Matt: Have you ever been called a nerd, a dweeb, or a dork? Or maybe you just kind of see
yourself that way? And maybe you've wondered do women really like nerdy guys?
Well if you saw Josiah's video recently where he interviewed adult stars one of
them actually said that she loved hot nerds, and most of my students are
computer scientists or engineers. So it got me thinking - What are the qualities
of a nerd that women don't like? Because it's definitely not the stereotype that
beautiful women like. Nerds. And what can you do to change that without changing
who you are? Well my name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and today I want to
dive deep into the root cause of why most nerds don't date beautiful women,
and how you.. probably a nerdy guy.. can meet, attract and date women that you
probably deem as way out of your league while still keeping all of your nerdy
charm! Let's dive in.
What's interesting is the definition of nerd according to Webster's dictionary
is: "An unstylish, unattractive and socially inept person especially one slavishly
devoted to intellectual or academic pursuits. Being smart and intellectual is
not gonna hurt your chances with women. in fact it can give you a one-up on other
guys and it could make you more successful which is something women
usually like but being unstylish socially inept and unattractive not
gonna win you the lady so let's change those three qualities about you then
trust me man you can do even better than attractive
guys who don't see themselves as nerds now you probably didn't know this about
me but I definitely considered myself a nerd back in the day because I'm an
Eagle Scout and I used to get teased about that all the time in high school
from my less nerdy friends I was a junior marshal back in high school I was
head of flag duty in grade school and I have a bachelor's degree in information
and computer science all pretty nerdy accomplishments most would say so now
let's talk about those three unattractive qualities that most nerds
have and how you can transform them so that you can be a hot nerd number three
is the nerd look the stereotypical nerd look is just not attractive think of
revenge of the nerds nerds typically just have no fashion sense and they just
don't seem to care about their look or their fashion or even their hygiene
sometimes and women can see that as okay he doesn't take care of himself how
could he take care of me so you don't have to lose any of your intelligence or
your nerdy hobbies such as playing video games or going to Star Wars or Star Trek
conventions just start dressing better in fact there's a stylish stereotype
called geek chic which is basically hot nerd which is good news for you because
it doesn't mean you need to throw away your entire wardrobe you just need a
little bit of an upgrade so check out some of these examples of geek chic
by the way man if you're not ready subscribed to this channel what are you
doing hit that subscribe button click that Bell notification icon so you don't
miss a thing and make sure to follow me on Instagram I would love to chat with
you alright let's get back also the good news is you don't need to be buff nerds
are also usually seen as scrawny and back in my I guess dirtier days I was
only 135 pounds I'm about 165 pounds now and as you can see I'm not buff I'm not
a jock by any means I'm still very thin I'm just not scrawny so don't worry it
doesn't mean you have to spend six hours every day at the gym but if you just
spend one hour three or four days a week lifting heavy muscle it will do wonders
for your physique and think about it do you want a woman to be turned off when
she sees you naked either being scrawny or being overweight or do you want her
to be turned on I remember the first time I ever saw a woman look at me
without my clothes on and go like wow like touch my body that was one of the
best feelings in the world but he was the truth even if you don't work on your
style and you don't get in shape if you just own your nerdiness and do the next
two things that I'm about to tell you even if you look physically unattractive
you can still be mentally attractive and still get the girl so number two is
analysis paralysis because most nerds are smart guys and smart guys tend to be
very analytical and they overanalyze everything analysis is great when you're
working on a computer program or you need to dive deep into a problem but
when you're actually connecting with another human being if you're in your
head analyzing what you should say or analyzing what they just said and
computing it and trying to think of the best line she's gonna tell she's just
gonna notice something's off like you're not truly listening to her because
you're in your head analyzing and trying to say the right thing and actually
turns her off because she feels like you're not actually there with her
you're not actually there listening to her and it's just little
micro-expressions that that her subconscious brain will notice like your
reactions are just a second or even a millisecond off it's not something that
she consciously notices it's something that's beneath the surface which is why
we show analytical guys probably like yourself how to get out of their head
and get more into their body so that they can feel the interaction with her
instead of analyzing it and one thing you can do right away that will help you
with this is start a meditation routine meditate every single day for at least
10 minutes and I recommend doing it twice a day once in the morning and once
before bed 10 minutes each and not only will you feel more present and grounded
right after you meditate but it'll also help you be a more present more grounded
guy instead of all up in your head in the long term so I'll put a link down in
the description to a video that our inner game expert here at the attractive
man made recently of an alpha meditation that you can start doing that's gonna
help you get more grounded get more present and help you connect with people
trust me man if you start doing this every day it will make a huge difference
and most people even notice the difference in just a few days finally
number one the most unattractive quality that a lot of dirty guys have is that
you are weak and I don't mean just the stereotypical scrawny weakling nerd
that's portrayed by the media what I mean
really is that you're weak on the inside you're weak minded and weak emotionally
and a woman does not want she cannot be attracted to a man that she can walk all
over which is why women often test men they say or do things that kind of throw
the guy off because they're testing is he a strong man that can handle anything
she or the world throws at him or is he a weak man that's gonna crumble and get
all emotionally affected by anything she says or does because think about it a
woman's nature she wants a man that can protect her and how can you protect her
if you're afraid of her if you can't even handle her
so attention test as I like to call it is anything that a woman says or does
like oh I have a boyfriend or no I'm not gonna give you my phone number or just
flakes out on the date something that she does so she can quickly see are you
a strong man or you a weak man are you gonna get rattled
and get all butthurt over the smallest thing or is it just no big deal
think of like the action heroes in a movie they're pretty much always an
attractive guy and they can handle the tension it's you know usually people
fighting them or shooting at them but they take control of the situation they
don't freak out and uh run for the hills they take action and they fight back the
good thing is you don't have to fight a war or be an action hero to be that kind
of man you just need to be calm and grounded when things don't go your way
in the interaction with her because it's not all gonna be perfect she's not gonna
say yes to everything she's gonna be a little bit of a challenge at times if
she's a high quality woman that has a lot of men chasing her she needs a way
to sift through all of them to figure out who was a real man or not so how do
you practice this how do you become a man that can handle that tension when a
beautiful woman gives you a tension test to try to throw you off your game well
one way of course is just practice that's why we bring in models at our
live boot camps as well as our online mentoring programs we bring in models
and female dating coaches on our team to roleplay with you so they can help you
through all those scenarios and situations when it comes to real-life
interactions and they give you feedback and help you remain calm and confident
no matter what she throws at you and next is just doing things that are
uncomfortable getting out of your comfort zone nerdy guys stereotypically
stay in their comfort zone where it's safe you know they stay home and they
read a lot and they play video games whereas jocks back in high school or
college at least are usually playing sports and lifting weights they're doing
things that involve tension whether it's the tension of that heavy weight or it's
the tension of competition in a sport they're doing things that are tough and
painful which is why the media portrays jocks as more attractive than nerds
because jocks are constantly getting out of their comfort zone constantly
challenging themselves physically and mentally
whereas nerds are staying where it's safe so one thing you could do of course
is start playing sports and start lifting weights like I mentioned before
or start taking a box or martial arts class this will toughen
you up but even something you can do right now is start taking really cold
showers or ice baths now I know that sounds kind of silly but it really has
the same effect you're stepping into tension something that feels really
uncomfortable for a short period of time and if you can just condition yourself
to do uncomfortable things and put yourself in uncomfortable situations
that are safe of course make sure you always remain safe that it will build
confidence over time and you will develop mental toughness just like
approaching beautiful women most nerds don't approach beautiful women because
it's out of their comfort zone and they'd much rather stay where it feels
safe whereas confident guys are much more likely to see a beautiful woman and
actually go talk to her and we have a new inner game program
that we actually just developed that will help you develop mental toughness
and overcome any of those emotions and feelings and thoughts that are holding
you back from anything in life including going to approach a beautiful woman or
going to take action this is specifically designed for nerds for
engineers and for analytical guys to help them get them out of their head and
into your body so that instead of over analyzing everything you can just take
action and achieve the life that you've always wanted instead of being stuck
where it's comfortable inside your comfort zone so I'll put a link down in
the description for a free breakthrough session where you can jump on a call
with us and see if that program is a good fit for you or not and finally I
want to give you a bonus you need to own your nerdiness because
being an engineer or being super into comics or Dungeons & Dragons or video
games are not inherently attractive but what is attractive is when you just own
that's who you are you own that about yourself
instead of being ashamed about it especially when you're talking to
beautiful women which most nerds are don't want to tell her those things
about him even though those are some of his favorite things to do they hide it
and if she does ask like you know what do you do for work he says oh I'm an
engineer he looks ashamed about it instead say I'm an engineer and I love
it because I get to handle tough problems and
challenged myself every single day it's so much fun when you talk about yourself
and the things that you do with passion and enthusiasm even if it's not the most
super cool thing in the world it will paint you in an attractive light it will
show that you own who you are that you love who you are and that you are
confident about who you are even your quirks and even your passion for
Dungeons & Dragons or World of Warcraft or whatever so when we show guys in our
mentorship programs how to dress better how to get out of their head and more
into their body and how to develop mental toughness and overall inner
confidence they get to keep all their nerdy habits and intelligence and nerdy
passions while still becoming the best most attractive version of themselves so
if you want to get mentored by me or my team and put those three principles into
practice then make sure to jump on a call with us and we'll tell you all
about our different programs and see if you're a good fit or not and we'll give
you tons of value on the call as well figure out where you are right now and
where you want to be and how to get there in the fastest time possible so to
apply for free breakthrough session and a call with one of our team members make
sure to click the link down in the description and I also want to give you
another bonus it's my free confidence cheat sheet that gives you 18 different
ways all proven by science to become more confident more charismatic and
eliminate fear in your life because most nerdy guys they stay in this bubble they
live in fear fear of others fear of failure and fear of beautiful women so
download this cheat sheet mantas it's absolutely free and it will help you get
out of your comfort zone through simple little habits that you can do every day
and then finally make sure to follow me on Instagram and send me a DM I would
love to chat with you leave a comment down below as well because I'd love to
know what you think about this video or just leave a comment about anything
because I'll be honest it really does help the YouTube algorithms and it will
boost the video so I really appreciate it if you just leave a comment make sure
to like this video subscribe to this channel if you're not already subscribed
and click that Bell notification Icona so you don't miss any of our
upcoming videos my name is Matt artisan from the attractive man and I'll see you
in the next video