(upbeat music)
Hi everyone
We are about to read some really nasty comments
So I thought what better way to open today's video
Than to appreciate my mom's blooming orchid, isn't it magnificent?
It really is, she's very proud of it
So just take a second, take it in
And then we'll get started with a little bit of a tough topic
(Intro song) Hello, hello, welcome to the show, welcome to the show
Welcome to the show, it's time to talk about our lives (Chloe bark)
We receive one type of mean comment
More than any other type of mean comment that we receive
Yes
Hannah, take it away
From Shyan: No disrespect, but I know everyone wonders why such a beautiful woman
Would want to be in a relationship with a disabled man
I am not disabled but would never be able to get a woman that good looking
Just curious, is he rich?
Next
From Sigmund: Is he rich?
Next
From Lou: I think he's filthy rich, he looks smart
Thank you (Both laugh) Next
Lkid: What she didn't say is that he was filthy rich
Next
Madshocko: He has to be rich
Next
Lawrence Murphy: Fake fake fake, either that or he's loaded
Next
Sockmahawk, which, okay... He must be rich, I hope he had an iron clad pre nup
Next
This is a troll, it's just called trololol, like trolololol? I don't know, whatever
I assume he is very rich
Next
Dirtydog: how rich is he?
Next
The official man: I promise you that he's either rich or she's cheating
Because this is just sad
Are you noticing a theme here?
There's more, Jaysoto: Is he rich?
Another one, he is very rich and she likes cash, gross
I'm ready to begin here
Julio: he must be really rich, with a bunch of money bags
(Shane laughs)
Michael: He must be rich
Okay, we can be done
I found those comments to make this video
Yeah
All from the last like two months, those aren't even close to all of them
It just took Shane literally like three minutes to get all of those
Screenshot them and send them to me
And I was like, are you getting in a bad mood? He was like not at all
I was like I would never be able to do that
Among the people that do not believe our relationship is real
Because I am disabled and Hannah is not
There is a large opinion that I was very very rich when Hannah met me
And that was why, that was the real reason, why she reached out
And began a fake relationship with me
Yeah, or some people would be like well it's not fake, they're really married
But it's only because he's rich, she would never have considered it if he hadn't been rich
Absolutely, so today we are going to divulge all the details of my finances
Yep
From when we met and talk about what my financial situation was like
Yes
This is an ill-advised video, to share my personal financial information
Why?
I'm sure right now my mom is rolling her eyes
We're not giving bank account numbers, I just want to say
Oh, I'm giving all my bank account numbers (Shane laughs)
This is from... no, this financial information is from six years ago
You're not giving anything that needs to be protected
Oh true, yeah (Shane laughs)
This is old news, and obviously a lot of those people we're not talking to
We're not trying to reach, there are some people that are not going to listen
To anything we say, but I think there are a lot of people who are reasonable people
They're not trying to be malicious just for fun
Who genuinely are like huh, he probably had money, I've never seen any relationship like this
I'm sure there's something more to it, you know
So I think for those people who are a little bit more moderate
This could hopefully be eye opening for them
Yeah, absolutely, so before we do that, can you... I'm sorry, can you grab my chapstick?
Oh
It's behind my back, do you see it back there? I just feel like my lips are really..
No, I see your mask, just the mask
Yeah
There's a wad of cash
No, no, no!
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I hope you enjoyed that joke
Let's dive in
So Shane, do you want your phone so you can look...
Oh my notes, yeah I made notes
H: Shane literally prepared for this S: I prepared for this, yeah
He wrote all these numbers down, he was looking up different forms
Can you hold it up for me?
Sure
I went back through my records and stuff
Bank statements
And I calculated what I was worth, what my net worth was
When Hannah reached out to me for the first time
So I think what would be good is if you say all these numbers and talk about it
And then we can talk about what I saw from the outside
What your perspective was, yeah
And then our experience, in our first two years we were long distance
And then we moved in together, so we had a lot of discussion about finances
During that time, so we can talk about that
But first let's do the numbers
Alright, so in the year before Hannah met me
My primary salary was $22,000 before tax, so a little bit lower than that
I, as you may or may not know, am also an author
So I had just received my very first book deal ever
Like a year, or maybe a year and a half..
It says on here two years before
Two years before, I should use my notes
Just use your notes (Hannah laughs)
Two years before Hannah met me, from that book deal I received $41,000
Which let me tell you, as a senior in college when I received that, I... wow
Mind blown a million times over
However, about ten thousand of that I put aside right away for taxes
Because you have to pay taxes
Yes
So those are the only two ways that I had ever made money
So at that point in my life, after I took the taxes out of my book deal
I had $52,000 to my name
Well, that's what you had earned
Yes
That's not like you had that in a bank account
So Shane had in his life earned $52,000
Yes, up to the point where I met Hannah
Yeah, so what did you purchase? Let's talk about that, right before we met
Well as a new author who had just gotten his first book deal
I was over the moon about my ability to buy things and support myself
I'm not gonna add up the meals I ate and stuff like that
Especially because you were living with your parents, you didn't have rent
Right, right
You didn't have to pay any expenses like that, so
Yeah, didn't have a phone bill, stuff like that
So I won't factor that in
I will say, the day I got my book deal I went out and bought a tv
Of course you did
So, and that's not factored in here, but that was like a thousand dollars
Anyway, so things that I spent money on prior to meeting Hannah
I bought a van for myself and my family
The van that we had at the time that was accessible was like ten years old
And run down and we needed a new one, so I bought one
That cost $25,000
I paid for it all at once, lump sum
So you've currently spent half of your money
Yeah (Shane laughs)
So you've gone from 50,000 to now 25
Yep, then I, because I was living with my parents
We had a smaller home, and I felt like as a college student
I wanted more room to myself, and so I had an elevator installed in my bedroom
That would allow me to get down into our unfinished basement
And no, I didn't just hang out in the unfinished basement
I had a contractor make a nice hang out bedroom down there
Where I could hang out with my friends
Yeah
That room ended up being really useful when Hannah began to visit
And we had a place kind of our own down there
Yeah
That elevator and all the work to make that room was $24,000
So just with those two items, I'd basically spent all the money that I had to my name
But I also graduated the year before I met Hannah
And that left me with $37,000 in student loans
Obviously I didn't pay all that off right away, I'm still paying that off to this day
But that was a very real monthly expense that I had to think about
Yeah
So those are my financials, right around the time that Hannah came into my life
Yes
S: Hannah, from your perspective H: My perspective
S: When you saw me H: When I saw you
Did your eyes light up with money symbols?
No, Shane, I mean it was hard to tell anything financially over Facetime, initially
But very quickly we started sharing about how we had grown up, pictures of our homes
Had we ever moved, places that we had travelled to
I'm so sorry to interrupt, I asked Shane for a picture of his childhood home
To put into the video, and he sent it but he said it's a duplex
So we only lived in the right side, and I was like okay, I can just write duplex
And he was like hold on, I'll send you an edited version, and he just sent it
And I'm going to put it in now, but I thought it needed a little bit of an explanation
Because it's just a little bit odd
It was very clear what Shane's financial situation growing up had been
And what mine had been, that was definitely something we talked about
So I knew that Shane lived in a smaller house
I knew that he didn't make a lot of money with his job
We definitely talked about the fact that he had student loans
Like as a "oh no, I have student loans, it's annoying" type thing
Yeah, and Hannah's family had travelled extensively which costs money
My family would do maybe one vacation a year and that was something that I was like
Woah, Hannah travels all the time, that's so cool
So did you go after me for my money, Shane?
Oh, god, plot twist
Plot twist
A little bit (Shane laughs)
You were travel... what is it, like gold digging? You were travel digging?
Yeah
You were like I'm gonna join in
But no, I mean the fact of the matter is my family is thoroughly middle class
I would say Hannah's family is like upper middle class
Yeah
And that's just the fact of the matter, that's what it was
Yep, so we also had to talk about money when it came time for me to visit Pennsylvania
And then Shane to come to Minnesota, and that was like two months into knowing each other
Was our first visit, and then they were pretty much monthly after that
S: It was a lot H: It was a lot
And I was a college student, I had a job lifeguarding and I had an office job at school
But I made $80 a week, literally, I think I worked 8 hours a week and it was $10 an hour
Those jobs did not pay for the flights (Both laugh)
No, they didn't, so my parents very generously paid for half of my flights
Yeah, thank you Liz and George for all of the flights that you helped pay for
For all the support, and then Shane would pay probably for the other half
Of the flights
But I remember that was such a good feeling, saving up $300
And being like Hannah, I have enough to buy a flight for you
Yeah, I can come, yeah, so that was our main expense for those two years
And then when Shane moved in, for months and months before he moved in
He was moving out of his parents house for the first time
He worked very diligently on a budget and it was very detailed
And it was very important that we stuck to the budget
And again my parents had been paying for my dorm room
So they switched to paying for our apartment
And they paid for half of it, which our rent was only $800
Which was good for the small town we were in
So my parents paid $400 and then Shane paid $400 in rent
My parents helped us with buying food, groceries
Anything that they would've been paying for, like I was no longer on the dining plan
So we had a lot of help from my parents
I also remember another moment of just joy was every once in a while
My mom and dad would send us an Aldi gift card or Home Foods
Yep
And Hannah and I would run to the store to get treats that didn't fit into the budget
Unless we had that gift card
Yeah, that's how you know you've grown up
Is when you start asking for grocery store giftcards for birthdays and Christmas
That's all we started asking for because that was what we wanted the most
Yeah, so that, and what we just described, covers the first four years of our relationship
Three or four
I would say three, because three in is when we started our Youtube channel
Right
And we started making money in other ways
And I had just graduated
Right, and I had proposed by that point, by the end of that
And we were getting married
Yeaah, oh yeah yeah yeah
I'm just saying like, up until the point that we were engaged
There was no reason that you would be like oh, Shane's loaded, you know?
Yeah (Both laugh)
So for all of those comments, there was nothing to pre nup
Because nothing happened before the wedding
Neither of us had any money to ourselves before the wedding
Everything that we've made has been together as a couple
And that's a good point, like this is not say that we haven't been successful since then
Yeah
And we're extremely grateful for that
But Hannah's decision to reach out to me, to fall in love with me
Was in no way even possibly about money because I didn't have very much
Yeah
And so I think that that, I think it's ridiculous that we even need to prove that
And we don't
And we don't, yeah, we don't
But like Hannah said, there might be people watching us
Who are casually assuming that I'm rich or that I was when Hannah met me
Yeah
And that's just not the case, it was my eyes
It was your eyes
So now you know all about Shane's six year old finances
I hope you're all very...
I hope you enjoyed that
Yeah, I hope you enjoyed that and I'm gonna go back to counting
All the money behind my back
I had to scrape around to find cash
Shane was like put some cash behind my back
I was like we don't really carry cash
(Shane laughs)
There's a dollar bill
(Shane laughs) And then a lot of hundreds
Alright everyone, have a good day, bye