How to Text a Girl for the First Time
In this video, you'll discover what to say in your initial message and how to maintain
a fun, energetic discussion with the girl you like.
Towards the end of this video, we will share a little secret that will make her chase after
you.
So, let's get straight into it.
Number 1.
Reintroduce yourself.
Remind her of your name and who you are, so that she can save your number on her phone.
Send her a quick text with your name included if you met online or in person.
Your first message should be sweet and short, leave the longer messages for later.
Say something like:
“Hey!
It's Candice from last night's party."
"We met the other day, it's James.
How are things going?"
"Hey!
It's Sean, Mark's friend.
What's up?
Number 2.
Revisit your previous conversation.
When you got her number, you likely talked with her briefly.
Try to remember what the conversation was about and pick up from where you left off.
It's a simple way to keep the conversation going since you already know she likes talking
about the subject!
Say anything along the lines of:
"So, we never got around to finishing our discussion from last night: is pineapple allowed
on pizza?"
"I never got to hear your answer; did you grow up in this area?"
Number 3.
Keep your messages short.
Text messages that are too long could be exhausting.
When you're chatting keep your messages to one or two lines maximum.
Don't send her paragraphs, and don't text her more than once without receiving a response.
You don't want to have her read a novel when she picks up her phone, but you also don't
want to bore her.
Number 4.
Ask her questions about herself.
With open-ended questions, you can keep a conversation going.
These are the ones she can't simply answer with "yes" or "no."
As she responds, you can respond as well, so you're both learning a bit about each other.
Ask questions like:
"Did you grow up around here?"
"How many brothers and sisters do you have?"
"What do you enjoy doing for fun?"
Number 5.
Give her a sincere compliment.
Make an effort to compliment her on something other than her physical appearance.
You may tell her how much fun she is to chat to, how much you like getting to know her,
or how cool she seems.
Compliments are flattering to most girls, and she may even extend the same courtesy!
Say anything along the lines of:
"You look to be a very fun person."
I'm excited to have the chance to get to know you."
"At that party the other day, I had so much fun talking to you."
"It's so easy for me to chat to you."
Number 6.
Talk about what you have in common.
Maybe you two share a favorite TV show or a have common interest.
You can ask her about whatever it is to keep the conversation going.
Plus, you'll learn a little bit about her along the way.
If you're not sure what you have in common with her yet, check her up on social media
to see what she enjoys.
Say something more along the lines of:
"Have you been following The Witcher's new season?"
"I'm almost halfway in!"
"Have you been riding for a while?"
"Wow, you're into motocross as well?"
I can never find someone to go riding with."
Number 7.
Ask for advice or opinion.
It's a simple method to demonstrate that you value her opinions.
If she's been in the region longer than you, you may ask her for a recommendation to a
great restaurant in the area.
You might also ask her if she has any book recommendations if she enjoys reading.
Try something like:
"What's your favorite neighborhood restaurant?"
"Have you recently read any good books?"
"Where do you like to hang out over a cup of coffee?"
Number 8.
Share something about yourself.
You'll be able to get to know each other better this way.
Open up to her and answer any questions she may have while you two text back and forth.
If meeting up with her is your main goal, she'll probably feel more at ease.
Talking about yourself and then asking her a similar question is a simple way to share
information.
As an example, you might say,
"I started riding when I got my first bike at 10.
When did you start riding?"
"I'm not a big sports fan, but I love watching golf."
"Are you a sports fan?"
Number 9.
Set up a date to meet in real life.
Texting is okay but meeting up with a girl in real life is really the best way to get
to know her.
Make your feelings evident if you like her.
Ask her if she has time in her schedule to grab a bite to eat or go have a cup of coffee.
If you wait too long to ask her out, she'll assume you're not interested.
Say anything along the lines of:
"Hey, next week, do you have any spare time?"
I'd love to get a cup of coffee with you."
"Are you planning anything for tomorrow?"
"Do you want to grab a bite to eat?"
"I like talking to you.
Would you like to continue this chat in person?"
And now as promised here is one little bombshell that will help you know what you're doing
wrong when you send her text messages.
The rule that you have to remember is:
Whoever is putting in the most effort into texting is the one doing the chasing.
So, don't over text, be patient, and wait for her to respond before you send the next
text.
This will make you seem less clingy, something girls hate.
Sending a text to a girl you met online, on a dating app, or in person is moving things
to the next level.
Starting off on the right foot can make or break your relationship, so consider carefully
what you send before sending it, without overthinking it too much, just be yourself and remember
she is probably also trying her best"
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