What's up, gentlemen. Welcome to another episode of Mantelligence.
Women are complex creatures, and talking to them is a tricky thing.
Texting them? Not an easy feat either. In today's video, Kaye, Larry, and I are
breaking down texting tips and teaching you how to
keep a text conversation going. We made a similar video over at our
Mantelligence Dating channel, where we give a rundown of
texting rules every guy should know. I told you texting girls isn't easy,
and you can't have too many pointers. By the end of this video,
we're also revealing the number one thing you shouldn't do when texting a girl.
If you want to learn how to spark a great text conversation, keep watching.
5. The Three Questions Game
When a girl is showing signs she wants you to talk to her,
all you really have to think about now is how to keep a text conversation going.
Texting a girl you like for the first time can be pretty nerve-wracking,
not to mention awkward, especially if you have no idea how to talk to a girl in the first place.
Here's a fun and simple game that works as a great text conversation icebreaker.
The Three Questions Game is a relational psychology game
introduced by spiritual influencer and Author Teal Swan. According to her,
the Three Questions Game is a great way to get to know someone and get a sneak peek at
their subconscious mind. Plus, girls love these kinds of stuff, so I’m sure they’ll enjoy playing
this one. To play this game, she needs to answer three questions: her favorite color and
three deep reasons why; her favorite animal and three deep reasons why;
her favorite form or body of water and three deep reasons why.
The important thing here is to get her to answer as deeply and thoughtfully as possible.
For example, her favorite color is blue. A good reason would sound like
"it's calm, powerful, and reliable" and not "because it's the color of the ocean."
Now the secret here is that her answers actually symbolize something else.
Her favorite color represents the truth about how she sees herself and her personality.
This will help you decide if she's the type of girl you like.
Her favorite animal represents the traits they would like in their perfect mate.
If she says her favorite animal is a dog because it's sweet, loyal, and smart,
and if you're exactly what your crush describes, you're in luck.
Her favorite form, or body of water, symbolizes her view of her sexuality,
so if she answers lake because it's open, freeing, and deep, you'll know how she is in bed.
Interesting right? You can even ask
her follow-up questions about her answers so you'll have more to talk about. Try it out.
Don't know whether to talk to a girl or not? Watch this video where we break down all the
signs she wants you to talk to her. 4. Focus Early Texts on Making Plans
Once you've made contact, one of the most important
texting rules every guy should know is to focus your early
text conversation on making plans.
According to Christine Hassler, author of 20-something, 20-everything,
too much pre-date texting smothers any spark you might have on your actual first date.
In fact, during their focus groups, Ansari and Dr. Klinenberg also noticed a texting trend
they dubbed the "secretary problem," where potential couples would spend so much time
trying to "pencil each other in" that they would burn out,
and the spark would fizzle before the first meetup.
If you're wondering how to text a girl you like, according to Vanessa Marin,
a licensed marriage and family therapist, in order to avoid the "secretary problem,"
make specific plans. Instead of texting, "Wanna do something this weekend?" say,
"Hey, I'd love to take you out for dinner Wednesday night."
If you can reference back to a conversation where you talked about a restaurant
or type of food you both like, even better. You can say something like,
"Hey, how about dinner at that restaurant we talked about on Wednesday night?
Around 8-ish?" Remember, texting should be the prelude to a conversation,
not the conversation itself. Don't know how to text a girl for the first time?
Check out this video where we break down all the texting rules
every guy should know. 3. Share Playlists
Ever wondered how a girl wants you to text her? Generally, girls love it when guys ask about their
life, hobbies, interests, favorite food favorite movie, taste in music, etc.
This tells them that you genuinely want to get to know them.
If you've been watching our videos for a while now,
you probably already know that people love talking about themselves
and that self-disclosure or sharing something about yourself with another person
is a great way to increase bond and attraction toward each other.
If you've been wondering how to text women and how to keep a text conversation going,
the best kind of self-disclosure is sharing music. In fact, many researchers believe that music plays
a significant role in strengthening social bonds. In a 2013 review of the research on music,
Stefan Koelsch, a music psychologist
at the Freie University Berlin, described several mechanisms through
which music impacts our ability to connect with one another—by
impacting brain circuits involved in empathy, trust, and cooperation.
Listening to music together also releases oxytocin in the brain.
According to psychologist Shahram Heshmat, oxytocin, also called the "trust hormone"
or "love hormone," enhances the brain reward system in response to love and social bonding
and contributes to a long-term relationship. So the next time you have a text conversation
with a girl you like, ask about her favorite
songs or ask her to recommend one for you. Spotify even lets you create a playlist together
and listen to music even when you're miles apart. Don't know how to text a girl?
Watch this video where we teach you how a girl wants you to text her.
We have two more items coming up, but before we continue,
I just want to remind you that by the end of this video,
we're also revealing the number one thing you shouldn't do when texting a girl.
If you want to learn how to spark a great text conversation, keep watching.
2. Cliffhanger Texts If you've been wondering
how to keep a text conversation going, I have a trick that will keep a girl
on her toes and excited for your messages- cliffhanger texts. Cliffhanger texts are kind
of like sentences that are interesting or thrilling enough to pique a
girl's attention and curiosity. The trick is to make her wait for
your answer and comeback with a really good one so she'll always anticipate your text messages.
But don't do this often because you don't want her to think you're playing her.
Examples of these are: The craziest thing happened to me today,
I have to tell you about it; Seriously, you are going to laugh so hard! I have to tell you;
You know what I like about you? And my personal favorite-
"would you like to know a secret?" If she says yes,
you can go on and tell her that you like someone and describe her a little bit.
That one almost always gets a laugh and a reply back.
1. Never Just Say Hey Here's one of the important
texting rules men should always remember. Of course, you got to have substance
when talking to a girl. You might think that a hey,
hi, or hello are cute, but it's not. As Ansari and Dr. Klinenberg explain,
the "hey" text seems like a perfectly harmless message to send,
but that one word says a lot more than you realize. It's generic, dull, and lazy.
It makes the recipient feel like they're not very special or important,
and it makes you, as the sender, seem the same way.
No information is being shared, nothing is being asked of the recipient,
and it's incredibly easy to ignore. Now that you know how to keep
a text conversation going, it's time to reveal the number
one thing you shouldn't do when texting a girl. Gentlemen, never be too overbearing. It's a text,
so keep it light. Don't send unsolicited nudes,
flood her with messages, send a booty text, or text her when you're drunk. That's just tacky.
Do you know any more texting rules you think men should always follow?
How do you keep a text conversation going? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.
We hope you enjoyed today's episode. Sparking a great text conversation
with the girl you like will be easy as pie as long as you
follow these tips. Don't know whether to talk to a girl or not?