How to Find out If He’s Ever Going to Marry You.
Is your romance headed for the altar—or a dead end?
Find out now.
You will need Honest reflection Good timing Calmness Self-control A deadline and self-improvement.
Step 1.
Before you ask him where the relationship is headed, think about how he treats you.
Are you a priority in his life?
Does he make compromises for you?
The occasional sacrifice?
If the answers are “no,” ask yourself a question: Do you really want to marry this
guy? Step 2.
Consider the length of your romance.
If you’ve been dating for less than a year, consider putting off any talk of permanence
until you’ve reached that milestone.
Step 3.
If you decide it’s appropriate to ask him about the future, pick a time when he’s
happy and relaxed, and you have his undivided attention.
Sit next to him, not across from him.
Research shows that men feel more comfortable in intimate conversation when they’re alongside
their partner, rather than across from her.
Step 4. Make the conversation about your readiness, not his uncertainty.
Tell him, “I’m ready to take this to the next level, and I was wondering how you felt.”
Think of it as a fact-finding mission, not a debate.
Whatever he says, don’t argue with him--at least not in this initial conversation.
Step 5.
Didn’t get the go-ahead to pick out china patterns?
Thank him for his honesty, set the topic aside, and suggest revisiting it in a few months.
Then, set a deadline for yourself--how long you’re willing to wait.
Thinking about a timeline now will help you cope if things do end.
Avoid issuing an ultimatum.
Even if he does what you want, he may resent feeling he’s being pushed into something.
Step 6.
While you’re giving Mr. Wonderful some more time to make up his mind, keep busy.
Work on making your life richer, with or without him.
Step 7.
When the deadline arises, raise the issue again.
If he’s still undecided about your future, figure out whether you want to hang in there
for a bit or cut your losses altogether.
Good luck!
Did you know On average, men propose two years, eleven months, and eight days after the first
date, according to a survey.