- Hey, what's up? It's me, Jessica J.
I was just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself, "Jessica, what are the top signs
that she's cheating on me?"
Well, I'm glad you asked because I did do a video on this
about two years ago, but back then,
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and I didn't get lash extensions
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That part always fucks me up.
Okay. So like I said, I do have a video about this already.
It's called "The Six Signs", but you know,
I kind of narrowed it down to these top three,
which are dead giveaways and all the women who cheat
absolutely do these.
However, it doesn't necessarily mean
that because she's doing these,
she is cheating on you.
It's kind of like the example I gave
in the video two years ago, which is if I am PMSing
I am absolutely fucking crying.
However, if I'm crying, I am not absolutely PMSing.
Does that make sense?
So I'm going to get right to the chase with this one,
the first sign is that she doesn't argue with you anymore.
I'm telling you when a woman argues with you
it's because she cares enough to fucking argue with you.
You occupied this space in her heart and her mind
that makes her want to make things right.
That's what arguments are.
Arguments mean I don't feel seen,
I don't feel heard, I don't feel validated,
I don't feel like you care about me.
If she is getting seen, heard, validated, respected,
cared about, pounded out by somebody else
she's not going to care if she gets those things from you.
So no, she won't argue with you anymore.
This is why a lot of guys get blindsided
when they are getting cheated on
because they're like, "Oh my god,
look we're arguing anymore, things are so great."
Or guys that get so great that they never had an argument,
that's never a good sign.
As a therapist, we always used to think
that was one of the biggest red flags
when couples would come into therapy it's like,
oh god, they don't argue.
Because when a woman argues with you,
it means she cares enough and feels enough
for you to hear it.
And if she's caring and feeling for some other dude,
she doesn't care if you hear it at all.
Which brings me to the second one, which is,
she's not opening up to you as much anymore
about her feelings in general.
Maybe she used to come home and complain about her day
or her bitch of a boss,
or maybe she used to sit there and ask for your opinion
about every little motherfucking thing
that she has to do in her life.
Like, do you want this? Do you want this, honey?
Do you want this? Oh, should I make it like this?
And now you're noticing simple things like that,
things she used to complain about,
things she used to want an opinion about
she doesn't come to you about it.
When a woman is opening herself up emotionally
or physically to another man,
we very naturally shut down to other men.
It is in our biology to emotionally attach to the person,
possibly implanting his sperm in our puss.
Did you know that over the years,
babies have evolved to look more like their father
in the initial days so that the father doesn't abandon
or kill them?
'Cause back then, that's what would happen.
If a man saw baby coming out the vadge
and he was like, "Oh, that looks like Boris in Clan Five."
He would either peace out on the baby
and the lady would be left, you know,
fucking cold, lonely, and get killed by T-Rex's
or he would just fucking kill the baby
'cause he had so much rage and testosterone
from knowing that Boris in Clan Five
done did that to his lady,
which is why we women have evolved to be like,
okay, no, I will only want this man,
'cause I don't want to watch my baby get murdered.
Okay, now that I'm done talking about
the most morbid topic I've ever brought up
the third sign is she's buying new underwear and lingerie.
Just like men, they're telltale sign
is going to the gym more often.
We, women don't necessarily go to the gym,
but we do want to be perceived as sexy
because cheating is about feeling desired,
feeling wanted in a pound town sort of way.
It's about feeling wanted in ways
that she no longer feels from you.
And now that someone else is making her feel that way,
guess what she wants to cater to and cultivate
these feelings she now has for this other man.
So she's gonna, you know, do what she needs to do
to make him want her even more
because those feelings are so addictive.
I'll tell you right now, though,
we're not all meant to stay in that honeymoon stage.
A lot of people think that they're like,
"oh, my god, like he doesn't wanna fuck me
every like five seconds a day now, it must mean
that he doesn't love me anymore."
Or even, " Oh my god, she used to try to blow me in the car
like every fucking time we got in the car,
like maybe there's just like no passion,
or chemistry anymore.
We don't love each other anymore."
People confuse this very biological dependency,
again, back then we needed all these heightened hormones
and we needed to copulate immediately
because we could die any second.
And you know, we should propagate the species and shit.
It wasn't meant to last. It's not meant to sustain.
Our emotions and our hormones make us
crazy, irrational human beings
and that does not a functioning lifestyle make.
However, if you just stop dating your woman
and stop creating chemistry
and stop making her feel wanted,
don't be surprised if she, you know,
is more susceptible to being okay with feeling wanted
by other men.
That's why I always say "Speak to Spark Arousal"
is more so beneficial for men in ruts
in relationships and marriages,
because it is about bringing that spark back.
And it is so much easier to do it
when you do have this connection.
However, how many of us are actively making connections
with the people, you know,
who become our roommates or who become our friends.
So if you know that you got a girl
that you don't ever want to mess around on you with what?
If you know you got a girl that you don't ever want
messing around on you,
don't forget to check out my "Speak to Spark Arousal"
which shows you exactly how,
step-by-step to create that chemistry,
to create that passion, to get her hungry for you
and only you and your penis.
And if you haven't yet, you can check that out
at SpeaktoSparkArousal.com.
Be on the lookout for these three signs.
And if you do see these three signs, again,
it doesn't necessarily mean that she's cheating.
It means that you guys have to have an open dialogue
about what the fuck is going on.
Thanks for watching as always, and I'll see you guys next.