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Relationships can be tough and they're not always filled
with romance and flowers and dates
that sweep you off your feet.
Difficult times come along in any good relationship.
A good number of couples can still manage
to hold on together, if they both bring trust, respect
and kindness to the relationship.
But other times, no matter how hard you may want
to hold on to your once perfect partner,
sometimes you just need to let go.
- I won't let go Jack.
- Bruh.
- [Woman] To help you pinpoint the behaviors that may mean
it's time to let go of your beloved Jack Dawson,
here are six signs you should move on from a relationship.
Number one, you lack trust in each other.
Trust is an important part of any successful relationship.
You and your partner should build a relationship on trust
along with other important qualities
which is kindness and respect.
If you don't trust your partner,
how can you ever move forward as a couple?
When you lack trust in them, you may find yourself
questioning if your partner is really
where they say they are when you're not around.
You wonder where they go or what they're doing.
You get angry and suspicious.
It leads to more and more arguments.
Number two, you don't like each other anymore.
You once had a romance that you believed would last eons,
now you can barely stand the way they pop their gum
and even something as trivial as the way they chew gum
turns into a fight.
Odds are, these arguments over little irritations
and annoying habits may have a deeper meaning.
You may fight over how loud your partner pops their gum
while you're both cuddled up and watching a movie.
When a dramatic movie like Titanic is on you need silence,
but really, you may have had all this pent up anger
towards your partner, over other things
and chose to let that anger out
over your annoyance with the gum.
The truth is, you may have some deeper problems
to sort out in your relationship,
or you simply don't like each other right anymore.
Ask yourself this,
what is it that I don't like about my partner?
Do I like them at all anymore?
If you and your partner have been acting distant, rude,
disrespectful, or annoying to each other,
including being chronically irritated,
then you may simply not like each other anymore
and it might be time to move on.
Number three, they have no respect for you.
Respect is foundational for a good successful relationship
and if you don't respect your partner,
or if your partner doesn't respect you,
it's time to get out of the relationship.
Common behaviors that show disrespect are lying,
cheating and name calling
and we don't mean using pet names, kind of name calling.
You and your partner should not be insulting each other
and using name calling to belittle each other.
Ask them how they feel. Have a conversation.
Find out what's going on in their head
and if they do in fact have respect for you,
they better show they do.
All you're asking is for a little respect.
Sing it Zy.
♪ R E S P E C T ♪
♪ Find out what it means to me ♪
Yeah, that's right. You got this.
Number four, they're selfish
and make everything about themselves.
It's totally normal to gloat
every once in a while on your success
and expect praise from your supportive and loving partner,
but if your partner never has time for you in return,
boy, that's a problem.
If your partner is selfish,
they only have time to talk about themselves all the time.
What about you?
Do you think Jack only talked about himself on the Titanic
while Rose sat there listening?
No.
They talked about both of each other's lives.
Do you think Jack just would've let Rose drown
and keep the floating door all to himself?
No!
He let Rose have the door to float on.
It couldn't carry both their weight, okay?
The thing is, if they make things all about themselves
all the time, leaving little room for you,
then it's time to move on from the relationship.
Number five, you've drifted apart
and no longer want the same things.
If you no longer have a strong connection with each other
and on top of that, no longer want the same things in life,
it may be time to move on.
People change and grow and you both may have become
someone different from when you first met each other
and that's okay and it's perfectly normal,
but it's time to assess whether or not
you both hold the same values and goals.
Are you both still compatible?
Can you see each other together in five years, or 10 years?
And number six, you're the one who puts in all the effort.
Perhaps you weren't feeling the strong connection
you once had with your partner.
Does that mean you should give up?
In your eyes, never.
So, you put your all into the relationship.
You're going to salvage this bond you had with your partner
and build up that connection again,
but you're the only one trying and you're trying too hard,
because they're not helping.
If you find that your partner simply doesn't care about you
enough to make things work, then it's time to move on.
You shouldn't be the only one putting the effort
into the relationship.
As much as you don't want to, as much as you promised
you wouldn't let go, ask yourself, what did Rose do?
- I'll never let go. - She let go.
She let go.
Hey, don't worry.
Your heart will go on.
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