Heather bought me her list of
requirements so let's check them out
he must be between 30 and 45 financially
stable no kids 510 or taller no hookups
or flings ready to settle down no
roommates no smoking must love dessert
and can't be anti sugar must be honest
reliable sweet and kind quick-witted
romantic must love food must pay on the
first date no flowers on the first date
must be a social drinker and must never
wear sweatpants okay well we got some
more requirements but will Hanuman rule
this is Heather and she has a list of
over 50 requirements that she expects
her boyfriend 1/2 now many of the women
in the audience laugh at her during this
segment but I imagine that if they were
asked about their requirements they
would have a list very similar in length
despite her low value heather expects to
get her perfect 10 out of 10 guy who can
meet all 50 or more of her requirements
and she wonders why she's single just
for comparison I bet I can sum up what
most men want in just three things
she must be attractive she can't be a
[ __ ] and she must be a good housewife
by the way there are guys out there who
will date all types of physical
appearances so this is really mostly an
issue of personality as for Heather
let's calculate some numbers she wants a
10 out of 10 guy and for the sake of
argument let's start her off as if she
were a 10 something that is immediately
noticeable is that Heather has crazy
eyes and that takes off at least two
points now she's an 8 I don't know her
age but she looks very close to 30 and
that knocks another point off her score
in her requirements she says that a man
cannot be against sweets because she
owns a dessert business and he must love
food why are those requirements because
she needs an excuse to get fat she
already looks like she's gained weight
and is trying to hide it her dress is
not form-fitting and it has a seam in
her bellybutton which forces the fat
rules down so that she doesn't get a
muffin top be aware that women have all
kinds of tricks to hide how fat they are
the key giveaway is the size of her arms
that right there knocks off a minimum of
one points probably more in the future
and now she's a six last she has a
frosting business which means that
either she is going to be gone all the
time so the kids in the home aren't
going to be taken care of or she's going
to expect you to dole out the cash and
float her family in business that's
minus two points so she wants a guy who
is a ten out of ten when she at best
it's a four guys let me get one of the
pillars over here okay all right here we
go let's see must be adventurous must be
humble must be spontaneous must be a
planner can't be self-centered can't be
cocky must love dogs can't own a dog
from a breeder can't be jealous of her
dog and can't own a cat the hill what
Heather wants her man to be a
spontaneous and unpredictable how is he
supposed to do that when she has
micromanaged him down to the exact
person he has to be there's no room for
surprises because he might ruin the
relationship by admitting that his
favorite season is fall I'm the founder
and CEO of my own frosting company Wow
look at those titles founder and chief
executive officer why because you're the
only employee I can't imagine working
for a control freak like her where
everything about a person needs to be
into her liking down to the exact detail
look at this she has four different
rules on dogs he has to be a dog lover
but he can only adopt shelter dogs geez
you're like a vegan who attacks other
vegans for not being vegan enough people
who are being managed hate it when you
give them 30 different things to do all
that's going to assure is that nothing
is going to get done by comparison she
has more rules specifically about dogs
than most men do about the entire
relationship is this what women consider
healthy the way you actually manage
people and this goes for everyone is to
keep rules simple but to pick rules that
are important enough to encompass
multiple things so when a man says he
wants a woman that's attractive what
does attractive mean I can tell you for
me that it
you can't be fat she can't have tattoos
she can't have any weird piercings what
does it mean to be a good housewife it
means she has to be home it means she
has to be able to cook it means she has
to be able to clean and it means she has
to be good with kids those two rules and
the third cover a lot of areas and what
they do is allow the details that are
unsaid to be positively interpreted by
the other person when you give them that
freedom they often think of something
better than what you thought of and
because they thought of it they will own
it and work harder to achieve that
positive thing by giving someone an
exhaustive list you are just saying I am
always right and I don't trust your
ability to think and make decisions so
when you treat people like that
don't be surprised that they can't think
or make good decisions people like to
discover things for themselves which is
why most people hate it when you spoil a
movie they want mystery and how a good
interaction should occur with the person
they are talking to when you give
someone a list of 50 rules there is no
room to explore and that's bad for both
parties if you are a man and you follow
every asinine we're on that list then
she will get bored because there's
nothing about you to discover and you
will get dumped there needs to be some
mystery and what you say to people so
they can figure out what you mean on
their own if you get that right and you
have provided value to the person then
they will jump to figure out how to
serve you in a positive way
okay he can't be jealous of your dog so
the last guy that he admitted after a
few months that he was jealous of my dog
and he was kind of mean to my dog in the
beginning and he said that I gave my dog
more attention than I gave to him did
you well I mean my dog never fought with
me your dog doesn't fight with you
because if it does you won't feed it
that's clearly what she wants
a slave and that's why men are kicking
her to the curb if she wanted a real
relationship like she claims she does
then the question she should be asking
is what did I do to make him jealous of
my dog but instead she blames him for
the wrongdoing and just adds another
thing to the list why exactly is this
woman a catch see if you're looking for
a guy with all of that yeah I don't know
that he exists
looks like she's planning a future with
a lot of dogs let's get to the second
example and it's more pathetic than the
first yo this is my question I am a
single mom I have a full-time career I
work very hard very responsible a single
mother and she calls herself responsible
I wouldn't say that but okay but I get
the typical blonde big boobs tattoos
that's how guys kind of see me and you
know I have a really huge personality
like really big sometimes it's like my
mom's like you need a filter but that's
just how I am
right a huge personality maybe it's just
me but I've noticed this behavior a lot
in women women love to display their
negative traits as a positive I have a
huge personality and that's just the way
I am I'm really honest upfront and
people just can't seem to handle my
honesty uh hello
that's not a good thing if you have a
personality that is turning people away
then by definition you have a bad
personality
she's even stated that people have
warned her about her personality and she
has refused to listen when women say
things like I have a huge personality
that's just code for I'm a [ __ ] but I
guess my main thing is you know like I'm
seriously almost done with dating it's
like for years I have not had a day I
have never had a guy pick me up from my
house and take me on a date in my entire
life ever
what's your address I mean it's a simple
thing keep going keep going main thing
is is so like like why is that man can't
get past the exterior because I mean I
don't want to offer I'm funny as hell I
mean really
the whole premise of this segment is
that she as a woman who has not had a
date in four years a saying that men
only want her because she's attractive
she's blond has big boobs and has
tattoos first of all most men don't find
tattoos attractive second have you
stepped on a scale recently third have
you looked at your birth certificate
recently this chick looks like she's
almost 40 and is borderline obese men
don't care if women are funny that's
something that women care about if you
haven't realized that and you haven't
realized that being a single mother is a
huge negative that it means you don't
care about what men wants the reason you
can't attract a man is because you
aren't a good partner no one has ever
come to your house and picked you up
that's your fault because you listen
you've got to have some type of
requirements and standards if you can't
come get me and pick me up you can't
have me the reason you're not getting
invited out on dates is because you
won't create the persona that you're
special you just won't appear special
enough because you're so busy being
funny as hell so busy being this light
to the world come on Steve she knows
that if she has those standards all the
guys are going to pass because she
doesn't have very much value as a 40
year old overweight tattooed single
mother when you don't have a lot of
value you can't make demands her having
high standards is like a minimum-wage
employee saying to his boss I don't like
being paid minimum wage if I don't get
paid $50 an hour then I'm not going to
work here okay you're fired
you weren't worth $50 an hour that's
what she wants she wants a six-figure
salary Romeo when at best all she can do
is be a sugar mama for a 20 year old guy
who works in McDonald's and it's not
like she was born that way from how she
describes herself she was probably born
attractive and then became unattractive
through bad decisions that she states
she is not willing to change she's not
willing to change her huge personality
that turns people off
and very likely she is not willing to
lose weight the reality is that she
probably had many chances of land a guy
that she says she wants but squandered
it by being high-maintenance and only
offering sex as a point of value women
who do this this is your future notice
how she didn't state that she could cook
or she was willing to take care of kids
or anything else men value outside of
physical attractiveness don't be
surprised that men only want you for
your looks when that's all you bring to
the table however she seems to just want
to blame men instead of fixing her
defects these two women from these
segments aren't looking to change they
are looking for someone to validate
their bad behavior
in terms of the first girl Heather you
can tell by her body language that her
dream was to go on to the Steve Harvey
Show right on her list of a hundred
rules a guy has to follow to be in a
relationship with her and then have
Steve say oh my god these guys are just
ridiculous you don't have high standards
you just know exactly what she wants you
have so much to offer you're a
businesswoman you're strong and
intelligent you can have any man you
want
that is exactly what she wanted to hear
here's the evidence they sent her on a
date with a guy with a higher number
than her and she rejects him instantly
please welcome College how about you go
out and see if you can enjoy him and if
he can enjoy you and promise me one
thing we're not discussing the list the
date is going really well it was nice to
kind of converse with her away from the
light I would like there to be a second
date but again he lives in DC and I'm
not going to ever live in DC I have no
desire
in DC so what are they called
geographically undesirable I think that
might be a case look at those crazy eyes
my friend she didn't take any of the
advice to lower her standards because
she didn't want advice it's the same
with the second girl she wants Steve to
say you were so beautiful your boobs and
your tattoos are fantastic oh you're a
single mother
Wow you must work really hard and love
your children so much I can't imagine
why men aren't jumping to take you on a
date and treat you like the queen that
you are and actually Steve kind of did
that his co-host did it too do you think
she's going to make any positive changes
when they just validated her bad
behavior one thing I noticed about
people who are highly valuable is that
they tend to have a sense of what other
people want which makes sense because
you don't build wealth or value on your
own without knowing what people wants I
imagine it's because they are constantly
asking themselves what do people find
valuable the reality is that if you are
properly asking that question and you
are constantly working to be the best
version of yourself then you won't have
a problem finding people to be around
you people will naturally gravitate
towards you when you are being desirable
what these chicks are looking for
instead is a trick to gain the system
how can I trick these guys into liking
me without working on myself that
doesn't work that's called manipulation
and even if it does work it will always
backfire because eventually the person
is going to realize that you have no
value oh wait this [ __ ] cares more about
her dog than she does about me bye
if people don't naturally want to engage
with you they don't want to be your
friend if they aren't jumping to trust
you a certain tasks or give you
opportunities or listen to your ideas
it's because you aren't compelling them
now a part of that could be that you
haven't properly placed yourself in an
area where you're valuable that happens
it could be that you aren't a good
communicator or you could legitimately
be that you don't have any value but
that's not a big deal
because you can fix all those things
there are so many people out there who
put way more effort into dancing around
the problem instead of actually solving
it we have ways to solve these things
start working hard start
what's most important to you start
asking people what is most important to
them and start taking criticism when you
do that over a period of a few years
magically people want to be around you
magically they will start listening to
you and magically you will start
attracting better people who don't act
like these women from The Steve Harvey
Show but with that said that will be
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