What is up my fam? I hope you are all having an amazing
week. So, are you in a love situation, a crush situation or a
relationship situation with a shy guy? Well my friends,
today, I have your back. This video has been being
requested for like a whole year. I am so sorry. I held out
on you for this long. I can't believe I have. Now you have
probably seen my video the Twenty Signs He Definitely
Likes You but a lot of you keep asking. But Kimberly, my
crush is shy. What if he doesn't do the same things that a
normal guy would do? And you guys are right. Because
shy guys are a very specific breed and you can't always
rely on the traditional rules of attraction. There are times
when a shy guy is going to act really differently than an
outgoing guy would act in a situation where he likes you.
But don't worry guys, we can still read them with body
language and today, I am going to teach you how.
Today's video is The Top 20 Signs that a Shy Guy Likes you.
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neutral, so if your crush is a shy girl, these tips should
apply just the same. It is really just about understanding
the psychology of shy people.
Alright you guys, are you ready? Let's go.
Tip number one that your shy crush likes you is that he
gives you a bit of a creepy smoldering vibe each time you
see him. But this might seem weird because we don't
want to think about our crush as creepy, but if you think
about it, like giving you an intense look is pretty much the
only means of communication that he has with you, right
now that you are not actually talking. He is talking to you
with his eyes. Now even if this does come off as a little
bit creepy, you have to give him props for trying because
he is communicating his level of interest in you.
Number two is that he watches your Snap Chat story.
Now obviously, this one only goes if he is following you
on Snap Chat but a guy who likes you will not miss a
single story. I'm telling you. So, if your crush does watch
one Snap Chat and then skips through the rest of your
story, that is a sure-fire sign that he is absolutely not
interested. But watching your stories is an easy passive
way that he can connect with you and a way that is not
intimidating for him.
Number three is that he passes you in the hall a little bit
more often than maybe you would expect or you find
yourself bumping into them more often than you did
before. This is because if your shy crush likes you, they
are going to go out of their way to make sure that they
bump into you, whether that means taking the route at
school that they know they are going to pass by you even
like in a work situation, walking by your desk at every
opportunity. Walking by you a lot is another move that is
like really typical of shy people because they want you to
open them. They want you to start up a conversation with
them and in their minds, they think that if they put
themselves close to you, that it gives you the opportunity
to actually talk to them and open them up. So, if there is
someone you have been bumping into on a regular, they
might just be a shy admirer.
Number four is that your crush throws a birthday party
and they invite all their friends and they invite you to
come, even if you are not necessarily in his or her group
of friends. This is your crush looking for the opportunity
to get to know you and they honestly don't think that a
birthday invitation is going to be an obvious sign that they
like you. But, it really kind of is. Especially if you weren't
expecting the invitation and you don't really see this
person on a regular basis.
Number five is that he or she gives you a follow on a
random social media outlet. This could be something like
Twitter or maybe you haven't discussed it yet but all of
the sudden you get like a random follow from this person
and this is definitely a sign that they are thinking of you
and they are trying to create opportunities for
conversation in the real world.
Number six is that they use playful emoticons when they
talk to you and they seem a lot more social and outgoing
online than they do in real life. This is super typical of shy
people because an online forum is a lot less intimidating
than in person scenario. They have time to think about
what they are going to write and then hit send. So, it is
almost like they can afford to be a lot more playful and
outgoing because like they feel it is safer in that
environment. This is a perfect opportunity for you to use
this to your advantage and continue that playful thing that
you have going online into the real world.
The seventh sign a shy guy or girl likes you is that they
don't resist at all if you make advances on them. They
clearly are really happy to go along with it. They are just
like perfectly cool with it. They allow it to happen. In
fact, they seem happy that it is happening. In fact, they
will text you back right away and they always respond to
your Snaps. Like they are so willing to engage once you
have engaged them because the initiation phase is actually
the hardest part for a shy person and you will find that
once that barrier has been broken, that they open up a lot
easier and they are going to share a lot more things with
you and be lot more playful and fun. It is really just the
approach that can be challenging. So, if your shy crush
likes you, any little move that you make will be met with
a welcome reception.
Tip number eight is that he stutters, stutters, stutters. You
guys have heard me talk about this in other videos, but if
your shy crush like you, when he does talk to you, he may
actually stutter a little bit. Stuttering is something that
happens naturally to some people when they get nervous.
Especially if they are not particularly experienced in
engaging others. So, if your shy crush does get nervous,
or even stutters, don't take this as a sign that this is how
they are going to be all the time, it might just be because
like this is early days and they are still getting used to
you, they are still feeling quite a bit of nerves when you
are talking to them, but they should warm up fairly quickly.
Number nine is a funny one and it is that he says
something out of the blue that is kind of totally random
and comes like out of left field. Now we have been in a
situation like this before where we are just kind of like
sitting there, maybe you are in class and like it has been
silent for a while, one of the weaknesses of shy people,
I'm sorry, is that sometimes they have a hard time
achieving a natural flow of conversation. Sometimes their
statements maybe even sound like awkward or out of
place. This is not at all because they are socially inept, it
is usually because like they are thinking of something that
they want to talk to you about and they are thinking about
it and thinking about it and thinking about it and it is
making them nervous and finally they just blurt it out.
This can be their honest attempt at engaging you in a
conversation, so if this does happen to you, it means that
they are trying and just take it and try to run with it as best you can.
Number ten is that they sit near you, but never beside you.
This could be because they feel that sitting beside you
could be too forward but they want to sit close enough to
you that if a conversation is possible, that it can start up.
So, this could happen in like a classroom or a lecture hall,
on a bus or in a working environment. Really, this person
is just looking for any chance they have to engage you
and this is like the best way that they know how.
Number eleven guys if your shy crush likes you, he might
just actually have a bit of a red face at times. Some people
call this blushing but also if your crush is really attracted
to you, they might just experience a rush of blood to their
face which is a common sign of attraction, so his face or
her face might actually feel a little bit hot and itchy as
well. Guys, they don't call it hot and bothered for no
reason. Let me tell you.
Number twelve is that he doesn't yawn in your presence
or look at his phone. Now I have talked about this in other
videos but the same thing applies for shy people. If a shy
person likes you, they are going to be feeling adrenaline
in your presence which is going to prevent them from
yawning and they are going to play close attention to you
which is going to prevent them from being distracted by their phone.
Thirteen is that they use your name often. I have always
found shy people to be surprisingly thoughtful, like even
though there might not be a lot coming out of their mouth,
there is almost always like a lot going on on the inside,
like they are thinking a lot of things and they are
remembering things about you. So, you may find that
when your shy crush actually does speak up it is insanely thoughtful.
Number fourteen is that he or she stares a lot and guys, I
think this one is even more prominent when the person is
shy. Psychology says that we look more at the things that
we like. Of course, so, if you catch your shy crush staring
a lot, like you look over and they are staring at you and
then they look away embarrassed, girl it is a surefire sign
and you know what, you can't blame him either because
he can't help himself.
Fifteen is interesting too. It is that he actually makes
comments that allude to liking you but he doesn't actually
go as far as putting himself out there to actually say that
he likes you. So, you are left in a position where you are
almost like does he like me, does he not like me. Like I
don't know. So, one of the hardest things for a shy person
to do is take a social risk. So, actually going the distance,
I mean like I like you, is one of the riskiest things socially
that we can do. But typically, a shy person will go almost
like as far as they can without actually breaking that
barrier because they want you to do it for them.
Sixteen is the behavior of his friends and his behavior
around his friends when you are around. Guys you have
got to watch this. It is very specific. Now we all know that
most guys talk to their friends when they have a crush and
any guy that likes you is going to jostled a bit by his
friends when you are in their presence. But a shy guy is
going to take this especially hard. He is going to become
so embarrassed. He is going to be so mad at his friends
for doing this in front of you. So. Next time, pay close
attention to his friends' behavior when you are around,
but most importantly, to his reaction to his friends'
behavior when you are around.
I think number seventeen is the weirdest one that we have
and it is so true guys. If a shy guy likes you, he might give
you one word answers. You might be thinking like one
word answers? One word answers? What? Usually we
assume that when someone gives us one word answers,
that they like hate us, like they are trying to shut down the
conversation in its tracks. They are going to try to do
anything to prevent getting into a conversation with us.
But a shy guy it can be different because he may not have
mastered the art of conversation yet and a one word
answer may be a way for him to prevent saying too much
about himself and potentially embarrassing himself, but
also still answer your question and still be polite to you
and still keep that conversation going. I think the key to a
shy person is about understanding the tone of their one
word answer. If it is light and positive, and he is smiling
at you, even though it is a one word answer, it could still
be a conversation that they are really into you and they
just don't know how to keep that conversation going.
Number eighteen is that he or she has a change in their
personal grooming. So, either they start dressing
differently, they start working out. One of you guys on
Snap Chat actually told me that you have a girl crush at
church and that her dresses keep getting better every
Sunday. Hmm. What do you guys think that could mean
Grooming is one area where shy people actually
don't differ from outgoing people. So, even if someone is
shy and reserved, they can still use their clothing, their
outfit choices and their grooming as a guide to how they
actually feel about you in the same way you would with
an outgoing person.
Number nineteen, we are almost at the end, you guys, is
that they remember specific details about you. Now guys,
like I was saying before, shy people may not spend a lot
of time talking, but they do spend a lot of time taking
things in and listening. And this is like a really attractive
trait in a partner. So, if your crush is shy and they like
you, there is a good chance that they are going to be
remembering rally specific details of the things you told
them. So, if your shy crush asks you something like really
specific like how was your sister's best friend's surgery
the other day? Or like did you get the Pythagorean
theorem right on your math test? This is a good chance
that they are remembering these details because they actually care.
Alright you guys, number twenty, the twentieth sign a shy
guy is interested in you is that he actually goes out of his
way. And that could be in any possible fashion. What I
mean is that he does something that he wouldn't normally
do because you are involved in it. Maybe he attends a
performance that you are involved in, or a sports game
that you are playing in or even if you work in the same
office, he could be like oh I am going to grab coffee, do
you want anything. A shy person will typically find any
excuse to engage with you that doesn't involve them
being like will you go out with me or I like you. So, if you
give them the opportunity, or they come up with some
kind of opportunity in their mind, they are going to use it.
Guys, in my opinion, shy people can be some of the best
partners in the entire world and it is really just a matter of
like getting to know them and passing the point of like the
initial interactions so you can actually be in a relationship
because that is the toughest part with a shy person.
Now guys, if you want more videos on shy guys or shy
girls, let me know in the comments below, but I really
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