Should you be dating other people if you want to get back together with your ex? That's what we're
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Before we go ahead and get into this topic of should you be dating other people when you want
to get back together with your ex. I did have some announcements to make the big thing is that
we are releasing a dating course, actually, we're kind of in a pre release sort of state right now,
from now until Monday the 15th at whenever I wake up in the morning, usually be very early.
But we're going to be having a discounted rate for our dating course. It's called Authentic Dating,
it takes a lot of the concepts that we've talked about on this channel
in terms of advanced relational skills and things like that. And also adds new concepts,
new strategies that specifically apply to the world of dating. And this is, obviously because
not everyone is going to get back together with their ex, not everyone wants to get back together
with their ex. You might start to discover certain things about your ex, like maybe you're
not compatible with one another or something like that. I've had people say, okay, well, great. How
do I go about dating other people? This is our official answer to that. And it also does include
information and strategies on getting over your ex and getting over your breakup as well, too.
So if you do want to get ahead of our discounted rate for this, which is going through
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Dating. Let's go ahead and get into this. So we're talking about, should you be dating
other people if you want to get back together with your ex, this is a little bit of a complicated
question to answer. I know that there are a lot of ideas and theories out there on the internet
that say you should be doing this, it will help boost your self esteem. It'll help you
realize that you have other options out there, things like that. Sure, you could do that.
Sure. On the other hand, on the other side of things, you also want to consider if your ex
finds out that you're dating other people, is that kind of send a message to them that you're moving
on and they should also think about moving on as well too. It's something to think about as well.
And also, you want to think about this from another perspective as well too and that's from
the perspective of the person that you might end up dating, people that you might end up dating. Is
it really fair for them to be going out with you when you want to get back together with your ex?
And you're essentially using them as a crutch or as a tool to help you feel better when
really you may not actually have any actual interest in them and you're potentially,
effectively, dragging them along and stringing them along. This is all kind of based off of your
assumption about what you want, where you want to go, what you feel comfortable with.
But these are some things to think about. I'm of the belief that sure, go ahead and do
whatever you want, as long as you're not hurting someone and as long as you're okay with the
consequences of your actions. So I'm just asking you to stop for a moment and think about the
consequences of your actions. If your ex were to find out that you were dating some other people,
how would they take that? How would they feel about it? How would they take that in
and process that? If that's okay with you, if you're okay with them possibly thinking, okay,
you're moving on maybe I should move on too, then, okay great. But don't think that you need to do
this as some sort of scarcity thing to make them think that they're missing the boat, that you're
hot stuff and they need to come on, get it moving, otherwise, you're going to miss out on your
chance to date this. You don't need to do that. What you need to do is focus on the emotional
connection between the two of you most likely. So don't think that you need to be dating other
people out of some sort of scarcity thing, some sort of mind game things, some sort of reverse
psychology thing. If you just want to, or if you're in a place where you're like I actually
don't know if I want to get back together with my ex or if I want to see someone else,
then that's totally fine. It doesn't hurt to just admittedly say, hey, I don't know what I want.
Let me just kind of go out there and see if meeting someone else opens up a new possibility.
Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't. And in which case, you're kind of
not having to worry so much about the unintended consequences of stringing someone else along
because you're not necessarily stringing them along, you don't know what you want.
So you want to think about this. You want to think about where you're at, you want to think
about what's important to you, and you want to think about the potential consequences and
the potential side effects that may come from you actually dating someone. If you are going
to do it, do it because you want to do it, do it because it's something that seems interesting to
you and it's something that you feel compelled to do. Don't do it because you want to make
your ex think that you're moving on, don't do it because you think that you need to do some sort of
reverse psychology or mind game or anything like that. As you know from watching this channel,
or maybe you don't know because this is the first video that you're seeing because some nice people
hit that thumbs up button for the algorithm. What you may not know is that not a big proponent of
mind games, reverse psychology, being inauthentic, putting on masks, performing in certain ways,
in order to kind of elicit a outcome here. What I am interested in you doing is showing
up genuinely and authentically to whatever your situation might be. And if you're going through
a breakup and you're interested, genuinely interested in dating other people, then fine
go ahead and do it. But if it's coming from a sense of scarcity, a sense of, well so-and-so guru
on YouTube or on the internet or something so that I have to do this to make them panic
and think that they're missing out and you don't genuinely want to do it, then don't do it. If you
don't genuinely want to go out there and date, but you feel like you need to, because you're
almost 30 and you need to get married by the time you're 30 otherwise everything fades to black
and it just says game over across the screen or something like that. Don't feel like you need to.
Just because your life might be unfolding in a way that you didn't intend or isn't
conforming to what society says you should or shouldn't be doing. That's okay, your life is
just going to go the way that it's going to go. I don't want you to force anything artificially
in order to end up in a relationship, but it's not the right relationship for you
or you're in the relationship for the wrong reason or anything like that. I want you to be able to
move forward confidently from wherever you might be right now, knowing that you're making the right
choice for you, whatever that might be. And if you need to take some time to heal from your breakup,
go ahead and do it. If connecting with your ex seems like the most interesting thing for you
to be doing right now, go ahead and do that. If you're okay emotionally, and you're not
just jumping into a rebound relationship or something like that and dating other people
seems like the most interesting thing for you. Then again, by all means, go ahead and do that.
But you want to think about where you are, honestly, be honest with yourself, and you want to
think about what sort of consequences that might have. Where you might be emotionally, what sort
of, you know, fallout side effects that might have based off of where you want to go and what you
want to do and ask yourself if you're okay with that. If you're okay with that and it's something
you want to do then, sure, by all means go ahead and do it, go ahead and date other people,
go ahead and be okay with that. Because you've thought about the consequences, you've thought
about the potential fallout and you're okay with it. It seems like something that you want to do,
then sure by all means, go ahead and date. And if you do want to learn more about dating,
if that is something that you want to get started on, we do of course, have our new Authentic Dating
course, which we're opening up for pre sale, early access as of today, actually today. And
we're going to be having this discount up through Monday morning, Pacific US time when I wake up
early in the morning and actually kind of switched things over on our website. But feel free to go
ahead and sign up if that's something you want to do, if it's not that's okay, too. If you want to
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