Hey! welcome everyone. I'm Niharika and you are watching Skillopedia, the place to learn skills
for the real world. So what are we going to learn in today's session? Do you want to be
more likeable? Of course we all want to be liked by others. Now this is one of the most
common questions that people ask. Hey Niharika how do I be more likeable? Well people think
that very few people are lucky just because it's more like a talent to be likeable. But
that's not true. Well there are different ways that you can practise in order to be
liked by others. So which are these ways to be more likeable by others? Well that's what
we are going to look at.
Well the first thing that you can do is smile. When I say smile, I really mean that you need
to smile from within. Yes of course, one smile can do wonders. So it's extremely important
for us to smile so that people start liking us. When you walk around these days, you end
up seeing people are way too busy on their phones. Tapping on their phone screens and
they just don't want to look up. Go to the airport; go to a coffee shop or probably you
are just standing in a queue waiting for something. Uhh people are so busy on their phone. Come
on people, I mean great communications start with a great smile. So look up, smile and
probably you can greet people as well. Now when you do this, you will see a difference.
These days’ people are so busy and if surprisingly someone just smiles back at you, Wow! You
are going to love that, right? So the first thing that you need to do is to smile, in
order to be liked by others.
Well the second tip that I have for you is stop being moody. Well yes you need to keep
calm and stop being moody. Well I have worked with people who one day are like super fun,
laughing, cracking jokes, are in a really good mood and the very second day, they are
so grouchy. Oh my god, they like start cursing, yelling and I'm like what's wrong with this
person? Does that happen to you? Of course it does. So the people who are moody are definitely
not liked by others. So it's important for you to stop being moody. Well of course we
all have issues; we all have these personal thunderstorms that are going on in life. But
this should not affect your relationship with others. It's important for you to interact
with people in a very nice manner. Now when I say that stop being moody, doesn't mean
that you have to be in a great mood every single day. But I'm just asking you to be
nice to others, so that you are liked by others.
The next thing that you need to keep in mind is stop judging. When you meet people for
the first time and if you feel that their behaviour or their appearance does not fit
to what you like, what do you do? Of course you pass judgments, right? Uhh... you need
to stop doing that. Judging is definitely not a great idea. You need to be open minded.
Especially in today's world where people belong to different walks of life. Well of course
there are going to be differences. Difference of opinions, the way they work, their style
of working. It's all different. It's not always gonna match the way you work or the way you
like. The world does not revolve around you, isn't it? So it's time to stop judging people.
Stop commenting, stop making these weird assumptions about others. If you want to work on a great
team, it's important for you to come on a common ground and work together.
So what's the next thing? Well are you an attention seeker? Well if you are, then you
need to quit doing that. Well many people I meet, they are all about themselves. I love
to do this, I really don't care about this, I am into this, I don't like this, I, me,
myself. Well, stop it. Once again, the world does not revolve around you. It's time to
work for others. Change that I, me, myself to we. Remember that when you are working
in a team it's all about to be in, together. It's important to listen to others. It's important
to understand others and appreciate others. Are you one of those people who jump into
each and every conversation and have a point to everything? Well you need to stop doing
that. We all love attention but doesn’t mean that we always have to be that person
who seeks way too much attention by others. Because in that manner people are not going
to like you. So it's time for you to go ahead and make other people feel special and better
in their lives.
The last thing that you need to practise in order to be more likeable by others is be
quick to apologize. When you belong to the business world, there are going to be times
when people are going to be super mad at you. They are going to be really upset with you
and probably you have no idea, that this guy or this girl is so mad at you. So what do
you do? Well it's time to diffuse the tension and that’s' how you are going to win people
or probably influence others. Now when people are mad at you, don't be the person who would
hold grudge against that other person. Well you need to work on that problem. You need
to solve them in a better manner and you need to apologize. So be the bigger one, go ahead
and just apologize. In that way people are going to appreciate and start liking you.
So do practise to apologize to others.
This brings me to the end of this session. So the things that you need to really practise
in order to win people's hearts is to keep smiling, stop judging others, stop being these
attention seekers, just stop being moody and apologize. If you practise all of these, definitely
you are going to be liked by others and keep
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