- So today I'm talking
about self-confidence versus confidence.
If you are struggling
from a lack of confidence
or some self-doubt right now,
I'm gonna explain to you in this video
a very powerful way to look at it
so that you can start moving forward
without having quote unquote all of the experience
that you think that you need to have,
without having all those certifications
that you think you might need to have.
So stay tuned.
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The biggest thing that people normally come to me with
around their self-confidence
is that they believe that they need
to have done things before
in order to be able to convince something
that they are capable of doing the thing in the future.
Like, how do I convince somebody
that I can do something
that I've never actually done before?
The problem that you're having is you first think
that you need to have that, right?
That you need to have had an experience
and have a story to tell
where you've already done the thing.
And the problem with that
is if you haven't done the thing yet,
then you don't have that experience to draw from
and you feel kind of stuck, right?
You're like well, I haven't done it
because no one's given me the chance to do it.
So I can't explain how I can do it
because I haven't done it, right?
So it's that trap that we fall into,
like I don't have experience
but no one will give be a job
because I don't have the experience.
Therefore, how am I supposed to get experience?
And therefore, I'm stuck and I can't get the job.
However, we know that there are people
who do not have the experience,
do not have that specific experience yet
and are still able to get hired in jobs
where they get trained,
where they get the resources
and the tools given to them,
where they get the mentorship
and the information to be able to move forward and do it.
We know that that's possible
because we know that that happens every day, right?
So definitely something that's happened for me
and lots of my clients, right?
So I can tell you right now,
if you're in that frustrated trap,
it's not a thing.
It's a belief that you have
because somebody told you no,
you don't have the experience
and so you believed okay,
that must be true everywhere for everything for everyone.
It's not.
I'm gonna explain to you the difference here.
Confidence is drawing upon something you've done before.
So maybe you've poured a glass of milk before,
you've cooked pancakes before,
you've got up, walked down the stairs before.
You have confidence that you can do those things
because you've done them before.
And self-confidence is your ability
to believe that you can figure things out
that you have never done before,
which you have also done in a lot of instances
in your life.
There was the first time
that you made pancakes and you didn't know how to do it.
So maybe you had to read the instructions on the box.
And you didn't know exactly how that was gonna work
or how they were gonna turn out.
But you had the confidence to try it anyway,
go through and see what happened
and maybe the first one didn't turn out so well
and then maybe on your fifth or sixth one,
you were starting to get the hang of it.
We all have situations where we have decided
to just get going and do something
even before we knew how to do it.
Even before we maybe had instructions.
Maybe we had instructions,
we didn't read them.
Maybe the instructions didn't actually work
and we had to think for ourselves
to figure something out.
So quite often, if an employer tells you
to go figure something out,
you're probably gonna go figure it out, right?
You're gonna google,
you're gonna ask somebody,
you're gonna call a friend,
you're gonna ask one of your other colleagues
who maybe knows more about it.
You have a lot of tools and resources
that you already have to figure something out
you've never done.
So that's the difference
between confidence and self-confidence.
And the problem that we all have
is that we sometimes think
that nobody's gonna hire us
if we haven't had that experience.
But when you truly have that belief
that you can figure it out,
even if you haven't yet,
like you build that evidence up in your mind
of the things that you've done before,
then you're gonna be able
to have that evidence and bring that with you
and talk about it,
like it's a done deal, right?
Like no, I haven't done that before
but I can figure that out.
One of my colleagues,
she interviewed somebody
and she said in the interview,
the candidate in the interview said,
"I might not know how to do everything
but I know I can figure anything out."
And she said it with such confidence.
And you can believe that about yourself.
You can just decide to believe that about yourself
and nobody can tell you that you can't.
Nobody can say oh, yeah, you can't.
Other people can figure things out
that they haven't done but you can't.
And if they say that to you,
you get to believe that they're wrong.
You get to choose that, right?
The difference between confidence and self-confidence
is very important.
So I want you to ask yourself,
where are you right now on a scale of one to 10
in self-confidence?
How confident are you
that if you were given the job
and then you were given an assignment,
that you'd be able to figure it out?
If you're not at a 10,
why are you not at a 10?
I can help you figure that out.
So this is one of the first things
that I work with with my clients
is getting them to a 10 out of 10
with their self-confidence.
And this shows up when they go to the interview
and when they're able to talk
about their accomplishments before,
when they're able to just talk about themselves
and see themselves
as somebody who can figure things out, right?
So ask yourself where you're at,
why you're at where you're at.
And what would it be like?
Imagine if you did believe
that you're a 10 out of 10 on your self-confidence
and you could literally figure anything out
that you needed to.
Imagine how that would change your entire life.
If you'd like more help with this,
you can get my free training
to get started with me.
It's called Get a Better Job in 30 Days.
We talk about all the things
that are within your control
to get your next opportunities,
your next promotion,
get raises, get where you wanna go in your career.
So that's what we're gonna talk about.
And if you'd like to hear more from me,
I also have a podcast.
We'll link it up in the links below
if you'd like to listen.
And keep in mind that if you are able
to see yourself in that light
where you have 10 out of 10 self-confidence,
you can literally do anything.
So if you're not at that point right now,
that's okay, that's what I'm here to help you with.
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