Heya playa, if you're going to your next school dance, chances are your crush is gonna be
there and you're gonna wanna interact with them.
The question is, how?
How do you start a conversation with them and get things going at that school dance?
Don't worry.
I'm gonna tell you exactly what to do.
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Now chances are if you and your crush are going to your school dance separately, then
your whole plan of going with them didn't really work out.
Most of the time people ask me how to ask their crush to their school dance a little
before the event is about to happen which doesn't really give a lot of time for you
to build a deeper connection with them.
If you want to ask them to that dance, you have to start prepping way before.
And that means spending months building a deeper connection with them.
Talking to them, getting to know them and even hanging out with them.
Either way, you're here right now.
You're at the dance and your crush is at the dance and you want to talk to them so what's
that first initial step you should take to get a conversation going?
And like I've mentioned in a previous video, one is that they went to the dance all by
themselves which might not be so likely, two is that they came with an actual date.
They're there with a specific person or three, they just came with a group of friends.
Now here's the important thing to know, no matter what type of situation they're in,
it's ok to start a conversation with them, they can be there with their boyfriend or
girlfriend or they can be there with all of their friends.
Just starting a conversation is totally fine.
We're also going to put aside the idea that you and your crush have bad blood in some
way which is why you probably wouldn't talk to them but assuming things are just regular
and standard, I think the first way to really interact with them is to recognize what you
guys are there for.
Is it homecoming?
Is it prom?
Is it Sadie Hawkins?
Is it some other type of school dance?
Think about the mindset that everyone is in because that's gonna help facilitate the conversation
a lot better.
Now chances are when you see your crush, they're going to be all dressed up which might make
things a little more intimidating.
But trust me, it's actually the opposite.
The best of scenarios is having all the cool and fun people that you see at your school
there, just outside of the school environment and that's exactly what the school dance is.
You're not there to study or take tests or do homework or anything like that, you're
there to unwind, dance and connect with people.
So when you approach your crush to talk to them, bring up the fact that you guys are
there to celebrate at the dance.
Talk about how much fun you're having and how excited you are to see them and everyone
else there.
Another thing you may want to do is compliment them on how they look that night.
People take hours to get ready for these dances so acknowledging that they put in so much
work and that they look great about it is a good way to kind of build better chemistry
between the two of you.
So once you've kind of gotten over those formalities of saying hi, then what do you do?
Well, you're there at a dance so the most obvious thing to do is to ask them to dance.
It doesn't have to be for a one on one slow dance, in fact, you'd probably have a better
time connecting with them if you invite them to dance to a fun song and if you invite a
bunch of other people too.
Doing things in a group will help you guys bond better and just overall enjoy the experience
better.
As you dance with them, you might want to compliment them on their dance moves, make
jokes about it, offer to go get food or drinks together.
Just try to use the environment that you're in as a way for the two of you to just do
things and migrate around each other.
Now if you or them are with friends, you might find that it's a little more difficult to
pull them away but it's actually the opposite.
People aren't going to be with their friends 24/7 so they can take a step aside and take
a break every so often to talk to different people, interact with them so if you're proactive
about it, if you approach them and kind of stay consistent with talking to them and interacting
with them, chances are they're not just gonna ignore you and go back to their friends, they're
going to enjoy their time with you.
I think the most important point though is to appreciate the night for what it is.
Far too often people spend their time thinking what's going to happen afterwards.
Should I ask them out?
Do they like me?
Do they not like me?
And they really kind of neglect the experience that they're in.
So, live in the moment and really enjoy it to it's fullest.
What do you think though, do you have a school dance coming up that you want to interact
with your crush at but you're just not sure how to go about doing it?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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it.
On that note, I'll catch you next week.
As always, love and peace.