-Salamu Alikum, Abdullah, how's it going, man? = Walaikum asalam, Alhamdulliah
-What are you doing these days? =Nothing much, enjoying the weather
=How about you? -I was enjoying the weather until I got a question
People be messed up, dude!
This lady emails me and says she's expecting
MashaAllah
And the husband tells her we can't afford a baby
So you should abort
Oh God!
How could he say that?!
I don't understand
like, we don't have Rizk (Providence), it's not the time,
And he even drops some religious justification in there
And he says things like "In the first few months, the angel hasn't blown the soul into the baby
So it's not really a human
So it's all good"
The Thing in all of this is
I'm not in a position to give fatwas
and I'm never gonna do that
But first of all,
to cite that we cannot afford this child
And then of course all the other religious justifications are later
The real reason is the guy doesn't wanna spend money
So for money he's willing to take a human life, that's what he's willing to do
Which is the most absurd, offensive thing
And it's particularly mentioned in the Qur'an something the Mushrikoon (pagans) used to do
Don't kill your children because you're poor, because of bankruptcy, and don't kill your children because in the future you're afraid of becoming bankrupt
We're the ones who provide you and provide them
=And he's missing that
The thing is, in that Ayah, if you violate it, then you've violated the entire Ayah
You know what that means?
That Allah will stop providing you
You've blocked Allah's way of providing to this child
And you ended up killing this child because you thought you're not gonna be able to provide for them
And Allah is saying, what, do you think you provide for them?
I do
Allah takes credit for it Himself
And if you deny that, you're denying your own road to Rizk
This person is seriously scared about money,
They should be scared if they even suggest this idea
And for the sister, I've not responded to her yet, but I would probably tell her
she needs to hold her ground
This is her baby, and this is a gift that Allah has given her, and no husband has a right to say that
Husbands do not have the right to say that, that is just absolutely wrong, I don't know where they get the idea they have the right
It's a life that Allah owns, not us, we don't have a say in it, we really don't
May Allah make the situation of these kinds of women easy
Sometimes wifves are messed up, and sometimes husbands are, like, epic messed up
So what about situations where... it's not marriage... maybe someone was abused and they ended up conceiving?
That's a completely different situation
But even then, the idea of abortion is something else
What should be said about those kinds of cases is that the child should not be considered cursed
Because that's what society does
(Children of Zina) and this and that
That's not an Islamic concept
To consider this child illegitimate and therefore they're treated less than others
In Western society that's not a problem, marriage out of wedlock and children out of wedlock
But in Eastern society, traditional religious cultures, Muslims included
It's a major, major problem
Now Zina (Adultery) itself is really bad, or rape, or whatever may have happened
That's a crime, and that's dealt with separately
But the child is not supposed to pay the price of somebody else's crime
They're not supposed to... as traumatic that may be for the mother
And I'm not talking about abortion, cause I don't know, that's a separate issue
But what I'm talking about is that child should not be stigmatized
And the overarching principle that protects that child from being stigmatized
is one statement from Allah, one saying says it all:
We honored all children of Adam
That child is also a child of Adam, which means they're dignified by Allah
Which means at a certain point in the pregnancy, a Rooh (soul) came, and was blown into that child, also
And that Rooh was also from Allah, you know, Allah sent it
Angels also descend on these mothers
So, that's not something we can take away from them
Then there's the complicated side of this problem, which is the abortion itself
Which, I personally don't see how you can justify it
But there may be arguments, I don't know, I don't know them, and that's something Fuqahaa (Scholars of Fiqh) deal with
But the moral side of this, what's in the best interest of this baby, that's a separate problem altogether
=So ultimately the husband doesn't have the right to tell that to the wife, that's her body -That's it
=It's her choice -Yeah, yeah ,SubhanaAllah
May Allah help the Muslims, see you next time In Shaa Allah