- Heya, playa.
Do you wanna know how to prepare yourself
to talk to your crush, to get into the right mindset,
to get into that zone where nothing gets in your way,
and you can ask them out?
I'm gonna share how to do that right after this.
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Now when we talk about getting into
the right mindset to do anything, at the end of the day,
what it all comes down to is practice.
Practicing, practicing, practicing.
Putting yourself through different experiences
so you can learn how to handle them
so when you actually go for what you want, you're ready,
but how exactly do you practice for talking to your crush?
I mean, if talking to them is the thing
that you're scared of,
how do you practice talking to them?
Well, I think instead of talking to them,
what you're gonna wanna focus your attention on
is talking to girls or guys that you're less intimidated by.
This is something I call the warm up.
Usually, when you wanna approach your crush,
and you wanna start talking to them,
you can't think of anything to say.
You don't know how it's gonna go.
You haven't really been social just yet.
So you wanna be social with someone
that you're less intimidated with
just to get things going, just to feel warmed up.
In doing that, it'll make it easier for you
to just get into the flow of having a conversation.
You'll feel a little bit more relaxed,
a little bit more at ease knowing that
you've been social with someone.
So once you've kind of broken that ice
and asked some questions and talked to them,
talking to your crush will seem a little bit easier.
Now you might be thinking okay, cool.
I can approach them and talk to them,
but I don't really know what to talk to them about.
This is why I think it's important for you
to prepare two or three go-to stories,
things that you feel comfortable talking about with anyone
and you can talk in-depth about
without feeling nervous, afraid,
or just messing up what you're talking about.
Having go-to stories in a conversation
sort of operate like bumpers when you're bowling.
They help provide the ball from
just directly falling in the gutter,
and they help you get more precise with your aim
so that you can learn to throw it directly
so it hits the pins.
A go-to story might be a fun story from your past,
something that you did with your friends,
or something that you're working on that's creative,
anything that you feel comfortable talking about.
For example, a go-to story for me
whenever I'm in a conversation with someone
is to just talk about YouTube
and what I'm trying to accomplish with it.
I can go on and on about any creative thing
that I'm pursuing,
but the key to a really good go-to story
is learning how to incorporate
that person's feedback as you're talking.
Ask them questions.
Ask them what they thought about your experience.
Ask them if they've had a similar experience.
Knowing how to kind of make it an interactive process
makes that go-to story a successful one
because it prevents you from freezing up
and not knowing what to talk about,
and it gives you a way to better connect with that person.
I want you to work on your go-to stories.
Leave a comment down below letting me know
something in your life that you enjoy talking about,
something that could just roll off the tongue,
something that's easy for you to talk about
where you don't freeze up, or you don't forget details,
and it isn't hard for you to just jump into
and say wow, you won't believe
what happened to me the other day
and then you lead into your story.
Now some people don't really like the idea
of planning out what you're gonna say.
It can come off feeling scripted or fake
or like you're not being genuine with that person,
but think of your go-to stories
like training wheels on a bike.
Once you get comfortable using them
and you're able to kind of easily
go into a conversation and start it,
you can take the training wheels off.
You can just talk off the cuff.
If you wanna share those stories later on down the line,
they're your personal stories.
They're not made up ones or fake things
that happened to you.
You're always being genuine in your own experience
whenever you talk about it,
and when it comes to talking to your crush,
something I've sprinkled across my videos
for the last few years is the three second rule.
Basically, the three second rule operates like this.
When you see your crush, give yourself no more
than three seconds to walk up to them and to say something.
Some people tend to ask do I count to three and then go,
or do I try to run up to them in three seconds?
I see it like this.
When you spot them, you go alright, that's my crush.
One, two, three, go.
Go talk to them because if you wait any longer,
if you stand around thinking about what you're gonna say,
you're gonna freeze up.
You're gonna come up with a million reasons
as to why you can't do it,
but if instead, you're focusing on that countdown,
and you're getting ready to just propel yourself,
once you're in motion, you're doing it.
You're gonna talk to them.
You're gonna say something.
Whether or not you mess up in the moment,
that's entirely different.
The point here isn't so much to
have the perfect conversation
or to know exactly what to say.
It's to get comfortable with approaching your crush.
So even if you just say something
like hey, how's it going?
Or hi in general, that's success in my book.
If you practice talking to people,
if you have go-to stories that you can rely on,
and then you push yourself to
not overthink things in the moment
and give yourself no more than
three seconds to approach them,
you're gonna feel way more comfortable
talking to your crush, especially when you're nervous,
especially when you don't know what to say,
especially when you think everything's gonna go wrong.
You have what it takes to do this.
Stop holding yourself back, and go for it.
Now if you found that advice to be helpful,
hit the thumbs up button,
and make sure to tap on the playlist over there on the side
which are my dating tips for beginners.
If you're nervous around you're crush,
you don't know what to say,
you don't know how to ask them out,
or what you should do on a date,
those videos will help you get started.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.