As an introvert, I usually don't mind spending time alone.
But honestly, with this quarantine, there have been days
where I'm just feeling weirdly emotional and lonely.
So I wanted to make a video on how to enjoy being alone,
especially while in isolation.
I spend most of my days alone.
Wilson's been super busy working.
He's importing face masks during the pandemic,
which you can imagine is insane right now.
And I'd love to share more about his business
and what he's doing in a later video,
because I'm so proud of him.
But we'll save that for another day.
While I always have work to do,
there are times, like on weekends, where I don't want to work,
but I also don't know what else to do.
And there's this little feeling of emptiness and no direction
where I'm just like, “What should I be doing right now?”
If you can relate, let's talk about how to
enjoy this time alone and feel less lonely.
This is an opportunity to rediscover yourself,
nourish yourself, find joy in the little things,
and fall in love with yourself.
I sum it up in three words: love, joy, and curiosity.
So first, focus on love.
Time spent alone gives you an opportunity to cultivate self-love.
Treat yourself with love, double down on your self care,
and do activities that make you feel good.
Dress up a little more, pamper yourself,
nourish your soul in whatever way it wants to be nourished.
I've been trying new looks just for fun,
just so I can feel a little special during my days at home.
This was my first time trying freckles and I thought it was pretty cute.
I also finally did my nails.
I decided to take off my gel nails while watching Self Made on Netflix –
which is so good, by the way –
and this might look relaxing, but I was actually so frustrated at myself
for taking like three hours to do my nails,
because I have not done my own nails in so long, guys.
But anyway, this was an act of love, okay?
It took a long time, but I think it was worth it.
In order to fall in love with yourself, you have to get to know yourself.
Alone time is the best time to rediscover yourself.
You can take a personality test just for fun.
There are so many out there like Myers-Briggs,
enneagram, numerology, astrology.
You can do an Ayurveda dosha quiz and so much more
that I will just link down below so you can check it out,
see what resonates with you and what doesn't from the results,
and you can learn about yourself as you go.
Being extra and experimental with my beauty routine
has also been really fun for me.
I started drying my hair in a t-shirt instead of a towel.
And I haven't shown you guys this LED face mask
that I've been using since January.
I saw this in the K drama, Search WWW, and I was instantly intrigued.
I initially bought a cheaper version of this mask from Amazon
to just try out the concept, but I really didn't like that one
and I returned it to get this high end version.
I love it, but honestly it's so expensive,
I wouldn't recommend it unless you have a lot of extra cash to spend
and you're crazy about skincare.
Next, follow your joy.
Ask yourself, “What would be fun right now?”
Spend your time on hobbies or activities that bring you joy,
like singing, dancing, cooking, baking, painting, playing games.
The list goes on and on.
It's honestly been so fun for me to learn dances on TikTok
because I get to revive my old love for dance,
although I try really hard not to fall down that rabbit hole of TikTok
because that can get real crazy.
It can take over your day and that's not good either.
Another fun thing you could do is make playlists.
You can spend time discovering new music you like
or revisit old songs that you used to love.
This can be so nostalgic and fun.
Music has this way of bringing you back to those feelings that you had
when you were listening to the song all the time.
And it really is a way to travel,
and to me it is so fun and fulfilling.
Creativity can bring you so much joy.
I truly believe that humans are meant to create.
So ask yourself, “What can I create during this time alone?”
Maybe you can go into your closet
and challenge yourself to come up with five new outfits
that you've never put together before.
Try something new, experiment, take risks.
During this time, I decided to try out some new wigs that I bought.
I'm not typically a wig girl,
but I had so much fun just playing dress up
and trying on different looks that I never would really wear out –
but just for fun, just for creativity’s sake.
[Already Gone - Kelly Clarkson]
This wig is so ratchet.
The last time I wore her was in Vegas, like three to five years –
no, three years ago, I think.
She's so tangled.
Oh my god.
As you're doing that, you can also use this time to declutter
any old clothes that don't suit you anymore.
Lastly, follow your curiosity.
This is the best time for you to learn and explore,
about yourself or about anything else you're curious about.
You can take time to reflect and journal your feelings and thoughts,
and discover the gems you have within.
Maybe you'll recognize new lessons and wisdoms that you've gained.
You can also go through your old notebooks and journals
and consider how you've changed and how you've evolved since then.
Explore a topic that you've been curious about.
Learn a new skill, a new language, a new recipe.
Just begin with a simple question like, “What would be cool to learn?”
And then you can go from there.
Your curiosity can lead you to amazing places
that you never would have predicted
and that you never would have gone if it weren't for this time alone.
After all this, hopefully you feel better about spending time alone.
This is an amazing opportunity to deepen your relationship with yourself
and give yourself the love you deserve.
Remember the three things to follow: love, joy, and curiosity.
If you can learn to go deep into those three areas, you'll never be bored.
Still, let's not discount the fact that,
as human beings, we crave human connection.
So sometimes the simplest thing you can do if you feel lonely
is to reach out to someone, anyone, and connect with them.
You can't expect to receive love if you aren't giving it.
So the next time you find yourself craving love and connection,
ask yourself, “Am I giving love to myself and to others?”
Hope you enjoyed this one and that you're taking care of yourself during this time.
If you want more videos on personal growth and lifestyle design,
make sure you subscribe and click that bell down below.
Love you all so, so much.
[Can We Kiss Forever? - Kina]
It's kind of low.
A little better.
How does that song go again?
Who sings this?
[Apollo - Hardwell]
Such a pretty song.
[Savage - Megan Thee Stallion]
I'm not that on point today, but I'm getting somewhere.