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- [Instructor] Hi Psych2Goers.
Welcome back to another video.
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When they said beauty is in the eye of the beholder,
they certainly seem to have gotten it right.
People from different cultures and backgrounds
have always had their own standards of beauty
and what is idealistically attractive.
But whether or not we will ever agree enough
to come up with one universal definition of beauty,
psychologists and scholars alike
have certainly tried to quantify and understand
the nature of attractiveness.
More than just physical appearance,
attractiveness is defined as a perceived, multi-modal
construct of how appealing a person is
as a potential romantic partner based on both
visual and nonvisual cues.
So, what exactly makes someone attractive?
Well, here are six of the most attractive traits
a person can have.
Number one, emotional sensitivity.
Don't you love it when you find a partner
who is in touch with their emotions
and they are open and mature enough to talk about them?
When you show off your more emotional side
and are willing to let your partner in emotionally,
that is most attractive.
You might think you have to act tough
and indifferent, but the truth is
people like it when you're more in touch
with your emotions.
When you are emotionally sensitive,
then it's easier for you to connect with your partner
and feel closer to them.
Number two, good manners.
Having good manners is a great way to find
a good partner.
Do you often say please and thank you?
This shows that you are respectful,
considerate, and kind.
Even getting your date little trinkets
and things that you know that they'll like
is a charmingly, thoughtful way
to show your appreciation for them.
Number three, having drive and motivation.
It is incredibly appealing to find a partner
who displays passion, drive, and determination.
Whether they're driven in their career
or are bold about their passions and hobbies.
It's nice to date someone who has selective goals
and is full of motivation.
Discipline and ambition are important things to foster
in yourself if you want to attract a partner.
Nothing is more attractive when you personally know
what you want and aren't afraid to go for it.
Number four, a good sense of humor.
If you like to laugh and joke around a lot,
you probably want to date someone
who also has a good sense of humor.
You want to amicably laugh at your date's jokes
and be able to crack a few of your own as well.
Having a good sense of humor shows
that you are clever and sharp witted
and that is attractive to potential partners.
A sense of humor makes your conversations
more fun and interesting as well.
Number five, confidence.
Do you like being around people who are happy
to be themselves?
Are you attracted to someone who is comfortable
in their own skin and who knows their inherit worth?
When you have a healthy sense of confidence in yourself,
you can attract a healthy partner.
Confidence is attractive because it makes you seem more
bold, elegant, and captivating.
And number six, intelligence.
When you hold onto a sense of intelligence,
it conveys that you are also classy and mature.
You want a partner who can not only open your mind
to new ideas and thoughts but also someone who
challenges you mentally.
When you have a mental and emotional connection
with someone, this strengthens your initial bond
and can make you seem more attractive to them.
Maybe you didn't consider that your next chemistry class
could be a good dating field but
try to have some stimulating conversations
with your lab partner and see where it goes.
You may just get a date.
So, do you agree with what psychologists believe
to be the most desirable qualities in a romantic partner?
What traits do you find attractive in a person?
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