Can you keep a secret? Hi, I'm Caitlin V, your sex and
relationship coach and today, I am going to spill the beans
guys. Do you ever wonder if there are things she isn't
telling you? Don't answer that I know that you do. You probably
wonder what things she's keeping from you. Maybe she's afraid to
say them or she just doesn't know how to put it into words.
Well, you're right boiler, she is she is absolutely keeping
stuff from you. And you might be wondering if knowing those
little feminine secrets of hers may be the key to taking your
relationship and your sex life to the next level. Today, I'm
going to bring you into the loop. So make sure that you
watch until the end, because this video is going to pull the
wool from over your eyes, gentlemen, because I've rounded
off 10 secrets that women keep from men. And some of these are
going to surprise the pants off of you. Now if you've taken my
course she comes to then you already know the secrets to
giving a woman the ultimate, mind boggling, earth shattering
orgasms in the bedroom. But today we're going to talk about
a different kind of secret. In fact, we're going to talk about
all kinds of different secrets that we women keep for
ourselves. And by the end of this video, you will never see
us in the same way. Again, number one, our locker room talk
is dirtier than yours, women are communicators. And part of the
reason for this is that we use talking to process how we feel
and what we think about any given situation. Plus, we'd love
to get our girlfriend's insight. And that means that pretty much
every time we get laid, our closest friends are going to
hear about it in great and gory detail. So that bartender that
you went home with on Saturday night, you bet your ass her
friends know every little thing about your hot and heavy
encounter, they know but the lead up the conversation, maybe
whether you open the door for her and your way out,
they know about how you kiss and how you smell what your
apartment looks like. And yes, they do know what your deck
looks like when women talk about sex, we dive into it, the good,
the Great, the bad and the ugly. Number two, we get bored in bed
faster than men that is 100% scientific fact, if we are
sleeping with the same partner in the same way for a little
while, chances are we are starting to get bored. women and
women's brains need novelty in the bedroom, we need to be
surprised we need to be trying new things, we actually need it
a lot more than men do in order to continue to reach the same
heights of pleasure and satisfaction. So if you've been
laying the pipe the same way over and over, chances are that
she's getting bored. And she's probably just too afraid to tell
you hey, even if the sex is fantastic doing the same thing
over and over and over again, it's like eating the same
delicious meal over and over and over again, like being trapped
inside of Groundhog's Day. And to your credit, man, you are
really good at learning something that works and then
applying it over and over and over again. So that thing that
you did with your tongue at one time and she went crazy for it,
your instinct would probably be to do that same thing every
single time because you know that she likes it. And logically
that makes sense. But women are different. And if things get
repetitive and our bodies start to get used to that sensation,
we get bored, not to mention that women's bodies change all
the time. That is like the nature of the female body is
that it is changing, which means that you also must change your
style and your technique every single time you make love to
this woman. So be sure to try new things, spice it up on a
regular basis. This YouTube channel right here is filled
with great ideas. If you're not already subscribed, take a
second to do so. Number three, we are afraid of hurting your
ego. Hopefully this is not a big surprise to you. Because this is
a huge reason that women keep secrets from men, we're afraid
of hurting you especially because some of y'all get
violent when your feelings are hurt. And don't say you don't
one of my most interesting learnings from having the
opportunity to work with so many men over the last several years
is that men are really emotional men are probably as emotional as
women, but they don't get the same permission as women to
express their emotions. And they actually don't have the same
skill at naming their emotion. Most men are good at naming
about three emotions, angry, sad, frustrated, and anything
beyond that it's a little bit more difficult for them to get
into the specifics or for you. It might be that you know, when
you're hungry, but you have a harder time knowing when you're
grieving. And it's not unusual for men to not have that nuanced
ability to describe exactly what's going on inside
emotionally, physically, etc. So women actually are emotional,
but so are men. And the truth is that men are not taught how to
deal with their emotions in the same way that women are. And men
sometimes get violent, and then sometimes act recklessly and
sometimes men act out emotionally while at the same
time screaming you're not being logical while they're the ones
having the emotional breakdown. I'm sharing this with you not
because I want to make fun of you or make you feel bad. I love
men this whole Channel is really about helping men get better at
sex. And y'all can be really scary because you don't know
what's going on inside. And unfortunately, women get killed
when men can't deal with their emotions. Domestic violence
happens when men don't know how to deal with their emotions. And
so, especially when it comes to sex, women know that nothing
kills the mood faster than when we get you in your head. When we
tell you something that makes you insecure, or make you feel
like you aren't cutting it between the sheets, this
actually stops us from having conversations that we really
want to have with you. So as a man, if you really want to know
what's going on, it is important to open the door to that kind of
communication by making it clear that you can handle it, making
it clear that you are comfortable with yourself, your
ego will not be hurt if she tells you what she wants, or
what isn't working for her. And on the flip side, if your ego
does get hurt, take yourself out of the conversation and give
yourself time to cool down before you say something or do
something rash, you can even take the lead and start this
conversation signaling to her that you are not afraid and that
you're coming from a place of wanting to learn and grow. And
that is sexy. Number four, she wants to fully let go. When it
comes to sex. Oftentimes women really don't want to be in the
driver's seat, we want to be taken on an adventure. The best
sex for us is when we can fully surrender to the moment and
totally get out of our heads. But sometimes it's hard for us
to receive that kind of pleasure. Now, as with all of
these tips, I'm not talking about every single woman, women
are of enormous category. And there are going to be some women
who really do like to be in the driver's seat when they're
having sex.
But majority of us we have a harder time letting go. And we
have a lot riding on us. We're supposed to be kind of sexy, but
also kind of demure, and we're supposed to be like cute and
coquettish, but also like freaks in the sheets. It's a lot. So in
order for us to really let go, we actually are looking to you
to be safe and generous. We're looking for a partner who will
put in the effort to be in tune with our bodies and meet someone
who isn't afraid to ask until he knows what we need. And then he
can deliver that so that we can let go and fully enjoy the right
number five, it's hard for us to receive oral sex. It's no secret
that oral sex feels amazing. The first time that my highschool
boyfriend went down on me I thought oh my god, this is
better than cake. And cake is good. Cake is really good. But
it is really hard for a lot of women to receive it. Even at
that time. I was not open to allowing him to go down. I mean,
I hear it all the time from women. A lot of us have been put
under so much pressure when it comes to receiving oral sex. We
put pressure on ourselves to orgasm in the appropriate amount
of time. We wonder if we're taking too long. We wonder if we
smell and taste okay, because we've been sold all these lies
that vulva is and vaginas taste funny, which if they taste
funny, that means that there could be an STI or an STD and
there's nothing wrong with they just got to get checked out.
This is a vicious cycle my friends, it is vicious because
we are already trying to come and we're focusing so hard on
coming before we reach an imaginary timer that goes off
that we actually cannot orgasm and then we're just looking at
you down there wondering when you're gonna stop. Can we just
all agree to cut this shit out? Right? Now? Here's how you do
it. Help us by affirming that you are enjoying it to say
things like, take your time. I'm in no rush. I could do this
forever. Your vulva is beautiful. I love the pink fold.
I love how she smells she tastes like for loop say things that
are true and designed to make us feel comfortable and relaxed.
encourage us to take our time tell us that you're having a
great time we will probably orgasm much faster anyway. And
it will be like bigger and better. Number six big penises
intimidate us. Okay cat is out of the bag. Many women fantasize
about big longs for one night stands. But when it comes to an
actual relationship, we are not looking for what you see in
porn. I repeat you me her her her over there her over there.
We are not looking for giant Cox to have sex with on a regular
basis. We're just not if you can see the size of the sex toys in
our bedroom drawers, you'd see that these are enormous sticks.
We are not looking for a dig that could club a baby seal. In
fact, that intimidates us, you have to consider like that is
gonna go inside of our body, our mouth or we're gonna have to
like stretch and make space for that. Now I'm not saying that
there's not size queens out there. There absolutely are
women who would prefer giant enormous hog leg dicks. That is
their preference. But the average woman, the average woman
is looking for an average size penis. Think about a huge dick
as if it was say a Ferris wheel. It's fun to ride when the
Carnival is in town but we are not trying to get on one every
single day. Now. If you have a big massive egg plant right now,
I don't want to shame you. This definitely does not mean that
you have anything to worry about but I'm saying it's not as as
big of a priority as you have been led to believe, at the end
of the day, it really is about how you use it in great sex has
very little to do with the size of your penis. So whatever you
are packing is perfect. Number seven, she wants to experiment,
but is afraid to tell you now this one is big, especially when
it comes to sex toys. Men, your bodies are amazing, the feel of
your tongue on our clitoris a finger or too slowly entering
the vagina bliss. But here's the thing, as amazing as your bodies
are, they can't vibrate and vibrating feels really, really
good for us. So bringing a vibrator into the bedroom is one
of the most guarantee ways for a woman to orgasm. And many, many
women would love to feel a vibrator against her clitoris
while you're penetrating her. But she's afraid to ask for it.
And she might be actually hoping that you'll be the one to bring
it up. But why is she afraid to ask? Well, because we don't want
to make you feel like you're not enough. You are enough. We know
that you are enough. We know that that little battery
operated device in the drawer specifically designed for our
pleasure could never replace you in a million years. We just know
that it's going to also take things up a notch. So please ask
us ask your partner ask your woman do you want to bring a toy
in the bedroom and give her a thumbs up. And if you're feeling
a little bit self conscious about it, approach it as an
opportunity to explore and discover number eight. We get in
our heads, too. We're human, we have insecurities. We have hang
ups, we got our own shit going on when it comes to the bedroom
dudes, when we're worried about pleasing you just like you're
worried about us. We're worried? Are you having a good time?
You're also asking, Are we having a good time?
Honestly, it's amazing that anything actually goes down in
the average bedroom with so much small talk happening inside of
our heads and all of our pessary little voices and I'm tired of
our minds going off back and forth all the time. It's like
wonder that anyone has orgasms like thank God, we evolved to
have them don't think they would happen otherwise, if you notice
the woman you're having sex with seems miles away, it's probably
less about you and anything that you're doing and more about her
getting up in her head could be the grocery list could be she
thinks that she's not that good at giving you head could be a
lot of things, the best thing that you can do is to use
physical sensation to bring her back into the present. You can
use the tools that I give you on this channel approaching things
from a supportive, caring place. And yeah, sometimes being a
great partner means stopping sex and untangling what's going on.
That type of care always leads to greater sex in the future. So
instead of shaming her for thinking about the grocery list,
ask her if you can support her in putting in the Instacart
order after she's had an orgasm number 99999. You're probably
not paying enough attention to the clitoris. The clitoris has
about 8000 nerve endings on average, and that's twice as
many nerve endings as the entire penis. And yet, it's so often
doesn't get the love and attention it deserves. Or maybe
put it this way, some of y'all are paying way too much
attention to the clitoris. It's a balance the right amount of
attention to the clitoris at the right time will take you very
far. Gentlemen, many women. In fact, statistically most women
need clitoral stimulation, in order to get off in order to
have orgasms, they need to have their clips stimulated no matter
what is going on, internally. So paying attention to the clip,
especially when other stuff is going on is so so so so
important. The little external part of the clip, the hooded
bump that you can see is really just the tip of the iceberg.
Actually, that is like the most apt analogy like literally the
tip of the iceberg. And then the whole iceberg, the external part
of the clip is extremely important, but the rest of the
clearest actually extends down inside of the body down by the
vaginal opening. So it's not just the external nub of the
clip that needs to be paid attention to. It's not just that
part that needs to be warmed up and attended to during foreplay.
It's actually like the whole clitoris, which is a lot more
anatomy than you actually see just based off of what's on the
surface. So because many women need clitoral stimulation in
order to get off, figure out a way to give her clitoral
stimulation especially during penetration that may be with
your hands your thumb might be with her hands or her thumb
might be with a vibrator. Like I said before, figure out what
works for her and then figure out a way to give it to her on a
regular basis. All right, here we go. Number 10. And this one
is so incredibly important. If you take nothing away from this
list, take this one number 10 You are probably penetrating too
soon. And I get it you are excited to get in there that is
when the show is happening. Oh my god, let's get in we wanted
to but this really important and beautiful moment of penetration
can be so ruined in fact all of sex is ruined. In fact, one of
the most important and leading causes of bad sex in all
relationships is premature penetration penetrating to Damn.
Soon No, it is not a secret people who have been watching my
channel for a long time will know it takes women some time to
get warmed up 20 to 40 minutes,
it is not the same for us as getting a boner and being ready
to go. It's not the same, it's not the same because the has to
come inside of our body and our body is not ready to just
receive it's not like we hang out with like a penis shaped
vacuum in our vagina all day just waiting for you to fill it.
We actually have to make space for you. That's what foreplay
actually is. It's the body actually relaxing and being
ready to receive something inside of it is making that
space so that you can fill it and this is true. Even if a
woman says otherwise. Even if she says no, I'm good to go.
Let's just get in there. She's still her body still may not be
ready to be penetrated. It takes a lot of stimulation to get both
our minds and bodies ready for penetrative sex. You see women
have as much erectile tissue as men. And so one of the best ways
to know that she is ready to be penetrated is that she's
actually wet and in gorged her body actually fills up with
blood, it will get darker, it will look larger, we need to be
touched and played with and licked and kissed in order to be
ready for sex. Otherwise, it can be lackluster, and even painful
and you know what happens and see it all the time. A lot of
painful sex over a long period of time causes women to shut
down it causes them to not want to have sex it causes them to
not initiate sex. It causes them to be very content in sexless
marriages because sex hurts for them all of the time. And you
can prevent that from happening by never letting it hurt to
begin with. Unfortunately, a lot of women are ashamed to ask for
more, they're ashamed to ask for more time for more foreplay,
they're uncomfortable letting you even know that you've
entered too soon. So the best way to make sure that this isn't
happening is to go. Tease her touch her give her sensation and
foreplay until she's actually begging you to enter her and not
a minute before. So there you have it. That's 10 secrets that
women keep for men, you are one slide but now you see and
understanding the way that women think is half the battle. When
it comes to having the best sex of your life. Landing the girl
of your dreams, making sure that your relationship and your
marriage is rock solid so that you can go the distance. Make
sure that you are subscribed to this channel so that you don't
miss any other secrets to success with women. And if
you're still trying to unlock the ultimate secret to how to
please any woman anytime. And I mean, the code to giving
incredible, unforgettable orgasms that any woman would
consider herself extremely lucky that she even got to go to bed
with you. Then you must check out my masterclass she comes to
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so much for tuning in. I'm Caitlin v. And I will see you
here next week.