If anyone could point out the traits of the private INFJ it would be a long term partner
or spouse. Yet, ironically in a way, INFJs can be slightly different people to their loved ones
in comparison to who they are out in the unpredictable world. So.. what are these signs
of an INFJ spouse and how do they differ from the average INFJ traits we all know and love?
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Alright, lets jump right into it starting with: Number 1: They can shut down
Now, it’s not as noticeable to an INFJ who is on their own, because their periods of
deep introspection are second nature to them. In fact, these times of self-analysis can get
so deep that they get a little dark, or at least it can feel like that for brief moments in time.
Most people that know the INFJ would never notice, but when someone is with this introspective type
for long enough, they may begin to wonder why they have these phases of extreme independence,
disinterest in their surroundings and reserved behaviors. Actually, it takes quite some time and
an extremely understanding, open mind to truly grasp how harmless these occasional periods of
distance are. Considering INFJs are already known for their need for space and individuality within
a relationship, for most people, these moments can feel seriously threatening to the relationship,
especially at the beginning phases. However, it’s good to remember that sometimes, general life can
feel overwhelming for this introverted intuitive type. Whether it’s the negativity in the world,
the countless scenarios running through their heads, or just the dull mundane of everyday life,
INFJs escape it all the best way they know how..by going inwards.
Number 2: They’re constantly seeking improvement
Now.. This sign can go one of two ways. Although the INFJ can be quite critical of their spouses
at times, usually they want to improve the relationship as a whole. And so, while it
may seem at times like INFJs are never satisfied or overly idealistic within their romantic lives,
it’s usually because they can see the potential of a person or connection. Usually this is a
self-committing journey that INFJs go through by analyzing their own behaviors, actions and
thinking patterns to find ways they can improve. However, when an INFJ is fully invested in someone
romantically, these self-improving prophecies can certainly have their effect on the connection as
a whole. Luckily, INFJs are quite fair in their desires, keeping the satisfaction and happiness
of both people in mind at all times. Whether it’s practicing love-language desires, learning
new tips on how to spice things in the bedroom, trying new hobbies together, or simply finding
ways to spend more time together within a busy family life, INFJs don’t settle for mediocrity.
One thing all partners of an INFJ must keep in mind, however, is that this need for constant
improvement isn't an indication that they’re unhappy, but rather that they value the connection
so much they want to put enormous amounts of effort into making it the best it can be.
Number 3: They’re not afraid to discuss the distant future
While it may seem overbearing to some types that are hesitant to commit or look too far ahead,
the INFJ isn’t afraid to share their big-picture thinking and future projections with their long
term partners. Rooted in their intolerance for meaningless connections, and their
tendency to resort to deeper, more meaningful conversation topics, INFJs tell it like they see;
through their projection of the future, that is.. Whether it’s conversations surrounding topics like
future bucket list desires and family-starting preferences or simpler things like saving money
for a 5-10 year plan down the line, INFJs love discussing potentials and possibilities.
In fact, INFJs are naturally future-oriented thinkers, rarely reminiscing about the past. This
means that the future potential of a connection can end up being more important and valuable to
them compared to past shared memories. Regardless of the outcome, they always like to be prepared,
and when they get pieces of information that pertain to another potential future outcome,
they can’t help but to find out if their significant other
is thinking the same thing. Normally.. This INFJ tendency doesn’t really involve anyone else,
so it’s usually an internal process that not many people would know about. And even then,
they’ll never share everything they’re thinking. Number 4: They love being helpful
INFJs are not only extremely supportive and ambitious lovers, but they are also naturally
wired to want to help others. When it comes to relationships, this trait can be a slippery slope
for the naive INFJs who have yet to learn the lesson of over giving. However, when they’re met
with a supportive relationship where there is a genuine opportunity for equal give and take,
the INFJs ‘so-called’ people pleasing tendencies set the tone for a beautiful
connection. In addition to this helpful nature, INFJs bring a great deal of romance to the table.
This means they don’t hesitate by going above and beyond for their loved ones, especially when they
feel it’s appreciated. With that being said, if they’re met with an equally independent type who
is reluctant to receive the help they long to give, they can run into some issues later
down the line. In fact, INFJs see their care and generosity as a manner of expressing their love,
making it crucial to have an outlet for these needs with their romantic relationshionships
in the healthiest way possible. No, we’re not talking about you narcissists and sociopaths.
Number 5: They will mirror your emotions
It’s well known that INFJs have suburb listening skills, however, when it comes to relationships,
INFJs don’t need to hear how their partner feels in order to know. In fact, INFJs can
feel a shift in mood or energy from a mile away when it’s only them and their significant other.
No matter what you say to this empathetic type, they are more inclined to respond to
emotions and feelings rather than words. It’s useless getting frustrated at the INFJ when
they insist that there's something off, because sooner or later they’ll get it out. Actually,
they have no choice but to resolve it because they will actually absorb these feelings if they linger
around for long enough. Truth be told, the INFJ actually tends to feel the emotions of others
better than they do their own at times. And so, when this feeler type is paired with someone who
has a naturally bright and uplifting energy about them, it makes it a lot easier for the INFJ to
mirror those same frequencies back. However, the contrary is also true. If you have an increasingly
cranky INFJ on your hands, it's probably a good idea to look at your own mood. And because of
that, if this empathetic type begins to dislike who they’ve become in a long term relationship,
you can be sure they’ll be looking to see how the other person may have something to do with it.
Number 6: Trust does not come easy
In fact, in the case of an INFJ, sometimes it doesn’t come at all. Or at least when it
does come, it can be easily wavered. For being so independent and skeptical of the world, the
simple act of an INFJ letting down their guard to get into a relationship is quite intense for them.
And usually they’re never fully ready to commit in the first place. But when it comes to trust,
one of the first things partner’s notice is the INFJs hesitancy to feel fully confident in the
connection. While some partners would never even notice, other’s observe this hesitancy
through the INFJ’s ever-peeling layers to their personality. They may notice months or
even a year down the line that the INFJ is finally allowing themselves to fully love,
miss and expect from this person, without the interruption of what-ifs. Plus, INFJs also just
take a longer time in general to truly decipher if someone is worth their time. It sounds harsh,
but they want to learn someone inside and out before they place their emotions before their
observation too soon. The difficult thing is that being skeptical can cause some INFJs to find
things that aren’t actually there, resulting in suspicions that aren’t rightfully due.
Luckily this is balanced by their ability to properly read people combined with their
intuitive guidance, which makes it easier to remain unbiased in their findings.
Alright PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today. So.. have you ever dated an INFJ? If so,
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