Translator: Dan Meyer Reviewer: Rhonda Jacobs
I'm about to change your reality
either by getting you guys to connect with mine,
or for me to get you guys to disconnect with yours.
When I was eight years old, I was at my school.
There was an evening event.
Some state's hypnotist was about to perform in front of everyone.
And I was eight.
And imagine an old gym and people are still smoking -
this is the early '80s -
and we're sitting there totally intense and waiting for this magical moment.
And I saw this amazing guy perform on stage, thinking,
"Wow! That is something I want to do."
Imagine altering people's ideas of reality
right there in front of me,
and still trying to figure out,
"How did he do that?
What kind of secret touch did he do to hypnotize people?"
because I was eight.
I didn't understand communication then.
But what I did afterwards was kind of like,
"Oh, I'm going to change my life completely right now," being eight,
and figuring out how to do it,
so I thought, "Well, let's go to the library."
Got my bike, rode all the way down there, and asked people there,
"So, do you have any books on hypnosis?"
And they're like, "Yeah,"
and helped me find one.
And I found the book on hypnosis.
So totally eager, and totally full of inspiration from that performance,
I looked through the book.
There were no pictures, no images, no nothing.
No explanation of how to do the Star Trek squeeze on the shoulder
or something like that
to hypnotize people right there on the spot.
So my whole idea of what I saw that evening got shattered.
The reality from my moment, my peak moment looking at that performance, totally got
bashed away, just like that.
And I was like, "Okay, so hypnosis is not real."
And I spent the next 12 years by being totally anti everything
that was a little bit woo-woo
and a little bit hypnotic or whatever.
But at some point, I actually suddenly got a gift certificate
for a hypnosis session.
I'm like, "Okay, this is not going happen,
because I know there's no secret tricks to it.
It's all make-believe."
And being kind of like not the most optimal kind of client,
I was lying there,
bad breath from the therapist,
she was wearing all purple as most people do in that business -
I thought -
and I could hear her stomach growl
because apparently she was hungry.
And there were so many things my brain tried to figure out,
"Is this a way out? Can I escape this experience?"
And what happened was one brief moment of clarity, I guess.
I thought, "Well, who am I to just lie here and be so obnoxious,
be arrogant in my own little "world of reality"?
Why not just give in and see what happens because I'm in control.
But everything I'd done so far was me not being in control.
I finally got it that very moment.
And instantly, I had the most amazing experience with hypnosis.
And everything I wanted to become way back when I was eight
kind of gave meaning right there on the spot.
So I decided to travel the world,
learn from the best.
Spent all my money, sold my business
and got to learn from the best in the world.
So I changed my reality there for a brief moment,
but the outcome ...
I'm going to tell you more about that.
So you're all in charge of your reality.
So which kind of reality are you connecting with right now?
Other people's ideas of your reality?
Your own idea?
Are you focusing on the stuff that you do not want to become?
Reality is not real unless it's a thought, a feeling or emotion.
And I know our brains are designed to be a little bit negative
because it's all survival mode because we're all Neanderthals
way, way back, and we still are.
So every time we look at a challenge, it's either "Can I survive this?"
or "Can I conquer this?"
or "Can I be killed by this?"
It's basically still what's going on, isn't it?
So the question is,
what would happen if you guys were way better
at thinking positive,
manifestation of good outcomes
of dreams and successes?
Wouldn't that be awesome?
Well, think about already right now
that when you have a bright idea,
a cool thing, something positive,
your brain is actually throwing endorphins and dopamine within your body
and you feel happier.
It's not a matter of minutes or hours or days; it's seconds.
But you could choose actually just to sit there
and think about everything as,
"Oh, this is not going to go very well," or "At least I try."
It's not about trying.
You know what Yoda said, right?
"There is no try; there's do or do not," right?
That was my best Yoda impression, anyway.
So I want you to think about something right now,
something that you do every single day,
think about, that you want to be better at.
Just think about that for a brief moment,
something you want to be better at.
I want you guys to share that with me just a little bit.
So anyone, can you think about anything you want to be better at,
something you want to change?
Just raise of hands.
Anyone.
There's one.
Sorry?
Singing?
Awesome.
Why singing?
(Writing)
(Audience) [Inaudible]
(Laughter)
Well, do you think you're not good at it, and that's why it's your reality?
Or are you actually good at it, but you want to be better?
(Audience) Like that.
Like that?
Well, there you go.
And your name is?
(Writing)
Joe.
This is going to be awesome, Joe.
So, I'm pretty sure you have a moment in time where you felt like,
"Oh, this is going pretty well.
My singing is absolutely awesome."
And then there's moments where you think like,
"Oh, this could be way better," correct?
Okay.
So here's a way you can actually change things, realities and ideas already.
So I want to give you guys a little assignment,
a little job to do right now.
I want you all to focus on a specific thing
that is a challenge or a problem within your daily life.
Could be anything, really.
So think about that, and just take your weakest hand
and imagine that you hold your problem in the weakest hand you have right now.
Just play with that idea for a moment, okay?
And while you're doing that, just leave it in the weakest hand -
that seems kind of like the right hand to choose right now -
and then think about a peak moment,
a moment in time
where maybe you were a child, a teen or something like that,
where you had the most awesome time of your life,
with no concern whatsoever about "What's going to happen tomorrow?"
No concern about
"What do other people think about me right now?"
You just felt awesome.
The strongest ever.
Powerful.
On top of your game.
Nothing is impossible right now.
That kind of moment.
Just nod your head when you know when that moment is.
And just connect with it right now, totally connect with it.
Close your eyes for a little bit.
Connect with it totally,
and allow yourselves to feel how it felt back then.
Feel that now.
Allow yourself to think how it felt to be thinking like that way back,
but do it now.
Allow yourself to recognize the change within your body right now
thinking about that moment,
totally forgetting about it until this very moment
that that was a pretty awesome moment.
You might even be a little bit surprised about the moment you chose
because your brain is playing tricks on you right now.
And everything that was part of that moment
is part of you right now, still is, ever was.
So what I want you to do right now
is take that weak hand with that teeny, tiny problem,
and imagine you're throwing it in,
right in there, in that peak moment
and it kind of just disappears.
Just do that right now, just throw it in there
and see how it disappears
in the mixture of feeling great and awesome.
And try to connect, really try.
Try to connect with that old problem and see what happens.
Something's changed.
Because the neural networks within your brain have changed already.
Because the triggers that used to bring it up
have now changed to something different.
And you can't feel happy and positive about something,
and then at the same time feel negative about something else.
It's not a question about it's either this or that.
Most people think that - it's either this or that.
No. Wrong. False.
It's either this ... or not this.
Because if it's either this or not this, that means not this is everything else.
A "this or that" is either this teeny, tiny problem
or that teeny, tiny problem.
And then there's still everything else.
Think about that.
I want you once more to share something with me -
the peak moments.
You were pretty fast at raising your hand there.
So, where was your peak moment?
(Audience) I spent the weekend camping with my boyfriend.
So camping, is that it?
(Writing)
Where were you camping?
(Audience) Poconos.
Poconos?
(Writing)
Was it awesome? (Audience) Oh, yeah.
How old were you?
You said "boyfriend," so ...
you know, what happens in the woods, yeah ...
(Laughter)
Well, again, I just want you guys to really understand the thing
that if you want to change something, if you want to disconnect with what was,
that was a problem,
and we want to connect with what is and might be a success,
first of all, you need to allow yourself to change.
Keep that in mind. You need to allow yourself.
You're responsible for your life.
Nobody else is.
And you need to know what to change.
So allow yourself, and what to change.
Third:
How to change.
Okay?
Because if you know all three of those, and you do it on a daily basis,
you can change your life instantly, fast,
in the most powerful way.
It's not seeking opportunity, it's living it
because if you can dream it,
you already know how to feel it,
and if you know how to feel it, it's part of you.
Could you possibly dream about something that is not part of your reality?
Could you?
It's impossible.
If it does not exist within your mind, it does not exist.
So if you can think about it, it's right there.
Don't aim for success or chase it.
Become it because it's right here.
Connect with that because that is powerful.
You know, reality and the brain is really not the best friends really
because the brain does not know the difference between experience,
imagination,
and whatever pops up right there in front of you.
It does not know the difference.
So if you can imagine it,
why not?
Instead of keeping track of all your experiences,
everything you've ever done,
because that is the past, it's done.
Last thing before I really change your reality.
Are you all up for that?
You do not know what it is, so I'm pretty positive that you -
Why are you still smiling?
Because you do not know what's going to happen.
It's interesting, isn't it?
Because while I've been doing this, the question is: What is really real?
Is everything I said right now, is that real?
Is that part of your reality? Did you connect with me?
Did you disconnect with me?
I want to prove that the mind is way stronger than you think it is.
So anyone in the first couple of rows,
I want a four-digit number.
Could be anything, really - a four-digit number.
Who can think of a four-digit number?
Randomly.
Okay. You can.
(Audience) 4-4-5-5
Okay.
(Writing)
Why 4-4-5-5?
What's your name?
(Audience) Kristen.
Kristen?
(Writing)
So it's not your cell PIN
or your bank account, or whatever, is it?
It's really just that?
So what's really interesting about that is, you said that randomly, didn't you?
I didn't prepare you beforehand.
I didn't tell you what to do, anything like that.
You just thought that up, didn't you?
And "camping" just came to you, didn't it?
Hmm. And the change, the singing, you didn't expect that question, did you?
Interesting.
So what we're going to do right now is actually -
I'm going to take this because I prepared something for you guys.
I prepared something for you guys.
And it's going to be real awesome.
So really what's going to happen is,
if I just show you guys just to make sure
that what we've got is -
first word is "singing."
Second one is "camping."
And we've got the 4-4-5-5.
And you might be wondering
what am I doing with this scissors right now.
Well, this envelope has been up here the whole time, correct?
It's sealed.
I made sure it's sealed.
So what we're going to do is actually just cut it open -
just like that.
And inside, I have something amazing for you guys
that might blow your mind
because we've got "singing," "camping" and "4-4-5-5."
The two words are "singing," "camping" and "4-4-5-5."
So the question is,
Did I just mess with your mind?
Did I predict the future?
What happened? What is real?
And you see, that boy that wanted to travel the world
and just become that stage performer,
that is me.
Right now, I went beyond that,
performed in 17 countries,
get to lecture the world
and share my inspiration of change and reality,
how to connect with what's really you.
So think about that.
What do you want to change?
And what's real to you after this very moment?
Thank you
(Applause)