- By being a challenge for him,
all you are doing is complimenting him
with your feminine energy.
You are letting him lead, conquer, court and pursue.
You are allowing him to feel like a man.
Same as you enjoy feeling feminine,
same he enjoys feeling masculine.
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Ladies, men like a woman who is a challenge,
who is not easy to get,
who they need to pursue and fight for.
There are a couple of reasons for that,
such as men are hunters,
therefore they do not appreciate easy.
What comes easy goes easy.
By being a challenge for him all you are doing
is complimenting him with your feminine energy.
You are letting him lead, conquer, court and pursue.
You are allowing him to feel like a man.
Same as you enjoy feeling feminine,
same he enjoys feeling masculine.
A lot of people look at these steps as playing games,
yet it's not playing games.
It's just complimenting each other
by fulfilling one another's love needs.
And our love needs are different
because we are not the same sex.
Let me share with you what are five dos and five don'ts
in being a challenge for a man.
Therefore, let's start with five don'ts first.
So number one, do not say I love you first, why?
Because that's pursuing a man.
He will see you as you are too interested,
the challenge will be gone,
there will be nothing to pursue anymore
and he will start to pull away soon.
Ladies, always, always, always let a man
to say I love you first.
After you can reciprocate, but do not say I love you first.
Trust me on that.
Second one, do not pursue him first
for affection or intimacy.
I see often ladies on the train being all over their guy.
Nearly marking their territory.
And so many times a man just looks so awkward
with a woman next to him behaving this way.
Literally you can see girls stroking their hair,
playing with their ears, having their around him.
And the guy literally is sitting there totally uninterested,
being on a phone, ignoring all her moves.
Whereas ladies, if you see a man pursuing a woman,
if you see a man having his hand all over his girl,
or a man playing with her hair,
you can see how the girl is being receptive towards that.
Why?
Because she is enjoying him pursuing her.
If a man would be enjoying a woman pursuing him like that,
he would not be sitting there still
and looking totally awkward on a phone,
he would be reciprocating also.
But in majority case they are not.
The third one is do not ask him out first.
This is again pursuing a guy.
Especially I see there's ladies doing it
after the first date or the second date,
'cause we think, oh my God he's not texting me
so maybe he didn't like me.
I need to show him that I liked him
so he has the courage to ask me out.
Maybe because he made the first move,
maybe I need to make the second one,
it's equality, it's 50/50, we are all the same.
And this is, ladies, how we fall into the trap
and the guy gets turned off.
Therefore, ladies, let a man lead
and let him ask you out first on that first,
second and third dates.
The fourth one, do not call him first.
Calling a man is, again, attention seeking.
It's pursuing, it's showing how much you are into him,
how much you are thinking about him.
This is the opposite of being a challenge.
Instead, give him space and time
and if he wants to call you to pursue you,
ask you out or have a conversation, let him do that.
The fifth one is, do not text him first.
I see ladies always making these mistakes.
We don't ask a guy on a date, we don't call him,
but we continuously text him first.
Don't call him first, don't say I love you first,
don't ask him on a date, don't be affectionate to him first,
and do not text him first.
Let him pursue you over text also.
And for texting, ladies, I have an incredible video for sale
that I'm sharing all the texting secrets there are
how to keep a man attracted to you via text,
which I will drop down for sale
in my video description below.
Now that we are aware of the don'ts,
let's talk about the dos.
The first do is, do control your emotions.
I cannot describe, ladies, how important it is
to control your emotions.
By controlling your emotions, I mean by being mature,
by being in touch of yourself,
by not overreacting to things.
Ladies, if you're continuously overreacting,
being aggressive, shouting, screaming,
showing all your emotions,
you're actually acting really immature
and he's just not gonna take you seriously.
Yet, if you are calm and collected
and are in control of your emotions,
this is when he'll see as secure, confident and mature.
He will look at you as a challenge
as he will not be able to read you.
For emotional control I also have another video
up for sale down in my description box below,
or you can check out the free one right here.
The second do is, put yourself first.
Ladies, if you want to be a queen
you must put yourself first.
You must put your goals, dreams, ambitions first.
You must be focused on you first.
When you focus on you first,
this is when the guy automatically starts
putting you first also.
When you focus on him and you make him into your king,
this is when he starts putting you as second.
When he starts putting you as second and him first
because you're putting him first,
automatically he will start taking you for granted.
What to do so he wouldn't take you for granted?
Check out my video right here.
Third do is, set healthy boundaries in the relationship.
And I see especially nice girls struggling with it so much.
There so is so many people in this world
who just are too scared to say no.
No is showing people that they cannot walk all over you,
they cannot take advantage of you,
they cannot use and abuse you.
Therefore setting in healthy boundaries in the relationship
where he has behaved in a disrespectful manner is a must.
If you will not set healthy boundaries in the relationship
he will continue disrespecting you each day more
and more and more and then eventually your relationship
will fall apart because he'll lose love and respect for you.
Because ladies, if you do not set healthy boundaries
in the relationship, you're showing to a man
that I don't respect myself, I don't value myself.
Because I don't see my own value and worth
and I'm more focused in pleasing you.
Ladies, when you behave this way
a guy lose all their respect for you
and starts walking all over you,
take you granted, disrespecting you.
Without respect there is no love.
No man will love a woman who does not respect herself.
And how to set the healthy boundaries in the relationship,
check out my free video right here.
The fourth do is, make yourself happy.
Ladies, it's not up to the guy to make you happy.
It's up to you to create your own happiness,
to make yourself happy.
When you will be happy, when you will make yourself happy,
this is when he will want to spend more time with you
because he will see that you're not depending on him
to make you happy.
Happy people are attractive.
When you're happy your friends are calling you,
the family is calling you, your boyfriend is calling you.
When you're unhappy and you're relying on others
to make you happy, nobody wants to be around you
because you're sucking their energy out,
you're being needy, you're being dependent.
Like a leech draining their energy.
Therefore make yourself happy.
Your happiness is your responsibility, not his.
The fifth do of how to be a challenge is be independent.
Especially financially.
Ladies, I do not believe in 50/50, right.
A happy relationship is not 50/50
because we are not the same sex, we are different.
You know, there is guys are there is women
and we are here to compliment each other.
However, if you will be dependent on a man financially,
this is when he will start to feel very secure,
very confident and very likely will start to
take you for granted.
So yes, let a man be a man, let him pursue you,
let him chase you, let him invest into you,
let him sweep you off your feet,
pay for that dinner, take you out and so on.
But do not depend on him financially.
Have your own job, have your own business,
have your own finances.
So he is aware if things go wrong,
if he disrespects you, if he is rude to you,
you can take care of yourself
and you can walk out that door.
Why it's so important to be financially independent?
I have an incredible video which I did
with my finances coach, Heather.
She is a total queen and you can check out our video
by following the link right here.
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