Hey, welcome back. Coach Mossab here and if you've been wondering how does an alpha male
pursue a woman, I'm going to answer that question extensively in this video so that by the end,
you can do the exact same things to get the best results with women possible.
So, today we're going to start off by talking about how an alpha pursues a woman at the very beginning.
We'll talk about an important shift that has to happen in the dynamic and why it's important
and then finally we're going to talk about how an alpha pursues a woman after that shift has
happened onwards into the actual relationship to start off on the best foot possible. All right so
stick around. So, I'll start off by talking about how an alpha pursues a woman at the very beginning
of their interactions when he's first going up and talking or at the very beginning of their
texting interactions. The first thing that an alpha will do is to actually pursue by offering value.
So the thing to know about pursuing in general, chasing in general is a lower value behavior, right?
It's the lower value person that attracts or that pursues and tries to attract a higher value person.
So just the fact that you are pursuing somebody or that you might be pursuing somebody signals to
them that you're lower value and that they should run away from whatever's chasing
them. What alpha does instead is because we have to approach women or because we have to be the
ones to court and to get them out, he understands that and so he wants to do it from as high value a
place as possible. What are a couple ways that you can do that? First, being mindful of the the pursuit
and knowing that you can approach her, that you can invite them out to something that they want
to go out to. So simply by inviting her out to cool things that she might not have access to on her
own that's a high value thing to do that she'll be appreciative of that she will think you are more
attractive for. So for example if you can invite her out to things like a fancy group event or an
exclusive event that she wouldn't be able to get into otherwise, something that shows that you have
access and that's a fun thing to do and that'll be a high value thing to invite them to rather than
pursuing them and being just like everybody else that is also pursuing them. Another thing that an
alpha will do during the pursuit is to have good conversation rather than asking questions. A lot
of times on this channel I'm going to talk about what a low value activity is versus a high value
activity. Asking questions is seeking reports, seeking value rather than offering value. So the
opposite would be telling good stories, telling funny jokes or even just making statements rather
than asking questions. So as questions are sort of leeching, asking or telling or making statements
is offering value very simply instead of saying where are you from and asking for an answer,
you could just say you look like you're from West Virginia and then she'll either say yes nor she'll
be like what makes you say that but it's engaging, it's carrying the conversation forward versus
back and forth asking questions and answering them like an interview in an interview mode.
Keeping that in mind, always having engaging conversations or telling stories rather than
being the one that asks questions, especially towards the beginning of the interaction as
you get more into the further dates or you get more into comfort, you can go back and forth
and ask questions getting to know each other but in the very beginning where you're trying to
make yourself as attractive as possible and get her attracted to you, you want to be doing
a lot of talking, a lot of storytelling, a lot of joke telling in ways that make you attractive
rather than having her do the talking and you just asking sorts of questions that will seek value
from her. Now for talking about texting, pursuing over text, the first thing is that an alpha general
will have not much time to text throughout the day. So, we won't be texting back and forth in long
paragraphs but he'll send something when it's time that's funny, that's relevant, that's offering
value in that sense. He's not just asking hey, what are you up to? What are you doing or again asking
questions over text or you know trying to figure things out over text. Texting is basically mostly
just for logistics but if you're trying to send something to brighten her day, it'll be something
like a funny meme. Something that offers value in some kind of way. The worst thing you can do is to
simply ask questions over text or to seek value in that way or to ramble on over text when you
really should be doing that in person on the date that you're gonna be on. Now point number two is
when it comes to the actual storytelling, when it comes to making himself seem attractive, an alpha
will tell stories or tell stuff about himself in ways that don't appear to be bragging. So
this is either done through action or through storytelling but when he wants to highlight
a part of himself or a part of his personality, he'll do it in a way that doesn't come off as
he's trying too hard, as he's trying to impress her because that will completely backfire. Even if you
do have a lot of money for example, you have a nice car, whatever it is, you don't want to for example
drag her out of the bar restaurant and be like hey, you have to see my car, right? All that shows that
you don't have a lot of value that you want that you you're seeking to impress and therefore
she's the higher value person that you're chasing. A lot of times when you show something, it should
just be very casual and alpha will make sure to make any good parts of himself feel very casual
and almost like it wasn't worthy of being mentioned, right? The more you can do that,
the more first of all it'll show that if you didn't mention this, what else is really cool
about you that you know you haven't mentioned so it'll spark intrigue, it'll spark mystery but it'll
also show that you're not trying too hard, you're not trying to win her over. So the more you can
downplay yourself especially the higher value you are, the better off it looks. You very much want to
avoid appearing braggadocious or like you're trying too hard, you're showing off. Anything
that's good about you, you want to downplay and that's how you really display value in a way
that doesn't turn her off. Now point number three when it comes to the pursuit at the very beginning,
the alpha is generally pursuing but he's doing in a way where he's laid back and he's allowing her
to do the chasing. He's really not telegraphing his interest ahead of time before he knows that she's
interested in him as well. So this is something I talk about a lot on my channel and it's important
for the reasons that we talked about before which is that if you show that you're interested in her
right off the bat and you approach her and say oh you're so beautiful. I just had to talk to you, for
example, that really shoots yourself in the foot. It makes you decide whether you're attractive or not
in that moment rather than after you tell a few stories, you crack a few jokes, you want to allow
yourself more time to get her to like you and to get her to see you as attractive because if you
force her to make that decision, she'll more often than not say no and you'll be out of luck, right?
So, if you gave yourself more time to come in under the radar you know without your interest directly
telegraphed, you'll give yourself more time to actually be attractive and get the result that you
want which is her being attracted to you and then you can show that you're attracted back to her
right after that. It's not anything crazier than that but you want to
withhold that and you want to wait on that until she sees that you're a cool guy because again,
women take more time to know whether you're a cool guy or not through your personality rather
than just your looks. So, an alpha understands this, he goes in indirectly, he doesn't telegraph his
interest right off the bat and then after he gets the signal that she likes him, that's when he will
show that he likes her back. So, this is at the very beginning of the pursuit or the courtship
process and then at some point, there has to be a shift that I mentioned that has to occur.
So, we're gonna talk about what that shift is, why it's important and how to go about it and how the
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and get the results that you want with women. So, let's talk about this so-called shift that has to
happen while you're pursuing, right? So I mentioned that alpha goes in indirectly, he's just talking
casually, having a conversation. At some point he sees that she likes him, right? So the shift
that I alluded to is that at some point, she has to like him before he likes her back, right, and the
alpha knows this because he knows about hypergamy and it's something that I talk about a lot
on my channel which is that the woman wants to date a guy who's higher value than her in some way,
right? That's why women like older guys, guys with more money, guys that are more intelligent. It's
the women that want this, right? So for that to happen, you have to show that you're one of these
qualities that your higher value in some sort of way as you're talking to her. As the alpha's
talking to her, pursuing her, he sees whether so the things that he's saying, the stories
that he's telling the attributes that he's showing, whether they're attractive to
the girl or not and if they are attractive to the woman, eventually at some point she's going
to pursue him and that's the shift that has that happen, right? So it's a paradox where you
are approaching the woman but at some point, she has to pursue you. So how do you turn it from
you pursuing her, you see her, you see that you like her you go up but at some point she
has to pursue you, right, to make things just more even right because if you're constantly chasing,
she can only constantly be chased or run away. There's that shift that has to happen where she
wants to pursue you, she sees you as an attractive guy she thinks oh, I want to be with him. I like him
and so she starts to initiate, she starts to do a little bit of chasing and so you have to have that
dynamic towards the beginning of the interaction otherwise it'll fizzle out. You'll
consistently be chasing and she'll consistently be either pushing you away, rejecting you or feeling
like she's chased which is a kind of uncomfortable feeling especially for for women. So the alpha
keeps this in mind. If you keep this in mind as well, you'll result your results are going to be a
lot better in dating. What you want to do is after you start that conversation and you're telling
stories about yourself, you're just carrying conversation, you're seeing whether she likes
you without you overtly telegraphing that interest and then once she does, that's when you can signal
your interest in return. But you want to be sure that you are being pursued at some point in the
initial five, 10 minutes of the interaction, this goes by pretty quickly. You don't need hours and
hours of conversation but generally you want to withhold that overt interest and you know
any overt signs of showing that you like her until you see that there's reciprocity there. And
by doing this by the way you also differentiate yourself from all the guys that come up to her,
hit on her immediately turn her off and she just feels like she's chased all day especially when
she's out like at a bar or wherever and she's trying to meet guys, all these guys are coming up
to her, hitting on her, it's not a good feeling and that's not what she wants,
right? Like I said she wants a guy who's above her in value in status however you want to think
about it and all these guys are coming in below her putting on her pedestal, showing that they like
her and when you come or the alpha comes and he just has conversation with her casually
and doesn't signal overtly that he likes her even though he might and she senses that this
guy is different. Why is he not you know kissing up to me, why does he not like me and so when she
likes him and then there's mutual attraction for each other, that starts the relationship off
much in a healthy way, in a much more natural way than if you're just coming in trying to
consistently pursue her and trying to get her to like you in the ways that I talked about
with the the bragging or the showing off or any of that. So, let's talk about the pursuit
or how alpha pursues a woman or how they pursue each other really, courtship after that initial
that shift right. So he goes up, tell stories, tells jokes, she likes him and then he shows
that he likes her back and there's a lot more detail that goes into this obviously but we're
gonna keep it short for this video but after that, that's when now there's mutual
attraction there, then he doesn't need to tell as much as many stories about himself
and now it's just about finding mutual interest, finding out if there's an actual bond there if
there's actual connection there and so from then on, it's a lot more relaxed. He doesn't have to do
as much performing so so to speak in terms of telling stories or jokes or anything like that.
It's a lot more of a calmer vibe, it's a lot more just getting to know each other at this point.
So what the alpha's doing is just making sure to generate good rapport, making sure the vibe is good,
making sure they're talking about fun and engaging things, talking about their passions, their dreams,
what they want out of life, what they want out of relationships, whatever might be, whatever it
might be but he's guiding the conversation. So, he's guiding the topics in ways
that he thinks are conducive to the courtship process then or topics that are good for getting
to know each other. So finding out mutual interest, mutual dreams, desires, pasts, things in your
past that you have commonalities about. All those are good things to talk about after that initial
shift that that occurs. Now, the last thing that happens as the shift happens and right
after that is that an alpha isn't afraid to show that he is a touchy person. So, he's not afraid of
touch, he's not afraid of being touched. He shows that he's open to connecting and talking and
touching others and this is a problem for a lot of guys because they feel like they have to repress
their touch, they feel like it might be creepy or might be weird to touch others especially women
and they feel like women might get the wrong impression or the wrong idea
when they touch them. While your touch can't be weird or lingering or creepy in that sort of way,
it's very much a good thing and you can see this when you look at guys that are uh good with
women at bars, they'll be very touchy and they'll signal to girls that they like them through their
touch alone. So, this is something to be watchful of and something to implement in your day
to day as well because if you don't do this, if you're not touchy, one, you're gonna be
it's gonna be very difficult to cross certain hurdles like kissing down the line, it's gonna be a
lot more of a build up to a moment which you don't want. You want it to be very smooth and natural and
just an extension of the touching that you were doing beforehand. The other thing is though that
women won't know if you like them or not, right, because now they've for example if they show
that they like you and they show through you know touching you or laughing or
playing with their hair that they like what you're saying, what you like what you're doing
and if you don't touch them back or if you don't overtly compliment anything like that,
you shouldn't be afraid to express that side of yourself. You shouldn't be afraid to hide-
you shouldn't be hiding it. You should be showing that you like them and so that they
know what the deal is. They should know that you both like each other and they should
get to know each other now and continue on with sort of the process. Now, you might be thinking
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