- In this video, I'm gonna show you
the five things you can do to guarantee
that you are unforgettable
on some type of dating interaction
and some type of interaction just in general.
This will help you to have more magnetic energy
and to completely transform the way you carry yourself
from the inside out.
Now, the first thing I wanna show
when it comes to magnetic energy
is understanding that you are already magnetic.
You already have an energy inside of you that is unique,
that is emanating out of you,
and think of this even like an energetic field
that goes around your body.
The HeartMath Institute has shown
that there's this electromagnetic field
that goes hundreds of feet around our body,
depending on our, I guess our aura or our energy,
but in general, the more we activate our heart,
the more magnetic this energy is.
This is what the HeartMath Institute has shown.
Now, when it comes to being unforgettable on a date,
one of the things I wanna express to you
is that if you clicked on this video,
and there's an intention on being unforgettable,
the thing I'd like to ask you
is something that might go a little bit deeper
than the surface of this,
but it gets to the root of what this is really about.
Is there a belief or is there a story inside
that says that people either forget about me
or people leave me
or people just don't see the magnificence that I am?
Because remember this, people feel what you feel about you.
So, with going out on a date,
it's not about making someone else see something about you
or somebody else feel a certain way about you.
It's about you feeling a certain way about yourself
and you appreciating yourself and you being in that energy,
because that will then mirror back a reflection
that is what you're desiring,
or at least it'll be you being in your own unique energy
and it'll feel authentic and it will be magnetic.
So, the difference between,
this makes everything, by the way,
the difference between these different perspectives,
because if we're trying to be unforgettable
or we're trying to get people not to forget us,
because we're trying,
we're implying that we're somebody that could be forgotten.
We're implying that we're somebody
that maybe doesn't feel enough
and we're trying to prove it to them.
And when we're in the frame of trying to prove our love
and to prove our value
and to prove our worthiness to someone else,
the more we try,
the more there's resistance in the process.
And this goes back to something
I've expressed in other videos called the backwards law.
The more we try to get other people to like us,
the more messed up our energy is
and the more resistance people feel
and the less they actually like us.
But the less we give a crap,
the more they'll actually feel like,
"Oh, this person's just being themselves."
So, the main intention with the beginning part of this video
is that when it comes to being unforgettable,
don't try to be unforgettable.
Because if you try, it's implying
that it's almost like you're not good enough or something.
Don't try to be unforgettable.
Focus more on being you.
So the five things I wanna share with you,
and one of the first ones with this process
has to do with being the real you,
being the real you.
Sometimes we hold aspects of ourselves back.
We may even say, I wanna be unforgettable.
I want someone to text me back,
so, I gotta be this specific way.
I have to be more charismatic or I have to be extroverted,
even though maybe you're introverted.
And if you're just the real you
and you accept the real you,
that is more attractive than anything else.
It's almost like our own insecurities,
if we feel insecure about something,
we feel it, we project it
and then we're hoping they don't notice it,
but then they notice it
because they can feel that inaccepted energy inside of us.
But if you would just own the freckles,
if you would just own the thing
that you think makes you, if you're like,
"Oh, this mole makes me look weird or this trait.
"I'm an introvert.
"I need to be more extroverted."
If you were just to own it, that's attractive.
That is magnetic, and people remember real.
People remember real,
and people that aren't real,
they may not vibe with it.
There's people that are really driven with significance
and just flashy shit, and if you're like,
"Yeah, I don't really resonate with that,"
and you're like, "Huh," then maybe it's a good thing
to repel people that wouldn't resonate with you anyways.
So one of the things that will set you apart
is if you just give yourself permission to be real
over wanting other people's validation and approval,
and that changes a lot.
Because if you want people's validation and approval
you're putting their needs and their wants over your own,
and then they don't get to know the real.
You it's literally like cheating them out
from getting to know the real you.
So one of the things that will change everything
is starting to value authenticity over validation,
approval, and becoming unforgettable.
That's the first one.
Now the second one that I wanna share
has to do with being vulnerable.
Being vulnerable literally is another aspect of being real,
but it is so, so underused in society today
because there's a lot of surface level things going on,
that it will immediately set you apart from other people.
Being vulnerable.
Sharing parts of yourself.
That doesn't mean you wanna date and you have to be like,
"Yeah, I really don't have things together.
"I got this going on.
"My mom said this to me."
Like, it doesn't mean sharing all the embarrassing things,
but it means sometimes there's the things
that you're afraid to share,
and even though it might feel authentic to actually share.
And I know even on this YouTube channel,
when I'm making videos,
there's times I hold myself back from sharing certain things
and I can tell, wait, that's the thing I need to share.
Because when I share it,
it then opens up something in other people
that are listening.
'Cause people can feel it.
Vulnerable, literally means, like vulner means wound
and ability is ability,
so ability to go into the wound.
And if you're showing that aspect of yourself,
it's very not only attractive, but it's very real.
And I noticed for myself, like I had to be vulnerable
when I was coming out of the nice guy phase of my life,
people pleaser phase of my life.
I had to be vulnerable by actually showing
when I was dating someone
that I was attracted to them.
Because before that,
a nice guy sometimes is like, "No, I don't want people.
"I don't wanna get rejected."
They're afraid of rejection.
But because I started actually expressing and being,
being vulnerable means you could get rejected.
And some of us that have an abandonment wound,
we're afraid of being that real us.
So what ends up happening is because we're afraid
of being that real us, we're holding ourselves back,
and people can feel that pent up energy
and they can also feel that lack of authenticity.
So have the courage to be vulnerable,
have the courage to share aspects of yourself
that make you who you are,
even if it's not the most attractive thing
to share with somebody else.
You know, I'm sure on this channel, me talking about how
in the beginning of making these videos,
I really, there was a level of me
that really craved significance
and craved other people to acknowledge me,
and I wanted to grow to million followers or more
so I could feel special.
And when I share it, it's not cool to share that.
It's not, I don't hear that many other people
talking about the crave for significance
or the crave to feel validated and loved by, like,
and I share it though, and it probably is real,
and you could just feel that.
So as an example, it's like that I think is like,
"Oh, this person's real," you know?
And the third thing you can do to be unforgettable on a date
is something so many people miss,
and that is sometimes, especially people believe
that maybe are introverts that they have to be extroverts.
So maybe they go out and they're like, "Yeah, so",
and I see this a lot of times with guys that'll be like,
they just talk, talk, talk, talk, talk.
"This is what I do, this is who I am.
"I'm gonna say the really cool, slick thing
"and I'm gonna be funny
"and I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna do that."
And by talking, talking, talking, talking,
talking, talking, talking, talking,
it actually repels people.
Even if you say certain words that are unforgettable,
if you talk to much, it's not attractive.
One of the most attractive things you could do
is to actually ask questions and listen.
Ask questions and listen,
because the truth is, people love talking about themselves.
And if you're on a date with somebody
and you wanna get to know them,
but you're just trying to nervously talk
about everything that you do
and everything you've accomplished or whatever,
people feel that.
And not only that, though,
it's like become aware, socially aware of the energy
and have it be more of a back and forth.
But listen.
They say that corny saying,
that you have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
That's 'cause we're meant to be listening
more than we're meant to be speaking.
And I'll tell you though that if you start listening more,
you will have a completely different reaction
on dates that you go on,
when you ask questions and be,
"Oh, this person actually cares,
"and it's not like these other dates I go on,
"where this person just talks about themselves forever."
It will be so refreshing to people, I promise.
So listen, ask questions, be curious.
Focus on getting to know someone,
focus on connection, not on the result.
Which leads me to the fourth thing
that changes everything on a date,
that is to instead of focusing
on what you want out of it, focus on having fun.
Focus on how you feel in your body.
Say things that are maybe even self-amusing.
Like really show and have fun,
because fun energy is magnetic
and people remember that.
And when you're having fun,
I remember I've done these things even,
not just on dates, but like with friends,
where we do these scavenger hunts,
where we go around the city
and we do these very embarrassing things,
and we do it to get out of our own comfort zone.
But I remember doing this,
and it was like everywhere we went,
people were gravitated to our energy
because we were having fun.
And I promise you, if you're at a bar or a club,
I know many of you are actually from my audience
probably don't go to bars and clubs. (laughs)
Maybe you do, I don't know.
If you're at the kombucha bar
talking about your cat or something like that,
but if you're there
and you're having fun, that is attractive.
If you're in your head and you're contemplating things
and you're thinking about other things
and what you're gonna say next,
it's like, it's a serious energy.
So have more fun.
You have more fun, it will,
and drop the belief.
If you believe you're not fun,
that's the only reason
you're not tapping into that aspect of yourself.
You are fun.
You do have a fun vibe, a magnetic vibe,
and you just have to give yourself permission to feel it.
And the more permission you give yourself,
the more magnetic you will be.
So have more fun.
When I started focusing,
especially like two years ago or a year ago,
when I was dating, I'd be like,
oh, I'd just focus on having fun.
It was so different
because there's also a lightness to it.
It's not so heavy.
You know, some people going to dates are like,
"I have a list of 10 things
"I gotta make sure that they're alignment with,"
and all these heavy things,
and it puts so much pressure on the date.
Let go of the pressure and just have fun.
Focus on that, and as you're having fun
and you're feeling better inside of your own body,
it will change how you're showing up.
Now, the fifth thing I wanna share
that's kind of similar to having fun in some ways,
but it changes the way
you go about even just life in general,
but it's living for the end of itself
and not a means to an end.
So if we're going on a date and we wanna be unforgettable,
we are then not in the moment.
We're not present.
This also could be having present energy is attractive
and it is rare.
Being present inside of your own body,
feeling into your hands and your feet,
feeling the separation between you and the person
you're goin' on a date with.
This is a magnetic technique that I've shared
with thousands of people all over the world
who have applied it
and it's completely transformed their lives,
because then you can feel safe in your own body.
And when you feel safe in your own body,
that is a magnetic, attractive energy.
Now, living, like, living in the end
and not a means to an end
means that it's not like I'm gonna go on this date
to then meet the soulmate and everything's gonna go well,
and all this expectation.
It's moreso you go on the date
because you're choosing to go on the date
and you wanna have fun.
You wanna enjoy yourself.
It's saying things not because you have to be funny
and get them to laugh,
but it's saying things because you wanna say it.
If you're washing the dishes, as another example,
and you're like, I'm washing the dishes to get shit done
so I can go onto the next thing,
but if you wash the dishes just to wash the dishes
and you feel the water against your hands
and stuff like that, it becomes like a meditation
and time goes by very fast.
The same thing when you're on a date.
So don't try to rush it.
Don't try to get,
I need them to text me back, I need this, I need that.
Instead focus on enjoying the moment,
and as you enjoy the moment, you'll notice
you have a completely different energy about yourself.
Now, one of the things that affects magnetic energy
more than anything else is having confidence.
When you are confident about yourself,
when you feel secure in yourself,
when you remove the doubt, the fear, and you're able to be
the bold version of you you came to be,
you are extraordinarily magnetic.
Now, something that we're doing on July 1st to July 21st
is one of the most powerful types of processes that I do,
and I do 'em only a couple times a year.
So if you wanna join,
now is the time to join a 21 Day Confidence Love Challenge.
This is around self-love,
around reframing a lot of the flaws we believe we have,
feeling secure within our own attachment style,
secure within ourself, feeling safe in our own bodies,
safe in our own frame,
releasing codependent patterns.
There's many levels to this
that we're gonna be going through together.
We're gonna be doing it through live coaching,
live interactive exercises on Zoom.
We're gonna be bringing in guest speakers.
We're gonna be having a community
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We're gonna be using group intention.
And if you've been a part of the 21 day challenges,
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But this isn't just watching YouTube videos over 21 days.
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and what this will do is is help you
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It's like a permission slip
through the group work that we do to do that.
So I'm super excited for that.
That's coming up soon for July 1st to the 21st.
And then also, if you want a video
that will help you understand more
about how to feel confident and magnetic,
this video right here will help you do that.
People feel what you feel about you.
The energy inside of our bodies are contagious,
and based on how we feel about ourselves,
that energy is being emanated out
and other people are responding to us based on that energy.