your life you're going to make a lot of mistakes. That's normal for
you to fall in your face you have to pick yourself up and continue going forward.
But, understand gentlemen not all decisions, not all mistakes are created equal. There
are some mistakes that if you consistently make these, your life is going to go in the
wrong direction not where you wanted to go. That's what this video is about.
Guys, I want to talk about five killer mistakes that young men make and how to avoid them.
Mistake number one, gentlemen, is staying
too long in a job that's just okay. So, when I was first putting this list together,
I'm like, okay, staying at a job you hate, but that's not true. If you hate the job
if it if you dread going to work, you're going to find something else. What's more
insidious what's more dangerous is a job that's okay that pays the bills, but you're
not inspired to go to. And, you start working there a month goes
by, it's okay a year goes by, okay, you know. Two years, five years, ten years, twenty
years, your life has gone by and you have been doing uninspiring work. And the reason
that this is dangerous, why it's not great is you never became a rock star. You didn't
put in the extra hours, you didn't on the weekends actually try to learn more become
better at your craft. You didn't become well-known in that industry. You never became
a top earner. You never made an impact. Gentlemen, understand that work and as men
it's something that almost I mean many ways defines us. I know that may not be politically
correct, but I truly believe a man, one of his big purposes especially when you have
a family when you have a significant other is to provide and to be able to give. And,
one of the best ways to do that is to have a job, have a business have something that
you're inspired by. So, don't wake up an old man someday looking back and regretting
that you didn't take that chance to go after your dreams.
Killer mistake number two, gentlemen, not having life insurance. And you guys are saying,
Antonio, what do I care? When I'm dead I don't have anything to worry about. It's
not about you, it's about everyone that you leave behind. And, guys, I so, I have
one friend that he passed away and guess what? He had co-signed with his mom on student loans.
Guess who's stuck with the student loans? And if you have kids, if you have a family,
you better be looking at life insurance especially since you have no excuse.
Guys, okay, so I'm going to pull up a really cool website. This is the sponsor of today's
video. They're called Haven Life Insurance Company and I can tell you I am excited to
bring you this company because of this online calculator. I want you to check this thing
out, but they have made it so simple it's an entirely online process.
But really cool about this and I want to stress because I'm going to put my number down
at the bottom, you can go check it out in the description of you could actually calculate
how much insurance they're going to tell you that you need. You don't have to answer
e-mail address, you don't have to do anything except enter a few bits of info and all of
a sudden they're going to spit out a number. And, I do have insurance with them. It's
really it's a transparent process, they gave you a very quick immediate decision.
And, the coolest part about all these is they're backed by MassMutual. And so, a great company
right behind them, they're a new up and coming company, so definitely go check this
out. I have had life insurance for years and it's something that I've had to adjust
as I have more kids. Yes, I have four kids now. Really, a man in my opinion he needs
to be thinking about the future and preparing for something like this.
Killer mistake number three. Not eating right. So, I find it funny that most men we know
about going to the gym. If we say that we want to get in better shape, what do we do?
We start going to the gym more often maybe increasing the intensity of our workouts,
but very rarely do we talk about actually changing the food that goes into our body.
When if you look at the equation of health; rest, fitness, and eating.
Fitness is actually much smaller and rest is smaller than what you put into your body.
Now, they're all three core components to a healthy body and a healthy life, but so
many men just ignore this. And I'm not going to say that Paleo is right or that going being
a vegan or a vegetarian is going to be right, what I am saying is for you to start to pay
attention to this. I'm going to link to some great people down in the description.
We're talking about Abel James, Tom Venuto, Ryan Masters. These guys have entire programs
entire books that go into great detail. Killer mistake number four, neglecting your
relationships. So, as men we're really good at building friendships in high school and
in college, but then something funny happens as we go into the workforce. We become more
professional more standoffish and we don't build those same relationships with our peers.
And, we may be reached back to our college buddies to our high school buddies. We call
them once in a while, but then life happens. People get married, people have kids, you
move to the other side of the country and all of a sudden those relationships start
to falter. Understand that your health, your happiness,
your level of success and basically, you know, the meaning that you have in your life is
connected to all of these relationships being able to share them having a network of people
that you can call on when you need help. Focus in on your relationships and two ways that
you can do this.
Number one start to build new relationships. Understand not everyone is going to be receptive
to maintaining those relationships, so you need to always be thinking how can I build
new friendships. I can tell you there are it's one of the harder things to do
as men. And one of the reasons actually I created my StyleCon event is to bring together
my friends in the industry to kind of have a party.
I actually bring them together because I want to build I want to have fun with them. And
I engage I just love actually talking to my peers talking to who people perceive
as my competitors and we can commiserate about, yeah, you know, it�s so tough doing this
or, man, have you been up all night trying to get a video and tripping over it ten times.
Things like that just they make your life better.
Number two, focus in on those older cherished relationships and understand they're never
going to be the same. Maybe that person you know ended up having seven kids, you've
decided to stay single, so you guys aren't going to be able to connect in that way, but
you can remember, you know that football game that you guys lost and if you just would have
made that play. I mean those are great memories. And you should be willing to travel to be
able to maintain and build those relationships. So, this next killer mistake is probably going
to ruffle a few feathers, but do not marry the wrong person. You know who I'm talking
about. You've got a friend that's in a marriage and he absolutely feels trapped.
He does not like it, he's like what in the world was I thinking I can't get out of
it, I've got all these obligations and that's a tough place to be. Which takes us to the
question, how do you know how to marry the right person, how do you know if you even
need to get married? Well, let me say this, I think marriage is
work. And so, there's this great study, they compared arranged marriages with love
marriages and believe it or not, most marriages used to be arranged. When you look at the
happiness levels of arranged marriages, they start lower than love marriages, but as time
goes on, arranged marriages become much more happy.
Love marriages on average become less happy. Why does this happen? Because when people
enter an arranged marriage, they realized they have to work every single day to get
to know, to connect, and to build a relationship. And if you approach marriage with with
that type of mindset realizing that I've got a lifetime to get to know this person
I'm going to have to be humble, I'm going to have to be open, I'm going to have to
try to do things for them, I think that, you know, that is the right path.
All right, gentlemen, now it's your turn. Let me know which killer mistake did I miss.
What would you have added to this list? And really quick I'm going to pull up Haven
Life Insurance Agency's insurance calculator. Like I talked about earlier, you just have
to enter a few bits of information and then, all of a sudden they're going to spit out
a number of how much life insurance you need. Now, like I said guys, I use Haven Life. It's
a great company backed by MassMutual. And I really do stand behind the point of I think
all men should have life insurance. It should be something that, again, it's not about
you, it's about the legacy you leave behind. It's about your family that you leave behind
giving people that room to be able to grieve properly and it's a big deal.
That's it, gentlemen. I'll see you in the next video. Take care.