what are we that consumers right we're byproducts of a lifestyle obsession I
say never be completed I say stop being perfect
I say look that's involved most people don't have clear priorities in life you
know I for me my goal is to simplify my life simply find a number of people in
my life and simplify the number of things in my life we only have a finite
amount of energy each day right but every year we have more people in our
lives more Facebook friends if more people are connected with but your
energy stays the same so that's not a proportionate growth so for me it's
always about simplifying first the people and things into your life into
who and what's most important taking that finite energy that you have
each day and focusing second step is learning how to focus and concentrate
that finite amount of energy into the people and things that truly matter now
you start to create a lifestyle that you actually love because you're invested
into people and things that matter and the byproduct of that is happiness
pursue a lifestyle where the byproduct of that lifestyle is happiness so
happiness comes as a byproduct I spend time with the people that I love what is
my bright product I'm happy I spend time with people I don't like I'm not happy
so don't pursue happiness pursue a lifestyle that gives happiness but in
order to then to pursue that lifestyle you need to be clear what you want in
life what's your purpose in life and people don't know this because they
don't spend any time with themselves so for some reason now we're all supposed
to know about each other's lives because they posted it on Facebook and and what
do we present really when we are on Facebook we present an idyllic life
perfect parenting great relationships we hardly ever give any bad news or copy
about ourselves because that doesn't make for a lot of likes with any element
of addiction is an element of escape what you're really looking at are people
that can create these online lives through the computer that they like
better than their own most people focus on being significant we live in a
Facebook world where people fake their life put new filters make it look
different than it really is tell stories that you know are totally folded to make
himself look good because we live in this kind of false world where
significance is more important than love and it separates us in social media
these likes the comments the shares they've become this form of social
currency by which we attribute value to something in marketing we call it the
economy of attention everything is competing for your attention and when
you give something alike or a piece of that finite attention it becomes a
recorded transaction attributing value the problem is that in our social media
we are the product and we're letting others attribute value to us this is
changing our sense of identity we are tying up our self-worth with what others
think about us and then we're quantifying it for everyone to see
people are looking on Instagram or Facebook or YouTube all you're looking
at is oh she got that many likes or he got that many likes she got engaged or
he married or oh my god look at her body or
look at that and it's like that stops destroying us inside and the jealousy
ego we'd to be able to have enough clarity to purify yourself of those
things is going to alleviate the biggest anxieties and depressions of our time
and mental health problems and and we know that we know that because all the
mental health research today suggests that things like isolation over exposure
we now can have more pain consumption in one day because of what we were exposed
to then the pain we would have had in a lifetime that's huge like that that's
ridiculous to think that one day because of the media news in social media we
consume more negative than we did in a lifetime psychologists would tell us 70%
or more of our thoughts are negative and redundant we playing the same negative
thoughts I go if thoughts had nothing to do with it fine but thoughts positive or
negative shape our biology and all of a sudden says well now it's time to wake
up because our negative thinking is is manifesting a negative life experience