In this video, you will learn 5 new psychologically based tips that will make you immediately
more attractive. That’s right, these are simple behavioral changes that are based on
the science of attraction that anyone can do right now and become universally more attractive.
But wait…. I bet you’re thinking, how is that possible- people have different preferences
of what they find physically attractive- how can one become more attractive to everyone
and anyone? Well, that’s where the science of attraction comes in.
You see, Attractiveness is something much, much deeper than appearance. It is a quality
of a person that transcends the physical. Being attractive is the magnetic chemistry
that is given off by your attitude, your personality, and your energy.
I’m Dr Antonio Borrello and as I’ve talked about in prior videos, when you understand
how romantic attraction works, you can use that knowledge to skyrocket the chemistry
between you and the man you’re interested in.
But I want to make one fact perfectly clear… it’s true that men are FIRST attracted to
the way a woman looks... However… and this is the most important fact…. A man’s attraction
towards you will grow exponentially when you are able to create the right chemistry.
Here’s an example. have you ever met a man who showed interest in you, but at first,
you were not particularly attracted to him.. maybe he did not immediately catch your attention..
maybe you felt like he was just not your type…. but then, after spending some time with him,
or after seeing him a few times, you started becoming more and more attracted to him? Have
you had that experience? I know it’s happened to me.
And If that sounds familiar to you, its because most relationships start this way. Actually,
90% of the time, two people aren’t immediately super attracted to one another.. instead,
when the conditions are right, they become more and more attracted to one another as
they get to know each other and develop strong chemistry and attraction. Psychologists have
studied romantic attraction and as you might expect, there is a science to it. In other
words, there are universal principles of attraction that you can apply in your life and that will
immediately amplify your level of attractiveness and chemistry. And that starts with number
1.
#1. Use the Familiarity Principle of Attraction This principle is also known as the mere exposure
effect and it is one of the core concepts responsible for developing romantic attraction.
Simply put, we develop a preference for things and people we become familiar with —the
more often a person is seen by someone, the more attractive that person seems. (of course,
that is only if your exposure to that person is positive or neutral… if it is negative,
then you’ll probably like that person less)
I actually experienced this phenomenon firsthand? As a grad student, I remember starting every
new semester excited about new friends or relationships that I might find. On the first
day of every semester, I would scan the rooms to see if I had any very attractive women
in my classes. One fall semester I remember looking, and not finding anyone to be particularly
attractive. However, as I got to know one woman, I found her to become extremely attractive
to me. The funny part is that I didn’t notice her at the beginning of the semester, but
the more familiar she became, the more attractive I found her.
So, how can you use this principle to become more attractive to a man?
well, you’re going to Find ways to expose yourself to him- not that kind of exposure-
no, you are going to put yourself in front of him as much as possible in person, through
videos, and even online.
Obviously being around him in person and having positive interactions is the most powerful,
but don’t discount the power of photos, videos, and social media. The more you can
put yourself in front of that person and have positive interactions, the more he will be
attracted to you as a result. And, while interacting with him, you are going to also be engaging
in tips #2 and #3 which are
Radiate Happiness and Confidence Using Positive Body Language
There is nothing more attractive and sexy than a person who is confident and happy-
both of which are best demonstrated through your body language and the way you carry yourself.
So, Let’s talk about happiness first- Happiness has a way of making you more attractive to
others. it's true— People who are happy draw others in like moths to a flame. That’s
because happiness influences how people view your level of good looks and attractiveness.
In fact studies have found that women whose photos showed expressions of joy and happiness
were judged as being much healthier and more attractive than the same women in photos without
such expressions.
You can apply this principle by starting every conversation with your love interest in a
fun \ high energy \ and playful way. So.. when you see him, I want you to increase your
energy level and enthusiasm... and when he sees your genuine level of happiness, he
will come to many conclusions.
He will feel like you are open, easy to talk to, and probably quite optimistic. He will
recognize you as someone whose company would make him smile in because of the positivity
it radiates. people want nothing more than to be happy.
So, When we see someone who we believe to have already found happiness, we are automatically
attracted to him or her.
So smile broadly and you will look more attractive and approachable because it conveys expressions
of joy and happiness. Smiles convey friendly intentions and also makes others feel better.
And when you’re smiling in response to seeing someone… It makes them feel like you’re
smiling because of them. But these smiles must be genuine.. that means you are genuinely
feeling joy and happiness and smiling with your eyes beaming.
Confidence is another trait that both men and women find very sexy. That’s because
confidence creates an aura that draws people in. It shows people that you’re comfortable
with yourself, which grants you a certain poise, charm, or assertiveness.
And confident people have a certain air about them that makes you want to get to know them
because You want to know what makes them so self-assured. Walk tall with your head held
high and wear clothes that show your best features. I'm not saying that you should dress
up in flashy clothing or go out of your way to stand out, but rather wear the right clothes
for your body type so you feel good about yourself.
You know your style best, so play to your strengths. Do not worry about fitting into
one particular look. Instead, Wear what feels more natural to you. And as a result, You
will be hotter because it will make you happier. So, Try standing in front of the mirror and
picking out the things you really like about your style. You could be surprised at what
you see. On to tip number 4
4. Use the Similarity – Attraction Effect to Become More Attractive to Your Love Interest
The similarity-attraction effect refers to the tendency of people to be attracted to
others who are similar to themselves in important respects. This includes both physical and
emotional attraction as well as wanting to be around the other person. And Research has
demonstrated that we pick romantic partners who have similar backgrounds, characteristics
and beliefs. As they say—birds of a feather flock together.
now, how can you apply this to becoming more attractive? Well, you become more attractive
when you recognize and highlight your similarities and the things you have in common. So, while
getting to know the guy you’re interested in, ask him important questions about his
beliefs, his goals, ambitions, hobbies, and interests, etc. And, when you find that you
have things in common, be sure to point them out.
And in addition to talking about your similarities, engage in activities that reflect the things
you have in common. For example, Do the two of you like to go to the beach together, or
watch particular movies or series? Are you into the same music, or sports, or hobbies?
wherever there is something in common, highlight that thing and try to participate in that
experience with him. Do not be afraid to try something new together,
because you both might love it and that will make you more attractive in his eyes.
By the way, I’m psychologist and relationship coach, dr Antonio Borrello. This channel is
all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy together. So, join
our supportive community by hitting subscribe and checking out the comment section. And
feel free to talk about your situation and ask questions. I’ll do my best to answer
all of you.
5. Use the Reciprocity of Attraction Principle to Heighten His Attraction
Reciprocity of attraction refers to the tendency for people to like others who express liking
for them. Plain and simple, we are attracted to people who are attracted to us. And this
reciprocity of attraction is very powerful. And, this is especially true for men. men
become more attracted to you when they know that you are attracted to them.
However- and this is most important- showing him you are attracted to him through your
behavior is far more powerful and effective over telling him- that’s because when you
are flirting with him, there is ambiguity and he has to interpret what your behavior
and body language is telling him.
So, let’s talk about things you can do to use the reciprocity of attraction principle.
First, when you are first greeting each other… make sure you give him a genuine smile, say
his name, pay him a compliment and maintain good eye contact. You might even give him
a hug if that isn’t too awkward.
Second, Use triangular eye contact to show him you're attracted-. start by looking at
his right eye for a brief moment, then move your focus to his left eye, and then finally
move your focus to his lips for a 1/2 second. Then move your eyes back to look at his right
eye again as if you made a triangle. Do you recognize that gaze? It's very powerful and
shows a man that you’re really attracted to him.
Third, when you're talking to him, run your hands through your hair to show off your confidence
or tuck your hair behind your ears with your fingers to show off your sexy cuteness. Men
recognize this as a sign that you're attracted. Just don't overdo it. Use this move once every
5-10 minutes or so, because it just looks too eager if you flip your hair too much.
Also, Find opportunities to touch him – Touching a guy at the right moment will make him want
to flirt with you. It is an involuntary response that makes him open up more and feel more
comfortable with her.
Obviously I could go on and on about how to show a man you’re attracted to him without
directly telling him. If you’re interested in a video like that, drop a comment below
and let me know.
Also, I love helping people with their dating and relationship problems and I actually do
one on one coaching with people all over the world through phone or video conferencing.
So, if you are needing specific advice, send me an email at antonioborrello@icloud.com,
and perhaps we can work together. I’ll also include my email address down
below. Also if want to know more about what men find beautiful, you can click here to
watch this video, or click here to watch the video youtube thinks you’ll like. Thanks
for watching, I’ll see you in the next one!